Dr. Nicole LePera

Allowing her to see what's really happening and not just this protected,

okay version who's just trudging on.

And so it's allowed more intimacy and realness in my life.

And I think that then translates to the work I do, where I'm then more comfortable with sharing, you know, vulnerably, honestly with other people in a way that the reason why I'm often sharing is to give you all of my theories of why and where things come from.

Of course, I'm

I know me the most to share that, but I share it also because I think a lot of us have a fear that we're alone, that I shouldn't tell anyone this because they're going to think I'm crazy or nuts or no one else is feeling or struggling with this in this way.

And I think a lot of us are walking around, even perhaps with successful lives and families around us, yet we have that little part that doesn't want to share because we're afraid of judgment, because we believe we're the only ones dealing with this.

So...

When I share and I'm able to then gift that to other people, just as my beautiful community is often sharing with me and helping me heal, we feel a little less alone in what we're struggling with.

I couldn't agree more.

And I think, you know, to be clear, what we're hoping to be loved around is not just the perfect parts of ourself, right?

What a gift it is when we can show someone all of ourself, our messiness, the things that we hid and kept secret and still be loved, right?

So for me, that overachiever is I show more parts of me and people don't abandon me, don't reject me, right?

Don't reflect back my unworthiness, but they stay.

I'm getting chills, right?

How healing

that is, and I think that's what love is, not just being loved when we're doing something for someone else or we're showing up as this perfect version where they're validating what they like, but when they stay, regardless, that's, I think, the love that most of us are striving for and what I hope to contribute by continuing to love myself enough to share even the messy, not as curated parts with other people.

Isn't that wild?

And so funny, too, because starting a business, this was one of the funniest things, is there was a time very early on, and still, where my team, even practically, would come to myself and Lolly, who's built the business right alongside me from the beginning, and ask us, well, how do you do?

And it's like...