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I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
You will have lived your life on a journey. And what you have to answer, hopefully now and not at the end of your life, was my journey a journey worth giving my life to, right? And the thing that I don't think anybody's willing to die for is money. Hey, we'd all like to make more money, but no one's willing to die for that.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
There are things in life that you would say, this is actually a thing that's worth dying for. And so you'll go far in life when you're chasing after purpose. You will limit your ability to go in life when you are either running from pain or running towards pleasure, right? Both of those are short loops, but running towards purpose is an infinite path.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
And you can make a lot of progress that way.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
I laugh at the saying of breakups make bodybuilders, right? And it's true, right? Like guys break up with a girl and they become bodybuilders. And I've known a few that they became a bodybuilder and they went three or four years down that journey and then said, well, wait, why am I even doing... I got on this journey because I broke up with that girl who has nothing to do with my life anymore.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
I just gave four years of my life to something that was really just felt good because I was making progress, but this wasn't the journey I wanted to be on.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
I'm in front of a small audience or a large audience, and I'll tell them, I say, look, the things that you think of me as a Navy SEAL has nothing to do with me, right? Yes, I did go through their program, of course, but the reputation that the SEALs have, they had it before I ever got there, right? And all I get to do is help uphold that. I get to be a part of it.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
So I'm going to talk about, I'm going to answer that question and I'm not going to answer it maybe the way that you want me to answer it, Charles, but I promise it'll be beneficial for every audience member. I'm going to talk about two pieces that come from scripture, but you don't have to believe in scripture because to see the truth in this, right?
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
Because here's where I think purpose really comes from. The way that I see it is God made us with a purpose, but if you are into scripture, you'll be like, well, hold on a second. It says I have a purpose, but it doesn't say anywhere in here what mine is. Why isn't he telling me, okay, if I believe in God, why isn't he telling me what my purpose is?
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
Why did he put me in this place and didn't tell me what it is? And that's because really the greatness of life is discovering that. And I don't think scripture or life leaves us blank on what those things are. It's where multiple things that we have come together. And I'll talk about two things that I think will guide you into your purpose. Number one is what's in your heart, right?
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
This is like the heart is, you know, in a biblical sense, the heart is the desire center.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
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Right where your treasure is there your heart will be also the things that you desire is the type of life that you're Going to get right if what you care about most is relationships That's the types of problems you're going to have right out of the heart So the issues of life if you like those things you're going to get those kind of problems if you chase money You're going to get money problems, right?
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
But whatever kind of things are in your heart That's one thing that'll guide you the other thing i'll come back to that in a second The other thing that's going to guide you is what's in your hand, right? What are the resources that you've been given?
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
You may have wanted to be an NBA player, but if you're five foot one, maybe you're supposed to take that desire to be an NBA player and do something else with it. It was a part of where it was taking you, but maybe you didn't get the resources for that. What you and I both know, Charles, is that life isn't fair, right? Some people get given more than other people.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
But I think what makes life beautiful is when you realize it's, I'm supposed to play my part. One of the greatest conductors, I'm blanking on his name because it's a German name that's hard to remember. Someone asked him, what's the hardest position to fill in the orchestra? He said, second chair. He said, everybody wants to be number one. But it's hard.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
Really, what you think of Navy SEALs, I didn't make that reputation, but I do get to walk in it. And I take that as a, it's a weight. One of my instructors said, Early on, you know, in SEAL training, he pulled me to the side, pulled a few of us to the side.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
And everyone knows who number three and four are. You know you're a number three. But the hardest position to fill is the second chair. But what I mean, what I'm getting at is I think the greatness in life is finding the place where it's like this is exactly where I'm supposed to be. No one else can do what I'm doing.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
And so I think where that comes from is unique desires in your heart and the things that are in your hand. it's an interesting, uh, biblical story where God asked Moses a question. And if God's asking you a question or the universe is asking you a question, it's not because he needs the answer. He's, he's knocking on your forehead saying, Hey dummy, this question's for you.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
And one of the things they would always start kind of all of these like mentorship talks with is they would preface with, in the unlikely event you make it through training, because they're talking, which is like a great way to start every conversation. And the unlikely event that you make it through training, and then they'll give you some wisdom, right? Wisdom for the SEAL teams.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
So you just mentioned one of the beliefs that you and I both share, right? You're saying, hey, I got 95% more in the tank. And that's because Charles shares the belief that I do, that I can have anything I want as long as I'm willing to pay the price for it. Really, that's what Carol Dweck would call a growth mindset.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
And I had a master chief in the Navy who told me all complicated problems are just a bunch of simple problems put together.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
But until you get great at the simple problems, complicated problems will always seem complex to you. When you get really great at simple problems, you just go, oh, this is problem A, C, and F, and I know how to solve all of those individually. It just looks funky when you put them together.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
So what the journey that, that you and I both go on is us having to decide what one, what is it that I want, right? Where if you can't tell me what you want, I can't help you get anywhere that you want to go. Right. But if you'll decide this is what I want and I don't really know what I'm capable of, but I know I'm willing to pay whatever price is required for me. Yes.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
Yeah. The coaching question, the start of a progress is what do you want? But in parentheses, what do you want that you're willing to pay the price for? A hundred percent.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
Here's where you'll, here's where you'll fail in your journey is have a transactional. And this is, you know, whether you believe in God or not, faith shows up in this because when you have a transactional relationship with success, you'll never get there. You have a transactional is I will only do this if I get this back. If this is, if this is guaranteed to return to me, right?
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
When you have a perp, when you're going after something that leads you, that prepares in you a lifestyle, a philosophy of mindset that you would live sacrificially, what you can do is potentially get massive big bet outcomes in your life because you decided whether I win or lose, this is a pursuit worth following, right?
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
And he said, for the rest of your life, this will be a curse. That you're a SEAL. And he didn't mean that in a negative way. A curse usually implies a negative thing. What he meant was, you'll carry this for the rest of your life. And wherever you go, people will compare themselves to you. People will count it as a great victory if they can just beat you in a game of ping pong.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
And when you'll live in that way, only then will you reach some of these mountaintops that people aspire to. You'll never get to those great places with a transactional mindset. So you're going to have to say, this is the thing that I'm willing to give it all to. I hope I win. But even if I lose, this was the right thing for me to pursue.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
So what purpose, when you get a purpose, that's what shifts your perspective, right? Purpose and beliefs and truth, these things all connect. But eventually it's like, right? The way that you think turns into the way that you act. And so we, okay, so we shift some thinking, we've got to shift some action. And let me talk about perspective for a second.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
Really the question of your life is not like, what does everyone else see? The question is, what do you see? When I was going through SEAL training, I was one of only two in my class and are 20 years old. Most people are 24 or 25. I went through at 19. I thought I was an athlete until I met one. Then I got there and I was like, oh, those are athletes, not me. I was a high school athlete.
