Jessica Hynes

And that's right that they should and that they should be able to.

So the best thing I ever read about teens is that when you're laying down the boundaries and the rules that maybe sometimes seem a bit like extreme, what you're doing is you and you're going, listen, this is non-negotiable.

This is non-negotiable.

That is a rule.

That is a thing.

We're not going to discuss it further.

and and that and you're being really firm about it and very sure about it what you're doing is not necessarily preventing them from doing it should they decide to do it against your will what you're giving them is a really solid cast iron excuse to not do it yeah if there's a little part of them that like i don't really want to do that but i just feel very peer pressured and under pressure right that's so what you're giving them then is like um actually my parents would kill me yeah yeah oh i'm getting in so much trouble if i did that

And so, yeah, no, it's just not worth me, you know, even bothering.

So the more you can sell that as a reality to them, then the more they can sell that as a reality to people who might be pressuring them to doing something that they don't want to do.

Because the fact is, is you can't watch them all the time once they start to have freedom and advocate for themselves.

But you can give them the strength to say, you know what?

I just can't.

I'm so sorry.

Because, oh, you know what he's like?

You know what she's like?

So it's kind of good to be that a bit with all the love in the world.

It's a balance, right?

Yeah, it would.

Well, I mean, I guess you need to be able to be convincing.

Things need to be... Well, there's going to come a time, Rob, when she's going to be able to say, you're just cosplaying as actual adults.