Deepika Chopra

Or when they share something with us, we need to have this curated response that has all the lessons and the teaching moments in it.

And the truth is our kids don't necessarily learn that way.

Our kids learn from modeling.

And so if you yourself are open to the idea of growing and you're working on your own real optimism and you're doing that in your daily life, whether it's really small or significant.

Strides, your kids are watching this and that is how they learn.

They learn through watching you persevere through your struggle and your tough moments.

And so number one, don't shy away from showing them that process, but focus on your own growth.

And I will say something really important that I didn't say before, but this works here too, that our brains prioritize safety and survival over growth.

And so we can have all the tools, we can construct the best rituals and read all the books and listen to the podcast.

But unless you truly feel safe and regulated, and that is from a nervous system standpoint, your brain can't focus on growth.

And so the first and foremost step is to show your kids by working on yourself, how important it is to be regulated and to be feeling a sense of safety and whether that are really small.

Sometimes I will be like, wow, I saw this meme the other day and I was talking about it with a friend, but it was of like a mom answering her child and she's answered back really perturbed and annoyed.

She was like, what?

And then you see her in her face being like, okay, I want it.

That was not right.

And then she does it again.

And she keeps trying to ground herself to say it better, but it comes out the same each time because she is up to here and she's running on empty.

And so I take that a step further where I have definitely multiple times a day been in a state like that.

And I will out loud tell my kids and be like, I feel I'm running on empty.

And I need to just do something for a moment that helps me.