André Duqum

And often like the things we're being driven by are usually tied to some sort of historical unconscious thing.

That's stored within us.

And it sounds like the former is way more fruitful, you know, by listening to the things we feel genuinely called towards.

And it sounds like that's what the generative drive essentially is.

How successfully in your life do you feel you've separated your internal feeling of enoughness with the external outcomes and measures of your endeavors?

Yeah.

No, that's great.

I appreciate that share.

I think so many of us can relate.

I certainly do.

I know a lot of people listening probably relate how often we collapse our success with the validation externally, whether it's money, success, whatever it is.

And I know you work with so many prolific individuals, celebrities, influencers, creators, business leaders, musicians, and...

I think it's a big theme certainly with a lot of successful high-performing individuals is that oftentimes the things that drove us to that place were either a fear of not being worthy or loved or – yeah, so it's fascinating to examine where that still lives within us.

Mm-hmm.

it's such a persistent and enduring illusion delusion that our ideal life is someday in the future like there will be a point when i finally accomplish x y and z and i will satisfy this unending hole within myself that will finally be enough you know and it feels like also sometimes one of those lessons that you need to learn the hard way yeah like

It's, it's how many bumper sticker quotes do we need to say before, you know, we, we realize what a lot of these cliches are saying about it being the journey, not the destination, et cetera.

Um, yeah, I'm just curious what, uh, how often that, that realization needs to be met and experienced firsthand in someone's life before being, you know, heard on a podcast and finally get it.

Uh, but yeah, it just seems like such a big theme for all of us.

It's fascinating to examine how many of our behaviors are being driven for a search of safety, whether it's through the relationships, the type of people we look for when we date, our career, all aspects of life.

And in that aspect, I'm curious how anxiety is actually like an adaptive response.