Dr. Sarah Wakeman

So having the only people that you sort of love and trust in your life try to cut you down to size and tell you that you're doing something terrible and set some ultimatum is actually not going to help you get well. None of us make hard changes when we feel threatened or sort of punished or not supported. We do it when we feel loved and safe and have hope that our life could be better.

So having the only people that you sort of love and trust in your life try to cut you down to size and tell you that you're doing something terrible and set some ultimatum is actually not going to help you get well. None of us make hard changes when we feel threatened or sort of punished or not supported. We do it when we feel loved and safe and have hope that our life could be better.

And so as a loved one, that's probably the greatest gift you can give to the person. Now, it's complicated because you're impacted by their behavior. So it's very easy as a provider.

And so as a loved one, that's probably the greatest gift you can give to the person. Now, it's complicated because you're impacted by their behavior. So it's very easy as a provider.

And so as a loved one, that's probably the greatest gift you can give to the person. Now, it's complicated because you're impacted by their behavior. So it's very easy as a provider.

One of the things I love about doing this work, because I've been on the other side and had family members and it's a different experience as a doctor, like whether or not my patient continues to drink doesn't impact me personally. I can just be their partner, their champion, work with them.

One of the things I love about doing this work, because I've been on the other side and had family members and it's a different experience as a doctor, like whether or not my patient continues to drink doesn't impact me personally. I can just be their partner, their champion, work with them.

One of the things I love about doing this work, because I've been on the other side and had family members and it's a different experience as a doctor, like whether or not my patient continues to drink doesn't impact me personally. I can just be their partner, their champion, work with them.

For families, there are times where the behavior becomes so unsafe that people have to keep themselves safe and set boundaries. And that's OK. I think the distinction there is that it's not doing it for the person's benefit. So if you kick someone out of your house, it's not going to necessarily help them get better.

For families, there are times where the behavior becomes so unsafe that people have to keep themselves safe and set boundaries. And that's OK. I think the distinction there is that it's not doing it for the person's benefit. So if you kick someone out of your house, it's not going to necessarily help them get better.

For families, there are times where the behavior becomes so unsafe that people have to keep themselves safe and set boundaries. And that's OK. I think the distinction there is that it's not doing it for the person's benefit. So if you kick someone out of your house, it's not going to necessarily help them get better.

But there may come a time and a place where people need to do that for their own emotional safety or well-being. But for that human being to help someone get well, and this is where earlier conversations are so important, is to really sort of love and support them and work together on it and make sure they find access to good treatment, which is out there and available.

But there may come a time and a place where people need to do that for their own emotional safety or well-being. But for that human being to help someone get well, and this is where earlier conversations are so important, is to really sort of love and support them and work together on it and make sure they find access to good treatment, which is out there and available.

But there may come a time and a place where people need to do that for their own emotional safety or well-being. But for that human being to help someone get well, and this is where earlier conversations are so important, is to really sort of love and support them and work together on it and make sure they find access to good treatment, which is out there and available.

Yeah, so many important pieces in there. I think there's so much stigma in our society about alcohol use disorder and substance use disorder. And people rightfully so feel really ashamed and secretive. And sometimes long after they've started to worry about themselves, They're scared to tell anyone else because they think someone will judge them or treat them poorly.

Yeah, so many important pieces in there. I think there's so much stigma in our society about alcohol use disorder and substance use disorder. And people rightfully so feel really ashamed and secretive. And sometimes long after they've started to worry about themselves, They're scared to tell anyone else because they think someone will judge them or treat them poorly.

Yeah, so many important pieces in there. I think there's so much stigma in our society about alcohol use disorder and substance use disorder. And people rightfully so feel really ashamed and secretive. And sometimes long after they've started to worry about themselves, They're scared to tell anyone else because they think someone will judge them or treat them poorly.

And that stigma and fear of bad treatment or judgment actually keeps people from seeking help for a long time. I think the other really important piece is that when you're removing something that has played a powerful role in someone's life, you need to fill up those spaces with other things. I think our sort of Puritan roots as a society is we have this idea that like you're doing something bad.

And that stigma and fear of bad treatment or judgment actually keeps people from seeking help for a long time. I think the other really important piece is that when you're removing something that has played a powerful role in someone's life, you need to fill up those spaces with other things. I think our sort of Puritan roots as a society is we have this idea that like you're doing something bad.

And that stigma and fear of bad treatment or judgment actually keeps people from seeking help for a long time. I think the other really important piece is that when you're removing something that has played a powerful role in someone's life, you need to fill up those spaces with other things. I think our sort of Puritan roots as a society is we have this idea that like you're doing something bad.