Brené Brown

I just, I thought other people were excited about it.

And it turned out that everybody went because they assumed everyone else wanted to go and nobody voiced their real preference.

This happens so often.

It happens in team meetings.

It happens on family vacations.

It happens when friends get together and try to figure out what they want to do.

And I think we might've been doing it too, but I'm so curious to hear your reactions to the Abilene Paradox, because it's such a common and familiar example of

We're misreading other people's preferences.

We're assuming a norm existing when it doesn't.

I thought you wanted to do that.

What do you think is our worst example so far?

Or our most vivid?

Yeah.

I mean, even a simple example that just happened of, I thought we had to record in one complete take.

I thought you wanted to do that.

And you're like, no, no, I want to be able to pause and say, wait, is this a rabbit hole?

Should we keep talking about this?

We can cut that.

And we just assumed that the other wanted to just record and be done.

Time out.