Dr. Adi Jaffe

Yeah, I love that example. So let's break down for a second, at least so we have common language around what people pleasing is, right? People pleasing is behaving in ways that outwardly display personality, habits, likes and dislikes.

Yeah, I love that example. So let's break down for a second, at least so we have common language around what people pleasing is, right? People pleasing is behaving in ways that outwardly display personality, habits, likes and dislikes.

Yeah, I love that example. So let's break down for a second, at least so we have common language around what people pleasing is, right? People pleasing is behaving in ways that outwardly display personality, habits, likes and dislikes.

you believe will make other people like you more get along with you more want you around more right it's kind of like projecting this outward mask saying yes to things that you really want to say no to or at least you know not a vehement kind of like hell yes to um pretending that you like things food events whatever because other people that you want to associate with yourself now

you believe will make other people like you more get along with you more want you around more right it's kind of like projecting this outward mask saying yes to things that you really want to say no to or at least you know not a vehement kind of like hell yes to um pretending that you like things food events whatever because other people that you want to associate with yourself now

you believe will make other people like you more get along with you more want you around more right it's kind of like projecting this outward mask saying yes to things that you really want to say no to or at least you know not a vehement kind of like hell yes to um pretending that you like things food events whatever because other people that you want to associate with yourself now

A lot of people might not even consider that in the realm of addiction or compulsive behavior. So let me, I want to explain what I talk about in the book. To me, addiction's compulsive behaviors are behaviors you engage in regularly. Whether you take a substance or not is almost meaningless in this, to my opinion.

A lot of people might not even consider that in the realm of addiction or compulsive behavior. So let me, I want to explain what I talk about in the book. To me, addiction's compulsive behaviors are behaviors you engage in regularly. Whether you take a substance or not is almost meaningless in this, to my opinion.

A lot of people might not even consider that in the realm of addiction or compulsive behavior. So let me, I want to explain what I talk about in the book. To me, addiction's compulsive behaviors are behaviors you engage in regularly. Whether you take a substance or not is almost meaningless in this, to my opinion.

You engage in them regularly over a long period of time, and they cause you a disservice in disrupting your ability to live a full life that keeps you happy, joyful, purposeful, etc. So if your people pleasing is done to an extent where you're literally, I'm just going to make this metaphor up, right?

You engage in them regularly over a long period of time, and they cause you a disservice in disrupting your ability to live a full life that keeps you happy, joyful, purposeful, etc. So if your people pleasing is done to an extent where you're literally, I'm just going to make this metaphor up, right?

You engage in them regularly over a long period of time, and they cause you a disservice in disrupting your ability to live a full life that keeps you happy, joyful, purposeful, etc. So if your people pleasing is done to an extent where you're literally, I'm just going to make this metaphor up, right?

But you're literally putting yourself in situations where you're hanging out with people you don't really like because you think it's the right thing to do for your social status, whatever. You're eating food you don't like because the people that you want to spend time with are eating that food.

But you're literally putting yourself in situations where you're hanging out with people you don't really like because you think it's the right thing to do for your social status, whatever. You're eating food you don't like because the people that you want to spend time with are eating that food.

But you're literally putting yourself in situations where you're hanging out with people you don't really like because you think it's the right thing to do for your social status, whatever. You're eating food you don't like because the people that you want to spend time with are eating that food.

You're saying yes to commitments, things at work, et cetera, that you want to say no to because they're harming you or your ability to like yourself when you wake up in the morning. And you keep doing this over and over and over. It's causing you pain. You've tried to block it. But the desire to be liked, the desire to people please is so high that you are unable to stop yourself.

You're saying yes to commitments, things at work, et cetera, that you want to say no to because they're harming you or your ability to like yourself when you wake up in the morning. And you keep doing this over and over and over. It's causing you pain. You've tried to block it. But the desire to be liked, the desire to people please is so high that you are unable to stop yourself.

You're saying yes to commitments, things at work, et cetera, that you want to say no to because they're harming you or your ability to like yourself when you wake up in the morning. And you keep doing this over and over and over. It's causing you pain. You've tried to block it. But the desire to be liked, the desire to people please is so high that you are unable to stop yourself.

That would qualify as this compulsive behavior pattern, right? The damage is not what people think of an addiction. You're not causing damage to your liver, even the sugar. You're not making yourself diabetic, right? It's not that kind of damage. The damage in your quality of life. You're waking up anxious, stressed out, afraid, anxious.

That would qualify as this compulsive behavior pattern, right? The damage is not what people think of an addiction. You're not causing damage to your liver, even the sugar. You're not making yourself diabetic, right? It's not that kind of damage. The damage in your quality of life. You're waking up anxious, stressed out, afraid, anxious.