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A bunch of the guys in my class were all NCAA athletes. So where that left me was bottom third of my class athletically, one of the youngest people in the class. So you know what that meant? When we did peer reviews, peer rankings, I was always in the bottom third of my class. I was not as mature as everyone else was.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
And I had a lot of people tell me, from my recruiter getting into the Navy, to boot camp, to my first instructors, to my roommates, they all said, Uncle Bach, you have no chance here. How did you end up in this place? And so all throughout my journey, I'm continuing to hear this. But I'm remembering some of the things that my dad said. Now, what they're saying is true.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
I was bottom third of the class. It's a fact, right? And so they have evidence in their sayings of you don't belong here. I'm relying on some other things that I believe that are also true that maybe they don't see. We get later on in the program and we're before Hell Week. We're about to go into Hell Week. Now, let me back up for just a second.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
When we had first gotten to San Diego, which is where SEAL training happens, I got to see a class who had just finished Hell Week, right? So it's like, man, these are the guys, they did it. And this whole class of guys who just finished Hell Week They looked like a bunch of zombies. Some of them, their heads are swollen up. Some of them, their fingers are literally two or three times the size.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
They can't hardly walk. The inside of their legs and their waist is chafed, looks like hamburger meat. They're on crutches. They're coughing up blood out of their lungs. They all look like they've been run over by an 18-wheeler, and then the 18-wheeler backed up and ran them over again. That's what the whole class looked like. And I remember seeing that for the first time.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
Um, I say that to say, I know where I've come from and I know what's built me. Um, the SEAL teams helped built me and having a great father in my life who spoke into me, who cared for me, who was consistent, who took me everywhere that he went, uh, has helped shaped me into who I am. And so one of the things I'm so passionate about is helping men become not just men, but be great men.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
This was the thought that I had, Charles. I said, I'm going to finish this program, but I won't look like that when I do it. And I began to visualize for myself what completing Hell Week looked like and how I would look when I finished. Not just visualizing success, but visualizing the entire picture. And so fast forward, I've been getting all of this discouragement. And now we're on Sunday night.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
We're about to start Hell Week. And the guys start asking each other, hey, do you think you'll make it? Do you think you'll make it? Everyone's asking each other. At this point, I didn't really talk very much because when you're not popular, it's best for you to just stay quiet, right?
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
But my classmates or my boat crewmates, the guys I'm about to go through Hell Week, they ask me, Uncle Bach, what do you think? I said, I don't think I'll make it. I know I'll make it. And when we finish next Friday, um, when everyone else is busted.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
And then when we go to med checks on Saturday and people are on crutches and coughing up lungs, I'm going to go for a run by myself on the beach on Saturday. It's what I said to all of my classmates and they're like, okay, whatever. Well, fast forward, that was, that is what happened, right? I completed hell week. And then on Saturday I was perfectly fine.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
I didn't even have any chafe on my body, believe it or not, Charles.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
Yeah. Sugar, like, uh, instructors don't really call it that very much, but that is what they say to that. They did. The instructors say wet and sandy, but that's essentially what a sugar cookie is. They want you, the sand and, um, the sand and Coronado has gold flakes in it. So it kind of turns you into a snickerdoodle cookie. Uh, what they, what they want you to do is get wet completely.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
Not one dry part on your body. and then cover your entire body in sand. Not that there's sand on your clothes that the instructors say, I don't want to see your skin or your uniform. If I can see your uniform or I can see skin, you're wrong, right? So we get really good at this through lots of repetition.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
I don't, I honestly don't have an answer for that. I have no practical guide for how I didn't chafe. I can just tell you.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
That was pretty selfish. I didn't chafe in hell week. And on Saturday after med checks, I went for a run by myself on the beach and I ran down to the rocks in front of, and I got, you know, it's about a mile down there to the rocks in front of the Dell from the base. I ran down there. And stopped, you know, to sit for a minute, climb up on the rocks in front of the Dell.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
And I sat there, Charles, and I realized it didn't really matter what anybody else saw. It mattered what I see. Right. And so really one of my favorite stories in the Bible of, you know, this is history of when the Israelites come out, God takes the Israelites out of Egypt, takes them to the edge of the promised land. It's very, it's a great story, right?
I am Charles Schwartz Show
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Takes them, Hey, I'll bring you out of slavery and I'll bring you to the edge of the place. That's your destiny. It's the promised land. And so through all of that journey from slavery to the edge of the promised land, God does everything, performs every miracle. But then he says, okay, it's time for you to go on the promised land. You go and take it. And what's really interesting is,
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
I got the opportunity to do that, mentoring students going into the SEAL program. And now that I do that with guys today, helping them deploy into life in their greatest capacity.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
is at the beginning of this journey, spies go into the promised land and then they come back. 10 of the 12 spies gave a report. Hey, the land's beautiful, it's wonderful, but there's giants there, right? I don't know how we could take it. Only two men said, this is the land, this is for us. And that 10 convinced 600,000 other Israelite men that, hey, I don't know how we could take this land.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
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Thus 40 years of lapse in the desert. And so fast, again, it's a very great, it's a great story. Fast forward 40 years later, the only two men who left Egypt that are still alive are the two spies who had said, this is our land. And now they're talking to the sons of all the men who left Egypt, who died, who left the slave mindset behind.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
And they said, here's what it's going to take for you to go into the promised land, to be strong and courageous. right? You're going to have to look at your situation and say, we can do this. And the question isn't, what is the reality? The question is, what do you see in your reality?
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
Yeah. So, um, when I left the military, I worked for, I did one job. My dad told me, he says, you're going to, says you're going to, you're going to figure out really quickly. You just want to work for yourself. Um, which I did. It was a fantastic journey. Got to help, uh, do the it portion of a billion dollar divestiture did that. And then transition, they, I'm about to sign up for round two.
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And I realized I had a lot more value than what they were paying me. And I had that conversation with them. And I came to the realization that many entrepreneurs have to come to. It wasn't that they weren't telling me that you're not worth more. What they were saying was that they didn't help me understand this. My framing the situation helped me understand this.
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They weren't saying I wasn't worth more. They said the role that you're in isn't worth anymore. Right. We only pay the role this much and I can put someone else in the role. They weren't defining my value. They were defining the role's value. And what I realized was I had greater value than the role. And so what I said was, if I'm, this is what I said to myself, if you're worth it, then prove it.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
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Right. Right. If you're really worth it, you're worth it. So go prove it. And so thus I went on a entrepreneurial journey, done a few different things, started off with a ax throwing mobile trailer at the same time as getting into just trying all the things I could try, got into real estate development and construction, have loved that.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
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At the same time as I was doing construction and real estate development, I was doing coaching and speaking specifically around leadership and teamwork, get to work with people like Oracle today on those topics. And then today I lead a large men's movement in Frisco, Texas. We have over 400 guys that meet every Saturday.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
Navy SEAL Mind Techniques That Work
And today I'm also involved in a defense tech company where we're changing what the future looks like in the manufacturing realm.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
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working for someone else that was a really hard thing for me to listen to and have i want people to have some mercy for themselves if you've had that thought that you know you're stuck in the wage slave mode because some of my peers guys who leave the seal teams who are willing to run into machine gunfire i've watched them get out and they fall victim to the same thing money has a uh
I am Charles Schwartz Show
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a great level of control on the way that we think. And if you can separate the way that you think from money, you'll free yourself. I had to help some of my peers see this. I'm like, dude, you are not afraid to die. You've proven that. But you're acting like if your bank account hits 0.00 for one second that you will die instantly. I'm like, bro, you can lose all of your money.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
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You could lose it all. And I promise your family will still eat. And I promise you'll still be safe because I know what type of man you are.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
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Yeah. Let me talk about one of my favorite qualities that it's a team quality. It's leadership quality because you said it, you've got to be able to lead yourself before you can lead other people. It's from the Bible. It's also Jordan Peterson, one of his rules for life. Don't tell other people how to manage their household before you learn how to manage your own. Right.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
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Big fan of Teddy Roosevelt's foreign policy.
