Danielle Elliott

in anything beyond when I really do the math it's like for four months I'm really interested I can last a year anything beyond a year the second year I'm miserable and it's a really sad way to like do that math and I don't think that's true of everyone with ADHD but when I first got that diagnosis it was like oh yeah no I can see how it affected my career it's tough to change anything now it's like you're almost 40 you're not going to restart your career but

in anything beyond when I really do the math it's like for four months I'm really interested I can last a year anything beyond a year the second year I'm miserable and it's a really sad way to like do that math and I don't think that's true of everyone with ADHD but when I first got that diagnosis it was like oh yeah no I can see how it affected my career it's tough to change anything now it's like you're almost 40 you're not going to restart your career but

Um, I can see how it affected relationships. I was diagnosed right before my 37th birthday. So I was sort of like, it's pretty late. Like it, like it would have been nice to know this at 30 is how I felt. Cause it's like, if there are ways to approach dating with ADHD that are slightly, or just things to be aware of, it would have been nice to know them when you're in like the heart of your life.

Um, I can see how it affected relationships. I was diagnosed right before my 37th birthday. So I was sort of like, it's pretty late. Like it, like it would have been nice to know this at 30 is how I felt. Cause it's like, if there are ways to approach dating with ADHD that are slightly, or just things to be aware of, it would have been nice to know them when you're in like the heart of your life.

dating, like period, I guess you could say. Yeah. And then with parenting, it was still a thing that I wanted to do. And it was like, oh, great. Now you're telling me that's going to be really hard too. Like, I just don't want to hear any of it.

dating, like period, I guess you could say. Yeah. And then with parenting, it was still a thing that I wanted to do. And it was like, oh, great. Now you're telling me that's going to be really hard too. Like, I just don't want to hear any of it.

Could have done. Yeah.

Could have done. Yeah.

Or taking your shoes off in the middle of a room or whatever.

Or taking your shoes off in the middle of a room or whatever.

I felt sort of invasive, to be honest, at first, because I was like, everyone is here. Because it's a camp for families, and it's really designed. It's like the kids have ADHD and the parents are there to learn about ADHD. But it turns out that in the last few years, all of the parents who are coming to the camp for the first time have recently found out that they have ADHD also.

I felt sort of invasive, to be honest, at first, because I was like, everyone is here. Because it's a camp for families, and it's really designed. It's like the kids have ADHD and the parents are there to learn about ADHD. But it turns out that in the last few years, all of the parents who are coming to the camp for the first time have recently found out that they have ADHD also.

And for a lot of them, I think it was just really... I don't think they would describe their typical lives, like day-to-day lives, as unsafe. But I think that I kept hearing over and over from women, I've never felt so safe and so free to be myself as I do knowing that I'm in a room full of people who understand what's going on.

And for a lot of them, I think it was just really... I don't think they would describe their typical lives, like day-to-day lives, as unsafe. But I think that I kept hearing over and over from women, I've never felt so safe and so free to be myself as I do knowing that I'm in a room full of people who understand what's going on.

And it's funny, Sari actually describes the same thing from a conference in the 90s. that it was the first time she was in a room full of adults who all knew that the others had ADHD. And so they could fully be themselves. They didn't have to try to pretend to be quote unquote normal.

And it's funny, Sari actually describes the same thing from a conference in the 90s. that it was the first time she was in a room full of adults who all knew that the others had ADHD. And so they could fully be themselves. They didn't have to try to pretend to be quote unquote normal.

And for me at the camp, there were like the first two days, my interviews with women were sort of hesitant because I didn't want to be interrupting this experience that they were having. But then as we talked more and more and they started to realize I also had it, it just became this like, It was like I was one of them, but also not. But it just, the camp was really amazing.

And for me at the camp, there were like the first two days, my interviews with women were sort of hesitant because I didn't want to be interrupting this experience that they were having. But then as we talked more and more and they started to realize I also had it, it just became this like, It was like I was one of them, but also not. But it just, the camp was really amazing.

And I think most of the credit for that is just the, it's just a product of being in the same room as other people, like being surrounded by people who you know get it.

And I think most of the credit for that is just the, it's just a product of being in the same room as other people, like being surrounded by people who you know get it.