Dr. Harry Barry

So they end up kind of believing the nonsense that they're a failure.

So I actually teach them unconditional self-acceptance where they have to do this over a period by writing it down over a period of maybe three months where they challenged the belief that they themselves are a failure.

So I teach them that failure is part of life.

It's how we learn.

It's how we cope.

It's how we learn to adapt, to be adjustable.

And of course, if you can detach the concept that unless I'm good at something from who I am as a person, you've immediately broken the link and it's breaking that link.

If we can do that at a young age and an early age, my goodness, we can help that person.

maybe go on to have, you know, a kind of a normal, healthy life instead of being dogged by this trait, which can actually cause so much difficulties and problems.

I remember, I remember Claire, one particular, I was at some kind of, in a company and this particular, I was doing the rating exercise where I asked people to rate themselves between one and a hundred.

And I was having great crack with this particular girl who was causing me all kinds of problems.

And eventually she came up to me at the very end and she slid over her rating scale and she was up at 97.

So in other words, as she said, you can see why I was struggling because, you know, her world was all about rating.

So she only lived for her rating.

So it was teaching her to kind of change that whole approach.

And once she did that, of course, her life was going to transform.

Well, Harry, a listener would like to know whether, and a couple of questions coming in on this with people who feel they will have a perfectionist in the house.

This one wants to know, is this similar to dealing with OCD?

No, it's not.

OCD is a totally different condition.