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It's a great rule for anywhere in life. And so if you can't lead yourself, you're not worthy of leading anybody else. And so let me, let me talk about like one of the first places that starts. It shows up in many ways. We could talk about fitness. I'll talk about for me, what I think is one of the most important leadership traits. One of the most important self-control traits, right.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
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Is that you can govern your attitude. Your attitude is your response to what happens to you, right? It's not, no one assigns it. No one makes you act a certain way. People will say that. You say, you're making me angry, right?
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My daughter, she's four years old and she loves the, she loves the inside out TV show with all the different characters of, I don't know if you know that show with joy and anger, right? And so she'll say like, you're making me angry. And I, and I help her understand. I go, no, you're choosing to be angry. I may have done things that you don't like, but you choose.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
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And this is one of those beliefs that you have to take on, that you get to choose your thoughts, your attitudes, your response to things. Viktor Frankl said, between stimulus and response, there's a space. And in that space is your freedom, which is your ability to choose. And in the military, we called this equanimity, right?
I am Charles Schwartz Show
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We didn't use a lot of $10 words in the military, but this was one of them. right? Equanimity, um, meaning, uh, it comes from two Latin words, meaning even soul or even mind, right? What that means for the military, what equanimity was, is that you don't panic when you're getting shot at. It's a pretty important, uh, trick character trait for what I used to do.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
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But what I like to help people understand is that you got to have equanimity. Doesn't matter what you do. It doesn't matter where you come from. And there's two pieces to equanimity. One side people see a lot of, which is the don't panic when you're getting shot at, right? That's a big deal.
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Meaning like that you can sustain like great difficulty, that you can sustain despair and you, that you're always going to be someone who is not a thermometer, right? Where you tell the temperature where, but where you're a thermostat, where you determine what the temperature is going to be. Things are going horrible in my life and it's not going to make me act a certain way.
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That's, that's the bottom side. I call it. No pity parties. Literally, believe it or not, this is a true story, Charles. When I was dating my wife before we were married, her father was away working and I was out of town on a training trip. And she calls me, she's living in California at the time. She calls me, she's living in California.
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She's pulled over on the wrong side of the highway in California, which is a dangerous place to be with a flat tire. And she's crying, right? Telling me her situation. And I literally, I said like very quickly in this conversation, and you would think I wouldn't be married to this girl, but very quickly in this conversation, I said, stop crying.
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No amount of tears is going to change that flat tire. I'm going to help you. Because what I knew was the longer she sat there, yes, you know what? Maybe you are worthy of crying in this situation, but crying is a risk to you. And what I cared more about than, right? Like you've got to be able to hurt your business partner's feelings. You got to be able to hurt your spouse's feelings sometimes.
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Other than that, you don't have a relationship. Relationship is your ability to walk in truth together, right? right? So I told my, I told, she wasn't my spouse at the time. I said, stop crying. I'm going to help you fix this. Cause what I cared more about was not seeing my girlfriend, future wife, get run over on the highway in California, right?
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So, Hey, we needed to stop crying because crying is going to impact our safety is going to impact our livelihood here. But there's the other side of equanimity. The other side of equanimity, uh, Charlie Munger talks about this, the late Charlie Munger. So wise. He talked about to be a great investor. You've got to be able to govern your mindset. You've got to be able to govern your relationships.
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That you can sustain despair, but also, he said, that you can sustain great success. Because success can influence you and manipulate you the same way that great despair can. And to be a leader means to, like, if you're leading yourself, it means you're directing yourself. If success is leading you, if despair is leading you, you're no longer in charge.
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And so what you've got to be able to do is govern your emotions to have an even mind in any situation and then make decisions. And this sounds incredibly hard to do, and it is. Getting shot at and staying calm is not an easy thing to do, but it starts with believing that you can.
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You'll never, you'll never, uh, be ready for that battle. If you didn't prepare to be ready for that battle. I cannot show up with you on the battlefield untrained and coach you into survival. It's too late for you, right? You're going to get whatever happens to you. What you've got to do is begin to prepare for every single one of these situations.
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The first time I got shot at, I had been there before. I hadn't actually been there before, but I had been there before. Because they had trained me and prepared me. I had mentally rehearsed when this happens, here's what I'm going to do. Everything in the military came down to like emergency procedures, right? Or EPs as we called them. When this happens, what do you do, right?
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When my parachute malfunctioned, I didn't say like, oh my God, I'm going to die. I said, okay, I need to release this piece of equipment and deploy the next one. And so it's preparation that prepares you for those moments. And so it starts with, right, I've got to believe that I can, that I can govern myself, that I can govern my emotions.
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You won't do that perfectly, but you're 100% capable in any situation you're in of governing yourself. And then you begin to train accordingly so that when these moments come, because there's two different types of men on the battlefield, Charles. There are the men who wish that the battle would never come for them.
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There are people who are hoping that the dark side of the world never shows up at their door. And then there are the other men that prepare and prepare and prepare, hoping it's never going to come, but they're 100% ready. And on the day that it does, you're like a 19-year-old Spartan young man. A great book I love called Gates of Fire. It's historical fiction about the Spartans.
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Talks about their level of preparation and training. And when a 19-year-old man stands on the battlefield for the first time, he's drooling because he says, I've waited my whole life for this moment to come.
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The moment where many people are pissing themselves, the most scared they've ever been in their life, a person's level of preparation brings them to the same moment and says, I've waited for this. My time has come.
I am Charles Schwartz Show
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Um, but I know, I know you love tools and tips, right? And so maybe some of the other seals you've had on your show, uh, mentioned this, maybe they didn't, but one of the big tools and tips they teach us is what they call the seal big four. Okay. And you mentioned one of them. Breathing is one of them, right?
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And exactly what you, there's, if you go hire like a breath coach, they'll teach you like some better breathing. But just like with working out, the best workout is the one that you'll do. With breath work, the best breath work is the breath work that you'll remember, the breath work you can utilize. So what you said before. Four in, four hold, four out, four hold. That's a four second box breath.
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That's one of the tools that they teach us, right? This is tools for extreme difficulty, right? When you're getting shot at, deploy these four tools. And they actually taught them to us at the beginning of SEAL training. They want you to have this, like they're not trying to hold you back. I practice all of these things through buds, right? It helps you get to those moments.
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So breath work is one of them. Another one is visualization, right? Similar to what, uh, what I talked about with my own visualization of, of completing hell week. You can do that in like a midterm. You can do it in like a way long-term. You can also do it in like a short term, right?
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Like you're angry and you got to step into a meeting, visualize yourself performing correctly, having the right attitude, and that'll help you step into that attitude. So visualization is one of them. Uh, segmentation is another one. So we've, we've talked about breathwork. We've talked about visualization segmentation, uh,
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is the third one and that's breaking it down into uh bite-sized chunks like the saying goes how do you eat an elephant one bite at a time well first you have to kill an elephant which is not a small undertaking but after you complete that task to eat an elephant you do it one bite at a time or as mark twain said uh if you have to eat a frog eat it first thing in the morning if you have to eat two frogs eat the biggest one first right and so but you have to make an
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Take big stuff, break it down into meaningful pieces. In SEAL training, it wasn't like, oh man, I got to finish today or only one more week. Or no, it was, hey, I'm going to make it to breakfast, right? Because they've beat so much out of you by 5 a.m. You're just like, say, man, if I can just make it to breakfast, that'll be a good milestone for today. And then the last one is self-talk. Mm-hmm.
