Chapter 1: What are the six specific ways to build confidence?
Now, let's talk about six specific ways to build your confidence. Six specific ways to build your confidence. Now you kind of understand the foundation of what it actually means to be a confident person in this world, which you are totally capable of becoming. Again, you build it, right? We know that. So six ways to build your confidence. Number one, again, not again, is competence. Competence.
Competence leads to confidence. Acquiring skills and expertise in a particular area provides a solid foundation and belief in your abilities. It leads you to feel capable and sure of yourself. As you become more skilled and knowledgeable, you naturally believe in your abilities. By improving with a growth mindset, You create a deep-rooted confidence in your abilities and feel you are capable.
You feel you are capable because of the evidence and the receipts you gained from gaining competence or skills. You have receipts. You have credible evidence that you are who you say you are. And that competence builds confidence. That's very important. Number one in six ways to build your confidence, you have confidence.
Chapter 2: How does competence contribute to building confidence?
Let me get even more confused about the words competence and confidence again and again and again and again. Anyways, I just grabbed some of my own hair.
Here we go, back on track. Stay focused, stay locked, stay locked. Everyone, stay locked. Let's grab a drink, let's grab a drink, and then we'll stay locked back in. Okay, so we're talking about the six ways to build your confidence, and number one was competence.
Say competence and confidence together six times fast, go. All right, now we have number two, which I talked about this briefly, is preparation. Preparation gives you a sense of readiness, ownership, and control. Listen to any great athlete talk, and preparation is one of their number one traits.
Tom Brady, Derek Jeter, prepared like nobody else, and that's why they performed their very best when the lights, quote unquote, were the brightest. Thorough preparation grants you ownership over your endeavors and control over influencing your outcomes. It means you have done the work and dove into the details.
The confidence derived from being well-prepared allows you to approach challenges with a calm assurance that you've done everything in your power to succeed. Preparation is a key to acting confident. And if you act confident, you will feel confident, especially if in unknown circumstances, when challenges come your way because obstacles make me stronger.
And if I can prepare to the best of my ability, I will act more confidently, which will help me feel more confident. So we have competence. And then number two is preparation. Now we move into number three. It's just doing hard things, doing tough things. Again, giving yourself that credible evidence that you are who you say you are.
As you successfully overcome challenges and push beyond your comfort zone, you build resilience and self-belief. Stepping outside your comfort zone and facing challenges serve as a testament to that.
Each time you face adversity head-on and bounce back and bounce forward, first you bounce up and bounce back, then you bounce forward, that's anti-fragile, that's being anti-fragile, you build your confidence. You also build resilience and a track record of wins. Again, this is credible evidence that you are who you say you are. These are receipts that you need to build the confidence, right?
You have these receipts. Then you talk about your top 10 list. You have all these accomplishments, all these receipts. Boom, your confidence continues to grow. So the more hard things you do and successfully overcome those challenges, the more confident you get. doing hard things. Again, ohms, obstacles make me stronger.
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Chapter 3: Why is preparation essential for confidence?
And so don't listen to yourself, talk to yourself. As Shad Hellmeister says in his great book, what to say when you talk to yourself, the brain simply believes what you tell it most and what you tell it and what you tell it a excuse me, and what you tell it about, you will create. It has no choice. Hard reading quotes from a book, I guess.
You know, we're almost 480 episodes deep, and podcasting is still hard, even though it's my job. Anyways, all right, so again, Shad Hellmeister wrote a great book. It's called What to Say When You Talk to Yourself, and he says in that book, the brain simply believes what you tell it most And what you tell it about you, it will create. It has no choice. There we go. Now you understand.
The inner dialogue that's going on all the time in our head is the most important thing we have going on. Having positive self-talk as a tool in your toolbox will help you manage the adversity that we all experience. Negative thoughts really do constrict and limit your potential, while positive thoughts create space for you to thrive.
So you have to train yourself to catch those limiting thoughts and reframe them. Over time, this practice will become second nature if you're consistent with it. That's the idea right there of challenging those negative thoughts. You train yourself and to catch those limiting thoughts and reframe them, over time this practice will become second nature if you're consistent with it.
Nothing in there says eliminate negative thoughts, but it does say challenge, catch them, reframe them. When you're mentally aware and attuned to your inner dialogue, you are able to choose your thoughts, which turn into thought patterns, which turn into habits, which really do shape your identity, which shape your self-image, and your self-image
really determines how you show up when it matters most. And so what we think, we become. This is why it's critical for all of us to take control and feed our mind as many positive thoughts as we can through our own self-talk. Patreon is the home of our exclusive community where we do bonus episodes, live streams, Q&As, and merch discounts, and so much more.
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