Dr. Kristin Carothers

But love is not transactional. Well, for some people it is. Okay, so that's one thing. So if love is transactional, then you need to know what the currency is. My currency and your currency is going to be different. Your currency is going to be organization.

But love is not transactional. Well, for some people it is. Okay, so that's one thing. So if love is transactional, then you need to know what the currency is. My currency and your currency is going to be different. Your currency is going to be organization.

You are going to be able to, like, make sure the kids have the schedule, make sure that the cleaner is scheduled, make sure that we know what day the trash goes out, we know how much money is in the bank account. The other person's currency may be, like,

You are going to be able to, like, make sure the kids have the schedule, make sure that the cleaner is scheduled, make sure that we know what day the trash goes out, we know how much money is in the bank account. The other person's currency may be, like,

fun stuff and it can be hard when you are the person of the currency of responsibility and the other person seems like to do the gets to do the fun stuff but it's like making sure that you all are having family outings the person who has relationships with everybody in the neighborhood that might be the person who's able to make sure that they check in with the family to make sure that you all are going to have a family vacation so it may seem like one person is like

fun stuff and it can be hard when you are the person of the currency of responsibility and the other person seems like to do the gets to do the fun stuff but it's like making sure that you all are having family outings the person who has relationships with everybody in the neighborhood that might be the person who's able to make sure that they check in with the family to make sure that you all are going to have a family vacation so it may seem like one person is like

day-to-day like what's happening right here on the ground the other person may be bird's eye view and I think you've got to know what your strengths and weaknesses are in the couple so if you are the partner of a person with ADHD and you know that money management is not their thing then we don't want to put all money responsibilities on them.

day-to-day like what's happening right here on the ground the other person may be bird's eye view and I think you've got to know what your strengths and weaknesses are in the couple so if you are the partner of a person with ADHD and you know that money management is not their thing then we don't want to put all money responsibilities on them.

We want to make sure that they're knowledgeable, but we may say, hey, so we have a system and there's a budget. Your budget is this. We have a credit card that is set to this amount. And once that amount is over, we're done. There's going to be some tension there. But you're helping that person to structure.

We want to make sure that they're knowledgeable, but we may say, hey, so we have a system and there's a budget. Your budget is this. We have a credit card that is set to this amount. And once that amount is over, we're done. There's going to be some tension there. But you're helping that person to structure.

But then you're also reinforcing them by saying, like, look, since we were able to stay within our budget, we have this much more to take that vacation you wanted. You wanted to plan this great vacation.

But then you're also reinforcing them by saying, like, look, since we were able to stay within our budget, we have this much more to take that vacation you wanted. You wanted to plan this great vacation.

It can go either way. But I think really you've got to be honest about who you are.

It can go either way. But I think really you've got to be honest about who you are.

See?

See?

You think you're letting everybody down.

You think you're letting everybody down.

Let's talk about it. Absolutely. Is it that experience? I think so. Yeah, you internalize it. And I think already the research we don't technically I don't think we have a ton of it just yet. But anecdotally. I believe that many people who struggle with ADHD often have underlying anxiety and depression. For kids, anxiety and depression tend to kind of co-occur.

Let's talk about it. Absolutely. Is it that experience? I think so. Yeah, you internalize it. And I think already the research we don't technically I don't think we have a ton of it just yet. But anecdotally. I believe that many people who struggle with ADHD often have underlying anxiety and depression. For kids, anxiety and depression tend to kind of co-occur.