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Two of these four specifically have a biological, physiological impact on you. Breath work is one of them. Self-talk is the other. You probably are familiar and your audience is probably somewhat familiar with amygdala hijack, right? When you start experiencing fear, you go into the weakest, smallest survival portion of your brain. You cannot think clearly. You cannot process logic.
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Small motor function goes away. Shortness of breath. And this is all you do is see red or see fear. And there's two ways to get yourself out of amygdala hijack. Number one is intentional breathing. And the other is self-talk. And so I know you probably talk a lot about self-talk with your audience. And I know you teach and train on it.
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But really, the big piece is that it's intentional versus passive. Not listening. And really, my podcast co-host, Nick, who does The Impossible Life with me, one of the first things that he... He finds me peculiar. And so he finds interesting things about me. And one of the things that he thought was so interesting is if you're around me, you'll hear me talk to myself. Right.
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Like in third person, sometimes I will talk to myself because as much as self-talk works, I've found it's even better when you verbalize it. Yes. Right.
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Yes, well, one of the things that's going to have a big influence, you know, I love this understanding that we're both a physical and a spiritual creature. And, you know, if you haven't experienced that in your life, there's an encounter coming for you where you'll begin to figure that out. We're more than just a piece of flesh. And so that's something that you have to wrestle with.
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You're going to hear it twice. As a man speaks, so is he, right? And so the four things, like four tools to address like any difficult circumstance you're in. So breath work, right? We got that visualization. You got to see it, create a picture in your mind, segmentation, break it down into small pieces, and then self-talk, start talking to yourself and start saying the right things. Gotcha.
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There's a duality within us and a lot of the natures that we have. And, um, the way I kind of see it is the one that's going to lead the most is the one that you feed the most, right?
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I would agree with that almost entirely, but I would say there's probably some wolves in us that need to be starved. There might be some natures. Contained. I would say contained.
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And people put different terms and different meanings and different beliefs behind that. But your beliefs are going to shape your life greatly. And there's a nature, there's a part of the world that we can put clear terms on, that we can call science, that we can call fact. And there's also things that we can't really explain. We still struggle to explain how the brain works.
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on the, on the nature of alcohol, really just like with the, of the duality within us, I think within most people, there's a voice of you that like, you know, would wants to consume alcohol, sees the joy in alcohol. And there might be another voice in you that says like, Hey man, this isn't good for us. We don't need this.
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And the more you lean into one, the, the, the voice changes in the other, right? If you lean into the voice that says, Hey, you don't need alcohol. Um, it does nothing for you. Right. You'll, you'll begin to hear the other voice that's screaming saying, what do you mean we could never have this again? Right.
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We still struggle to fully explain how gravity works. So there's things that we know and there's things that we don't. And what you believe about the things that you can't call certain is going to have a massive impact on your life. My personal definition for beliefs is the things that you know are true but can't prove, right? And I mean prove in a scientific sense, right?
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So how do I motivate and lead people? Help clarify the question for me.
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So I'll start with some quotes that kind of frame my parameter on leadership. John Maxwell says leadership is influence. Eisenhower said that leadership is getting people to do what you want them to do when you want them to do it and they want to do it. Right. And that's really the hard part of leadership is to get them to want to do it.
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So to be a great leader, you need to be someone who's very followable. Leadership is not just about authority. History has shown us that regardless of title and station, your authority can be taken away from you if you're not a worthy leader. And so what so what instead what you got to think is, how do I be someone that people would want to listen to that people would want to follow?
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And I think you can drill it down to two basic qualities. Number one is strength. Strength is I can do what I say. If I say I can open this door, I can open it. If I say I can climb this mountain, I can climb it. I've proven to you that I can do what I say, that I'm capable, that I have ability. That's one quality.
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The other side of that, and this is where, again, I like talking about the duality because I think there's so many natures within us that you have to learn how to work with both of them. You have the strength, but then the other side of that is warmth. And warmth is that the people on your team believe that you care about them.
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Because it doesn't matter how capable someone is if you don't think that they have your best interest in mind. If you have a few people in your life that you truly believe have 100% your best interest in mind, you are blessed and living in a wonderful life because most people don't have that.
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But as a leader, if you can demonstrate those two qualities that like, hey, I'm capable, I can do this, I can fix problems, and I care about you, that's where people will follow you. The other way, like care is such a great and important piece of leadership. The other way that you can demonstrate care if it's not specifically about your people is care for the mission, right?
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And so there's multiple ways to come across in that, but you have to have strength and warmth if you want to get people to follow you.
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I'll just mention, uh, I'll mention Charles. Um, won't, won't go into all of them, but I will talk about Charles, Charlie Keating again, died May 3rd, uh, 2016. He was, uh, someone that to me was a great leader. So much of what I learned about leadership, I learned from people who weren't great leaders, but also learned from some incredible leaders.
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Verifiable, demonstrable, repeatable. There's things that you can scientifically prove and there's things that you can't scientifically prove. I would say one of them And some people believe themselves to be lucky, right? And beliefs inform your perspective and perspective is gonna shape your life. You may believe yourself to be lucky, you may not believe yourself to be lucky.
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And Charlie was someone who was a general, you know, a phase ahead of me in his time and in his leadership and the SEAL teams that took time to speak into me that demonstrated what excellence, uh, looked like. Yeah. Charlie Keating, uh, was, he was a leader in my own life and it was, it was Very hard on me.
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If you look him up, you'll see it was very hard in the entire community when he passed because of the man that he was, but served at seal team three died in a operation enduring freedom, May 3rd, 2016.
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Um, I would say one of the quality, not something that he said, it was more so the qualities that he lived with. And Charlie was a guy that always had a smile on his face. Like I said earlier, died with a smile on his face.
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And even when I watched things in his life, not go the way that he wanted them to, when he was disciplining me, when he was just being an instructor, he always had a smile on his face. He was a guy that had a love for life, but also had like a huge dedication to the mission, which I think is. As a leader, that's one of those qualities that it makes you want to follow.
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It's one of the magical qualities I would say of leadership that makes you want to follow people because it seems like life isn't such a burden to them.
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One of the biggest lessons I learned from Charlie was how to follow leadership and follow instruction that was really poor. Um, he, you know, my, my team went through a transition. Charlie was in a team next to me, right? I didn't get along well with some of the people in my team, but he was someone that I looked up to.
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And I had people in my life that, that would tell me, find the people you admire and do what they do. And Charlie was one of those people. I, I, a lot of things that he would do the time that he got there, what he did with his time. I learned a bunch of those things from him.
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But I'd say one of the best qualities that he taught me was when, when you, when you're following a leader, who's not a great leader, it's not about their level of leadership. It's how well that you guys can all row together for their level of leadership.
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My first leader in the military was not really a great leader, but all of my platoon said, Hey, we're going to row as hard as we can for this mission. And it doesn't matter how great their leadership is. If we all row together, it was a patent who said, um, Strategy and tactics, right? Strategy is knowing what to do. Tactics is knowing how to do it, right? Strategy is take the hill.
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Tactics is like the techniques that you're going to use to take the hill. And Patton, who was known as one of the greatest strategists, he said, good tactics can save the worst strategy. Bad tactics will destroy the best strategy. So here is the greatest strategist of all time or one of the greatest battlefield strategists saying it's not about how good my plans are.
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It's about how good your level of execution is. And Charlie taught that to me.
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There's some evidence that you can put around that, but you can't necessarily frame it specifically. And for my own life, one of the beliefs that I've had, and this is something that my parents said to me all the time as a little kid, and this is just a great little nugget for you if you have kids, is you have a great ability to influence them by the things that you repeatedly say.
