Dr. Katriona O'Sullivan

I was like, I'm never going to be with a man again without...

And enjoying it.

I'm never going to do that to myself and my body again.

And I'm also going to take a break from men so I can actually build up my confidence and self-esteem to be able to make them decisions for myself.

And then I met Dave, my amazing husband.

And the first time we're together, I talk about it in the book, like, it's really passionate, really great, but he finishes and I don't.

And there's a moment where I'm like...

Am I going to tell him?

Am I going to hurt him?

Because the idea that the man's... And you remember thinking that.

I actually remember.

Am I going to say it?

I'm going to say it because... And it's hard to say that.

Yeah, absolutely.

I think it's really hard for women to ask for what they want in the bedroom.

Sometimes we don't know or sometimes we can't say it.

And we prefer to push ourselves aside.

And I just remember looking over at Dave, his big blue eyes.

He's so happy, smoking a John Player blue.

And I just said, that was great.