Dr. Adi Jaffe

And the vast majority of it, you would never actually understand the depths to which it predicts your future behavior. But your brain is conditioned to do the most of its learning definitely before you hit age 12. And after that kind of just become more and more efficient in repeating that same model.

So if you grew up in a household where, and I'm actually just thinking in my head, this is just off the top of my head, but let me just show this is us.

So if you grew up in a household where, and I'm actually just thinking in my head, this is just off the top of my head, but let me just show this is us.

So if you grew up in a household where, and I'm actually just thinking in my head, this is just off the top of my head, but let me just show this is us.

There was a scene where the daughter kind of feels really alienated from the mom. And the dad would always take her to ice cream when she was young. That was their bonding moment. That's how they would bond. Every single time he wanted to bond with his daughter, he would take her to ice cream.

There was a scene where the daughter kind of feels really alienated from the mom. And the dad would always take her to ice cream when she was young. That was their bonding moment. That's how they would bond. Every single time he wanted to bond with his daughter, he would take her to ice cream.

There was a scene where the daughter kind of feels really alienated from the mom. And the dad would always take her to ice cream when she was young. That was their bonding moment. That's how they would bond. Every single time he wanted to bond with his daughter, he would take her to ice cream.

Everybody else was watching that show and thinking to themselves, man, that's really nice that he's got this moment with her. And I'm thinking to myself... He's developing a pattern where she connects connecting to dad, love, et cetera, to ice cream. Because that's the only time that they showed them connecting.

Everybody else was watching that show and thinking to themselves, man, that's really nice that he's got this moment with her. And I'm thinking to myself... He's developing a pattern where she connects connecting to dad, love, et cetera, to ice cream. Because that's the only time that they showed them connecting.

Everybody else was watching that show and thinking to themselves, man, that's really nice that he's got this moment with her. And I'm thinking to myself... He's developing a pattern where she connects connecting to dad, love, et cetera, to ice cream. Because that's the only time that they showed them connecting.

And so implicitly, without somebody actually being able to call it out, the connection between love, intimacy, appreciation, connection, and sugar and ice cream can be created. So these little tiny patterns, that's one piece.

And so implicitly, without somebody actually being able to call it out, the connection between love, intimacy, appreciation, connection, and sugar and ice cream can be created. So these little tiny patterns, that's one piece.

And so implicitly, without somebody actually being able to call it out, the connection between love, intimacy, appreciation, connection, and sugar and ice cream can be created. So these little tiny patterns, that's one piece.

next are traumas actual difficult big t little t traumas but difficult life experiences that create anxieties fears negative self-impression etc in a person and again we're talking normally pretty early although for these i've definitely had clients where during college or later on in life that a substantial trauma think losing someone almost dying in a car accident right being assaulted sexually physically emotionally

next are traumas actual difficult big t little t traumas but difficult life experiences that create anxieties fears negative self-impression etc in a person and again we're talking normally pretty early although for these i've definitely had clients where during college or later on in life that a substantial trauma think losing someone almost dying in a car accident right being assaulted sexually physically emotionally

next are traumas actual difficult big t little t traumas but difficult life experiences that create anxieties fears negative self-impression etc in a person and again we're talking normally pretty early although for these i've definitely had clients where during college or later on in life that a substantial trauma think losing someone almost dying in a car accident right being assaulted sexually physically emotionally

That's another piece. And then the last one that I really want to hit are all of us have negative self-perception, negative struggles, internal kind of struggles that we have that may not be trauma-based, self-judgment that can lead to something like people pleasing, right? Or those components.

That's another piece. And then the last one that I really want to hit are all of us have negative self-perception, negative struggles, internal kind of struggles that we have that may not be trauma-based, self-judgment that can lead to something like people pleasing, right? Or those components.

That's another piece. And then the last one that I really want to hit are all of us have negative self-perception, negative struggles, internal kind of struggles that we have that may not be trauma-based, self-judgment that can lead to something like people pleasing, right? Or those components.

Yeah, I'm not good enough. I'm always going to be alone. The world is a dark place. I got to be out for myself. Like I have a list of them actually in a whole section of the book that I've seen come up Pretty frequently, I'm not good enough. Nobody's going to love me. I'm going to be alone. And the world is dark. I need to care for myself and not other people are very, very common ones.