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Uh, best place to find me. If you want to hear more is the impossible life podcast. You can find us on Apple podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, wherever you listen to podcasts, whatever platform I promise we're on there. So the impossible life, uh, you can find me there. You can find me on Instagram, Garrett, uncle Bach. I put a lot of my like individual message and content out there.
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Uh, you can also reach me. If you want to shoot me an email, we'd love to hear from you. You can hit me up at coach at Garrett, uncle Bach.com.
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I can go back and look at my dad. I can look at some coaches, some men who helped shape my life, and I can kind of like put them in a box of five or 10 quotes that they said all the time. And so if you have little kids, you know, there were things that my dad said when I was five years old and it didn't mean anything to a five-year-old.
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I couldn't comprehend the sentence he was telling me, but he said the same thing from when I was five until I was 25. And when I was 25 thinking, I've been hearing this for 20 years, I've seen it be consistent in his life, and now it's showing up consistent in mine. It starts to have a little bit more impact. So one of the great things you can do in your children is plant those seeds in them.
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One of the things that I heard all the time growing up, it's two things, right? And I call this the infinite potential unlock. This is what propelled me through the SEAL teams. This is what pushed me into some of the new areas I'm in today. And it's two beliefs, right? Remember, beliefs are things that you know are true, but can't prove and beliefs are gonna shape your life.
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Number one belief, my parents would say it to me all the time. They'd say, God has a plan for your life, right? Meaning that like, there's a reason that I'm alive. I may not know what it is, but there is a reason. There's something that you're supposed to do. And that purpose informs like a sense of duty. I like the way Charlie Kirk says it. He says, there is a God and it's not you.
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The way I would say it is you have a purpose and the purpose isn't about you, but there is a purpose that you have. And so if you kind of grow up thinking that way, it almost sends you on somewhat of the hero's journey of like, man, there's something that I'm supposed to do. There's a part that I'm supposed to play. There's people that I'm supposed to serve. I don't know what it is.
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So I should develop myself to prepare for this moment. One of my favorite Abraham Lincoln quotes is, I will prepare... And my time will come. Lincoln knew there was a purpose on his life. He didn't know what it was. He knew he was supposed to be great. And so he prepared for it. So that's the first thing my parents would say to me all the time. God has a great plan for your life.
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The second thing they would say to me is you can have anything you want in life if you're willing to pay the price for it. And some people may, may not say that's true. I, I, um, I wrote a paper in high school about a quote that shaped my life. Uh, Henry Ford said, whether you think you can, or you think you can't, you're right. That's a belief.
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And I wrote my, uh, I didn't, I didn't do well in school because I always ended up arguing with my teachers. And I wrote a paper my senior year in high school about that quote. And my teacher said, uh, that's not true. And I said, you're right. It's all I could say to her. I said, you're right. Because if you don't believe that, it's not true for you. For me, I accepted that.
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And I said, this is true. I can have anything I want in life if I'm willing to pay the price for it. Like Henry Ford says, I think I can, right? So I'm going to go down that road. And when you put those things together that I have purpose and that I have potential, right? You're not owed anything. No one's going to give you anything, but you have potential.
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When you know you have purpose and you know you have potential, you become infinitely capable to go out and do what you've been put on the earth to do with the understanding that, me.
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yeah great great question uh there's a lot of stuff for us to jump off into that one it's you know people ask all the time they're asking hey what's this especially related to seal training you know people ask me about hard things or i have a lot of we call them tadpoles right you want to become a frogman it's a colloquialism for a navy seal you want to become a frogman so we call these guys tadpoles tadpoles want to be frogmen a lot of tadpoles they'll ask me they'll say like man what's the secret what's the secret to butts
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And if you're asking what the secret is, you're asking for the hack. You're asking how could it not be hard, right? What do I need to do so that I can do it? And so really this relates to like anything that you'll do hard in life. Most people aren't going to try to go through SEAL training, but everyone I know has been put up against something that's very challenging for them.
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So let me, I will talk through some of the simples and then I will talk through some of like my favorite part. And I think some of your favorite part too, Charles is really some of like the philosophy and the thinking behind doing these things. Well, for one, um, every single person that I saw quit and see like in hell week, specifically in hell week, but more so, um,
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in SEAL training was that there was a common denominator. I, uh, because of the way I grew up and some of the people I grew up around, like I was quite, I was questioning, you know, people in my class, like, Hey, why, why are you thinking this way? Like, what's helping you like prepare for this? And they would just start like, what the heck are you talking about?
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You know, I was quite a lot of these things I studied and questioned as I was going through, but I saw a great common denominator in people who completed training and people who did not. Get through hell week, which is like the hardest part of seal training just really quick like it starts on sunday goes all the way till friday So you're going to be awake for five and a half days.
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You'll sleep a maximum of two hours in that five and a half days You'll run over 200 miles most of that with a boat on your head Wearing a full uniform on the beach. It's it's tough, right? Go watch the buds class 234 discovery channel documentary if you want to see more about that But anyways people get through this the hardest week in military training And you ask them why they made it.
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How did you do it? How did you get through the toughest week of military training? And the people who made it, they'll begin to tell you a story about something that's not them. He'll tell you about his mom. He'll tell you about somebody in his boat crew. I talked about my dad. All of them will begin to tell you some story that's not them. Talk to the people who quit. People who quit.
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All of their answers I could summarize into this statement. I just decided I don't want to do this anymore.
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Well, and because here's what you're trying to do, right? Or people will ask, how hard is it? And when you're asking how hard is it, you're trying to estimate the difficulty level and then make an approximation that based upon what you say the difficulty level is and based upon how strong I think I am, I need certainty that I could make it through this program. Right.
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If it's hard, just put it on a scale for a second. I know I can do a seven out of 10 difficulty. So as long as you tell me it's a seven or less, I know I can do it. And when you're trying to estimate how hard it is and you want the answer to that, you are determining there's a point in which I will quit.
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Right. Whether it's getting through pregnancy, whether it's launching a business or it's going through SEAL training. If you predetermine there's a point that it would be so hard, I would walk away. There's a high likelihood that you will walk away. The other way to step into difficult things is you say like, this is what I went into the program with.
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I feel like I'm supposed to be here and I know it's possible. I'm not Edmund Hillary trying to be the first person to climb Everest and wondering, is it even humanly possible? What I knew prior to me going through SEAL training is that there's a few thousand men who've done this before. So it can be done. The only question is, am I willing to pay the price?
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And if you have something that gives you that fuel to say, especially more than yourself, right? Money is, and this is where I kind of talk about purpose and we'll transition to that a little bit is like, what is that fuel for you? What's driving you? Hey, Zig Ziglar said money's not the most important thing and it's, but it's second only to oxygen. You know what money is?
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Money is important, but there are things that are more important than that. And no one's willing to die for money. And my friend Charlie Keating behind me died May 3rd, 2016, gave his life for this country and did so with a smile on his face. He didn't do that and he didn't have a smile about it because of the $400,000 death benefit his brand new wife was going to receive.
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Charles, I'm honored. Thank you for having me. Appreciate that intro. I was built by a great man. A lot of people look at me and they go like, oh, Navy SEAL. Wow. That's so impressive. One of the first things I like to remind people of, whether it's on a podcast or
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He did it because he believed in something that was more important than himself. And so in the same way, right, if you want to go far in life, if you want to do really difficult things, you've got to attach the journey that you're on to something that's sacrificially meaningful, right? We're all going to die. Most of us won't die from a bullet, but all of us will die for something.
