Tara Mohr

We think it's coming with experience.

We think it's coming with achievement.

We think it's coming because someone's going to give us the gold star.

All the research shows confidence is not coming.

You know, there's one study that looks at executive women and entry-level women, one in 10.

say that over that time difference, they've experienced some kind of change in their confidence level.

So unless you want to bet that you are going to be the lucky one in 10, I don't think that's a great bet.

Let's assume we're going to be in the 90 that's going to continue to grapple with a lot of self-doubt.

And it does come up, right, for the reason we talked about.

It comes up more when you're going for your dreams.

So what we want to do is when we're hearing that voice of self-doubt, which basically is anything you wouldn't intend to say to a friend you really love.

If you're talking to yourself that way, you're probably hearing your inner critic.

That's right.

That is a voice in you.

And we want to start to label it as a voice.

So that's the first thing is, oh, I'm hearing my inner critic right now.

And that can just be a breath that you say to yourself, oh, okay.

That voice is saying, I'm not ready for this.

The voice is saying, there's no way I'd ever get that job.

So I'm not even going to apply.