Arthur C. Brooks

No.

People listen to what the world tells them.

And by the way, parents give bad information to their kids too a lot of the time.

They generally will be.

And somebody who's going to support you in a particular career, somebody who's going to make it possible for you to, for a while, not have a career, whatever it happens to be.

And for women, it's actually a more difficult conversation than it is for men.

And men suffer in a different way, and usually a little bit later.

Men have a hard time stopping doing what they were doing to support their families admirably.

Women have a harder time earlier on because they have to make these life decisions that are in no small part biological in nature.

And these days, kind of no matter what you do is wrong.

So when my wife and I are talking to groups of young couples that are engaged to get married, and it's like, how are you going to make these decisions?

I go sit down.

Esther will talk to them about it.

She says, listen up, ladies.

No matter what you do, you're going to feel like a loser.

You're going to feel like a loser because if you stop, if you get like this big fancy education and you stop and you say, no, I'm going to – for a while I'm going to raise my children.

People are like, you're wasting your education.

What's wrong with you?

What are you, a trad wife from 1955?

And if you keep working, they're going to say, what's wrong with you?