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And what I would say to all of them is if my opinion matters to you, you probably won't make it. And in fact, all the time that we've spent together has actually had very little impact on whether or not you'll make it. I've just been trying to make you a better man. In the unlikely event that you make it to the SEAL program, I hope you'll show up as a stronger man.
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In the likely event that you quit or fail out of the program, you're going to have to be a strong man to deal with that because it shatters your world when the dream that you had is ripped away from you. But in that lesson with mentoring these young guys, I discovered that every man and every woman is asking themselves the same question. And that question is, am I who I think that I am?
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We all think something of ourself and we're looking for mirrors, we're looking for reflections that can tell us that I actually am that person. So let me answer your question by going back a little bit to the beginning of my story. I jumped into SEAL teams in a little bit of a non-standard way or into SEAL training in a non-standard way.
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I saw the Discovery Channel documentary Bud's Class 234 on YouTube and two months later I had a contract to go into the SEAL program. The first SEALs I ever met were my instructors. That's not the standard story for a lot of people. Most students, the average age is 24 years old in the SEAL pipeline.
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Guys who have been mentored by a SEAL for three, four years, spent lots of time preparing athletically. I always tell people I thought I was an athlete until I met one. I was a good athlete in high school, which means you're not very much of an athlete. If you're not a great, exceptional athlete in high school, you might be a good athlete. So anyways, I made it to the
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started into the SEAL program with a lot of confidence. My recruiter, the guy who recruited me into the Navy, he said I was the most arrogant kid he'd ever talked to because I walked into his office and I said, I need you to write me a SEAL contract. And he said, well, you know, look, we got to test you. We got to do all these things. I said, OK, I'll take the test. I'll fill out the paperwork.
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Then I came back and he wanted me to do different programs. I said, I'm not interested in any of that. Are you the one that's going to help me or do I need to go to another recruiter's office? Like I had to convince him to write me the contract. So then I get into the Navy, get my SEAL contract and face nothing but discouragement.
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My roommate, through the beginning of the SEAL program, this was his second time to SEAL training. He had quit earlier. He was the number one athlete in our class, and his dad was a Master Chief Navy SEAL. Okay? So this guy, like, how great? You would think that's great. Like, man, this guy has a lot of experience, knows about this program.
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Well, he told me every single day, Ryan, he'd say, Uncle Buck, you have no chance here. I was in the bottom third of our class athletically, was not great in that category, and he was number one. His dad was a famous Navy SEAL. You'd think he would know all about the program.
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So fast forward a little bit, we make it to San Diego, and as soon as we get to San Diego, this is where SEAL training happens. The first day that we're there, I see this class that has finished Hell Week. Hell Week is one of the most difficult parts of SEAL training. You stay up for five days straight. It starts on a Sunday night. You go all the way until Friday.
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No, but it does matter who you raise money from. I do a lot in the VC space, just defense tech.
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You'll sleep for one hour Wednesday and for one hour Thursday. And in that time, you'll run over 200 miles. The majority of that is with an inflatable boat on your head. I could go on and on about how brutal the training is. It's tough.
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And I saw this class that had just finished and they looked like they had been run over by a bus and then the bus pulled over them and then backed over them again and then pulled over them. These guys could barely walk. They're on crutches. Guys are coughing up blood. I mean, it crushes you to go through this. And when I saw that, I immediately got a picture of what I wanted.
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And I said to myself, I'm going to make it through this program, but I won't look like that when I finish. And I faced all kinds of discouragement. People telling me, hey, you don't belong here. Hey, you're not good enough. We finally get to hell week, which is, you know, I'm fast forwarding through a lot of the pieces here, but we finally get to hell week. I'm one of the youngest in the class.
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I'm one of two guys under 20 years old who makes it to this point. and don't have very many friends at this point. The guys who had been my friends had all quit. I wasn't a top performer, so I wasn't well looked at. Right before we're about to start Hell Week, my boat crew were sitting around talking to each other.
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They put you in this classroom where you wait for four hours, for five hours for Hell Week to begin. So I can tell you one of the lessons that you learn in the Navy is the hardest part of pain is the anticipation of the pain. They let you sit in there and brew before you go through the most difficult military training you'll ever go through. And so my boat crew were having a conversation.
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I'm in the middle of a $500 million raise right now.
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You know, the guys are asking each other, hey, do you think you'll make it? Do you think you'll make it? Well, my boat crew finally asks me and they said, you know, Uncle Bob, do you think you'll make it? I said, I don't think I'll make it. I know I'll make it.
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and on saturday when everyone's at med checks when everyone's on crutches i'm going to go for a run on the beach by myself i created this picture for myself of where i wanted to be and fast forward to the end of hell week i did that literally you know guys from my class went to the icu after hell week we started with nearly 100 finished with 44 and most guys were in brutal shape afterwards.
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I'll send you a link over email to our latest press release. It's a bunch of guys from Tesla and DeRoll doing advanced manufacturing.
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On Saturday, I went for a run by myself on the beach. I didn't even have any chafing, believe it or not. Most guys, the inside of their legs looks like hamburger meat from how chafed up they are. I didn't even chafe. And if you've ever been to Coronado, I ran down the beach and I sat on the rocks right in front of the Dell
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And what I realized for myself was this is what I call my superpower, the superpower of perspective. I sat there and realized it didn't matter what other people had seen. It didn't matter what other people had spoken. It matters what I had seen. This is one of my favorite stories in the Bible, Ryan. It is a very similar story.
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This is the story, if you know it, of when the Israelites have left Egypt and they're about to go into the Promised Land. Before they go into the promised land, God tells Moses to send in spies. So send in 12 spies. The 12 spies go. The 12 spies came back. 12 spies, they all saw the same thing, but 10 gave a different report than the two.
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They saw the exact same thing, but 10 of them said, man, this place is beautiful and wonderful, but there's no way that we could occupy this place. We don't have any weapons. We're not an army. These guys have weapons and fortified walls and cities. There's no way that we could take this from them. Two of the 12 said, surely this is the land that God has for us.
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And again, this is the power of perspective, right? When you look at your life, when you look at the world, what do you see? And I'll tell you what informs perspective. And I'm circling back to answer your question. is beliefs, okay? Beliefs are the things that you know are true, but cannot prove, right? And I mean prove in the scientific standpoint.
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I had lunch last week with former Secretary of Defense Robert Gates. Do you remember him? Yes. From the Bush-Obama era. He's the only Secretary of Defense who worked with both Republicans and Democrats. One of the most brilliant people. He said it is the most perilous time in American history since World War II. I firmly believe that. People have no idea of that, but that's where we are today.
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Verifiable, demonstratable, repeatable, that's what science, you know, science has kind of lost its reputation in the last decade. But real science, the way that it was created, is supposed to be things that you can prove. Beliefs are things that you believe are true, but can't prove, right?
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Ryan, I believe in God and I can give you a lot of great evidence for who he is in my life, how he's changed me. I cannot scientifically prove the existence of God to you. I can just give you a lot of evidence. Let me give you two beliefs that I went into the SEAL program with that allowed me to do what I did there. From a young age, my dad would say this to me over and over, both my parents.
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They would say, son, God has a plan for your life. They said it to me at five, they said it to me at 10, they said it to me at 15. Didn't really mean much to me, but I just kept hearing it over and over again. And the second thing they would say to me is you can have anything you want in life, If you're willing to pay the price for it. And again, you have to believe that's true. Some people don't.
