Charles Lomu

Hectic city, yeah.

And trying to get used to just the hustle of the new life in the Western world.

And so I felt like my father had a lot on his plate.

And so I could see the contrast of my grandfather and my father's way of dealing with things.

My father didn't have the time that my grandfather had to sit down with me, discuss in quality time.

My father was always working hard.

When he came home, he was really tired.

And so, yeah, I just saw a big contrast in the quality time that I had with my father.

But he was a man who wanted good for us.

But, yeah, I think just the pressure was a bit much for my dad.

Well, in my father's generation, I feel like affection was something that was meant to be just understood.

Like, you were meant to look at the hard work he was doing.

You were meant to look at the fact that we have food in the fridge and to understand that he loves us.

Yeah, absolutely.

And that's so... I never really heard the words, I love you, from my father.

I mean, I think it's interesting because the word, the translation ofa'atu in Tongan, which means I love you,

We say it a lot in Tongan.

It's actually such a normal part of the way we talk.

So if someone leaves your house, you say, you naturally say, I love you.

But saying it in English, it seems so different because it's not a natural thing you would say.