Maria Semple

you know, all the age-appropriate men are dating women in their 30s and 40s, and they're not available, and they're just not around, and it most likely will never happen.

And so instead of bemoaning that fate or feeling like a big victim or getting angry at men, why not just make the best of it and put the coven together and devote herself to philosophy and her daughter?

And so that's the reason why I was kind of so harsh about that.

Well, it's so interesting.

I mean, I find it so fascinating because hope you don't think of as a bad thing.

Like I've never seen a cast as a bad thing, like as something that makes you afraid.

But if you really think about it, if you're hoping you want something

Yeah, as it's not, that's out of your control.

And so it does kind of put you in a sense of fear.

Yes.

That you really want the thing to be happening.

So I think that's just like a very interesting insight, and I think it's true.

Yes, I love that.

I don't know how I came up with that, but I just realized that to blithely go through being happy is not enough.

Life is short and you have to just be so grateful.

You have to know that you're in the happiness.

In the happiness and being so happy.

Like right now, I'm very much in happiness, Oprah.

Thank you very much.

I'm deeply in happiness.