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Some people think that whether it's God or the universe or whatever, that they're being withheld from. I've chosen to believe and stake my life on if I'm willing to pay the price for something, if I believe in it, and if I'm willing to pursue it, that I can attain that thing.
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When you understand that you have purpose, right, whether you believe in God or not, when you understand that your life has a purpose, I do, and we know that you have potential, you can have anything you want as long as you're willing to pay the price for it. When you put purpose and potential together, I call that the infinite potential unlock. So that's what allowed me to go into this program.
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Whatever you do in life, whether it's seals or start a big business or whatever, you're going to have to take some risks. And there's just like the Israelites going into the promised land, you're going to have to believe that you're going to find success on the other end. And so whatever your beliefs are, that's what's going to come out in what you see.
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If you don't have the right perspective and the challenges that you're facing and the problems that you're facing, there's no way that you'll overcome.
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And it's because of manufacturing. China's outproducing us 10 to 1.
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Yeah, let me, I'll answer your question in two ways. I'll give some of my favorite scriptures with it, but then I'll also answer in a way that people who maybe don't follow scripture would also understand. Ecclesiastes 3.11 says God placed eternity in the human heart. And that's, you know, the reflection that there's something within all of us that we realize we're more than just human.
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You know, one time I was hunting Ryan. I was hunting a mountain lion.
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and i was tracking it and then i'd been tracking it for a while i saw it i was following it and then i realized that i had done a circle and it kind of came on me all at once and the hair stood up on the back of my neck and i just slowly backed against the tree and i sat there for probably 30 or 40 minutes expecting that mountain line to be somewhere next to me
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the mountain lion had circled on me.
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I never saw the mountain lion again. Eventually, after I sat there for 30 minutes and waited for the eyes to appear, I realized that he had scented me and then ran off. I say that to say... Mountain Lion was way smarter than me that day. But no mountain lion or no animal has ever looked up at the stars and wondered, why am I here?
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But what I know about every single person that's listened to this podcast has wondered, why am I here? What's my place? And all of this. So there's a purpose within all of us. Scripture also says there's a way that seems right to a man. but in the end leads to death. And let me tell you what those two ways are. Most people spend their lives either running from pain or running towards pleasure.
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Most people spend their life running from pain or running towards pleasure. And both of those are finite loops. If you are running from pain, let's say pain is a grizzly bear, you're probably not going to outrun the grizzly bear just because they can run 30 miles an hour.
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But we'll pretend that the grizzly bear is injured and you somehow outrun him after he chased you for two or three miles through the forest. And if he does, by the time that you finally outrun him, you're going to be lost. You will pick up your head and say, where am I? How did I get here? Because you didn't know where you were going. You were running from something.
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That's how a lot of people live their lives. Or you're running towards pleasure. And the thing with pleasure, it's most people are familiar with Maslow's hierarchy of needs. If you read Abraham Maslow's papers, he talks about this. There's a part that I don't hear many people speak on. Running towards pleasure, pleasure is on Maslow's hierarchy.
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It's got four base levels, which is like your survival needs. Hey, if you can't breathe, if you don't have any air, you'll fight really hard to get air. And then some basic shelter and your basic needs. If you're starving to death, you'll fight really hard to get food until, you know, at some point, 500 cheeseburgers isn't that much better than 50 cheeseburgers, right?
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For all four of the first levels. This is your survival needs, this is relationship needs, even a sense of love and belonging. You'll fight really hard for it until you get it and then you don't want it so much anymore. If you're chasing after some level of pleasure or some level of dream that seems like a big deal to you,
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You'll fight really hard, but the closer you get to it, the less hunger you'll have for it. But at the very top of Maslow's pyramid, the top is what he calls self-actualization, what I call purpose. And again, he writes about this in his paper. He says self-actualization is different than the lower four levels, such that the more you get of those, the less you desire of them.
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He said the more you get of self-actualization and the more you get of purpose, the more you desire it. And the greatest life that you can live is a life of trying to understand your purpose, chasing after your purpose. And I'll tell you what, I like the way Charlie Kirk says it. He says, there is a God and it's not you. And I would say similarly that you have a purpose and it's not about you.
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People who don't believe in God follow no religion. You can find plenty of great people who've said that they felt like their life meant more when they decided their life wasn't about them, when they decided to serve other people. And again, that's within all of us. And so what I can say is that you have a purpose and
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and it's not about you and your purpose is to serve something that's bigger than you so again even if you didn't grow up with parents like i had you can find it in the world there's evidence i might not have scientific proof for you but there is evidence that the life that i'm talking about living is the best type of life you can live so i just did a ted talk back in february which addressed this topic from a certain angle but was this idea that actually the whole concept for the talk started out of maslow's hierarchy
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You're already answering the question, and I'll pull out some of what you said, but first I want to talk about why people quit, right? You're referencing, you know, me going through SEAL training. Not just in going through the program, but also in working with students afterwards,
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There's Stanford and Harvard both have had long-running studies, I think almost 20 years now, on them trying to figure out why do some people make it through this program? I think it's pretty simple. You interview students who quit, okay? You interview my roommate who quit. All of them, you can summarize their answers down to this. Summarize why they quit down to this.
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When you go and ask them, hey, why did you give up? Because I can tell you, anyone who makes it to Hell Week, which is the fourth week of training, you're capable, physically you're capable of making it through the program. The next test is your resolve. It's a test of your character. But physically, to have gotten that far, your body can do it.
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And so you go interview students who quit in Hell Week and you can summarize their answers down to this. They'll say, I just decided I don't want to do this anymore. It's harder than I wanted it to be. Now you go talk to anybody who made it through the program and say, you just completed the most difficult week in all of military training. How did you do it? They will tell you a story.
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It will talk about somebody that's not them. The one guy will say, well, the guy in my boat crew next to me. Another guy will start talking about his mom. Another guy will start talking about his grandpa. But they will start talking to you about something that's not them. So it's really why.
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And I would say to answer your question on how some people get stuck, they don't actually get into the self-actualization category, is because they think that purpose is a what. Purpose is not a what. Purpose is a why. And so it's not really what to make that a little more literal or easier to understand. There's a lot of people who take purpose and they'll make it a castle.
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My friend Charlie back here, it's just a few days past May 3rd. My friend Charlie died May 3rd, 2016. Died with a smile on his face. And that wasn't because his family received a $400,000 death benefit when he died. It's because he died fighting for what he believed in. Right. So I use this analogy to help organizations understand how do I get people to fight like that for what we're fighting for?
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Because I've been around a group of people that will fight to the death and they'll do it proudly. And so that's within people. But when you really what great culture is, culture is not about fun. Culture is not even about a sense of belonging. Great culture and organizations as that is that people say that my effort is worth it. And when it's worth it to people, they'll fight to the death.
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And so, again, the organizational analogy, a lot of what people think purpose is or even businesses create as their purpose is what I would call building a castle. And what do castles do? Castles collect gold and they protect the gold from the outside.
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And if you've ever been a part of an organization where there's a wrong culture or people won't really do any more than they're paid to do, it's because they feel like the organization is collecting gold for the CEO or the business owner or whoever.
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Now, on the flip side of that, instead of building a castle, which if you have a castle building, a culture, a castle building organization, you can build a castle, but you will have to pay for every single brick in the wall. There's no free labor in building a castle.
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But instead, if your organization or like your life purpose is instead of about building a castle about me, my protection, my gold, instead it's about killing a dragon. Right. Here's the thing about dragons. Nobody likes them. They terrorize the entire land.
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And so, Ryan, if I start talking to you about this dragon that burned down my farm, you might say to me, you know, that dragon burned down my sister's farm. I'm coming with you. I don't even have to pay you to come with me. You believe in what we're fighting against. And so it's killing a dragon versus building a castle.
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All really what this is about is instead of what you do, it's about why you're doing it. I don't have to conscript labor to come get you to kill a dragon with me. If that dragon has wronged you or your family, I would say that purpose is there's a dream inside each person. But when I first have these conversations with people,
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one of the things I ask them when they're asking me what's my purpose, I say, what makes you the most mad? What really pisses you off? Because that's what's going to piss you off is what some of those dragons have been in your life.
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And the things that, just like I'm a weird dude, for the people that spend a lot of time around me, I always thank them for putting up with me because I have some strange eccentricities. There's things that bother me that don't bother most people, but I know what my dragons are.
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And so to answer your question on how to not like top out, it's really to know why you do what you do instead of just know what it is that you want.
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They do, but I'll tell you, here's the challenge. And this is where faith takes people down a journey. I don't know of any path that's a non-faith path that'll teach you about sacrifice, that'll teach you about surrender. Because in following God, essentially this is the story of Abraham and Isaac. God comes to Abraham and says, hey, I have this great dream for you.
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Abraham is just a dude in the desert. And God says, hey, I'm going to make you the father of many nations. I want you to leave where your family is. I want you to leave all these things that you know and go to this place. I'm going to make you great. Awesome. Okay. There's a 20 year period where Abraham just like hanging out, waiting for God to do his part. Fast forward that part.
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God finally gives him a son, gives him Isaac. And what does he ask him to do? He says, put it on the altar, right? Are you willing to give it up? And that was a test for Abraham that God wanted to know, do you love the gift giver more than the gift? And so again, it's not just about what you do, it's about why you do it. God gave Abraham the dream, but then he tested him.
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He said, do you love the dream more than you love me? And so where people get stuck in their purpose as well is that they're unwilling to go through this surrender, this level of, hey, I'll give it all up. I can tell you for me, this isn't necessarily other people's story. But for me, I said, God, this is what I want. But if you don't want it, I don't want it either.
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And when you can make that level of surrender, because what I knew, Ryan, is that God has a plan for my life. I believe the plan is that I would become a seal. But maybe it's not. Maybe God's brought me here to teach me a lesson. I don't know. But I'm going to give everything that I've got. And I'm going to continue to believe that I'm supposed to be here until I'm not.
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And so that's where people get stuck when you start to hoard, when you start to say, but no, this is mine. What if Abraham had said to God, like, no, Isaac is mine? Then the covenant with Abraham would have ended there. And so that's where people get stuck in their purpose. They get stuck in following their dream as they're not willing to do the surrender part. It's an important part of our life.
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And if you get stuck on that, you won't be able to get to your highest level.
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The world feels so out of control. Man's way is control. Man's way is certainty. God's way is faith. God's way is transformation. It's what we want so much is, like, I want to know for sure. We are so transactional. You know, I love it when Hollywood people, like, praise God, but I don't, like –
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I can't remember a good Hollywood testimony that I liked because almost all of them will tell a story of, I was in this difficult place and I said, God, if you do this, I'll do that. God doesn't work that way. You cannot deal with God. You cannot transaction with God. He says, I know who I am and I'll show it to you. You're just going to have to trust me. You're just going to have to follow me.
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When your mom gets cancer, your wife gets cancer suddenly, or terrible things happen to you, or you believe so much for something and you're wondering why did this happen, that's where people start to surrender and they say, you know what, I'm tired of trying to do it my way. Maybe I'm interested in your way. One of the most challenging or difficult stories in the Bible is Job.
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God takes everything away from him. And it's a great story. Read it, learn about it. If you don't know, God ends up fulfilling everything that he took. He restores everything that he took from him, but God never tells him why. Maybe you've read the story of Job and didn't catch that part. God never comes to Job and say, hey, I let Satan attack you because he was testing you.
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I knew you would pass and I knew I would restore you. God never explained it to him. And so we're not always going to get an explanation for why things happen to us in our life. One of my scriptures that I live a lot of my life on, Ryan, is Romans 8, 28 says, God uses all things for the good of those who love him. And a lot of people struggle with that scripture when bad things happen to them.
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Well, the way that I read scripture and interpret scripture is that it's absolutely true. And so if there's a disagreement between me and scripture, who's wrong? It's me, right? So if God's saying that these things are good, is his definition of good wrong or is my definition of good wrong?
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And that's where, again, we've got to learn to surrender, to trust in him and say, hey, I'm going to follow your plan instead of me trying to tell you what my plan is.
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Yeah, I would say check us out on the Impossible Life podcast where we talk about leadership, talk about mindset, talk about faith all the time. Or check me out on Instagram. And either at The Impossible Life or on Instagram, you can find other links and places to connect with me further.
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Absolutely. Honored to be here. in a crude laboratory in the basement of his home.
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I appreciate the entrepreneur mentality of like, Hey, I'm just going to put my head down and focus on my thing. But it is, that's a limiting mindset when you have a mindset like that, because what your friend's doing, most people live their lives doing one of two things, either running from pain or running towards pleasure.
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right when you're running towards purpose that's when you're focused on like man what's the what's the one thing that i can be a part of that i can continually be a part of bring more people into and that that involves community that involves country i would say your friend may be very focused and might be very effective in the short term but when you get what you want when you get away from the pain then you start to find emptiness which is the most demotivating thing in the world
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We have an overwhelming force of action.
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If you shoot at me, I'll drop a bomb on you.
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But it's Edmund Burke. This is like the quote that sparked me into the military at a young age. And I would say it's relevant to your friend. Edmund Burke said, evil prevails when good men choose to do nothing.
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There's been a long run of outsourcing and I'll tell you where it really started is in the 70s, which is the beginning of like, if you look at stock market growth, the 70s is where all the big pension funds, big index funds begin, and people, they don't invest, they just put their money in an index fund, they put it in the S&P. in the SMP and it'll just perform for me.
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And what that created is the shareholder society where you have people who have subjugated their capital, they've subjugated their values, and now they've subjugated their parenting, they've subjugated their beliefs. I don't want to have to do the work. Somebody else will just do it for me.
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When you put your money into an index fund and just say, hey, you guys make me the money, you might get a good return, but you've also lost the ability to invest in moral things.
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I can wrestle with AI and say when it writes for you and say, I don't like that. But if you don't have a basis to wrestle with it against, you just get whatever it gives you.
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And at the end of the day, if you want something to be easier, there's a cost associated with that. AI is great, but you cannot outsource your function. One of the core skills that's going to be around in 2030 is still the ability to problem solve and the ability to creative think. And if you just give everything away to AI, you're not going to be very valuable if all you can do is write prompts.
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Yeah, and I would also compare it to technological literacy. Let's start with the beginning of literacy. Just because you knew how to read does not mean that you know how to comprehend. You do need to have the ability to read, but then you need to know how to be able to use what it is that you've read. That's the beginning of literacy.
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You and I grew up in an age of expanding technological literacy. It wasn't hard for us. We were teenagers. We were in high school.
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when cell phones are becoming a thing and so it was kind of automatic to us where we could this is the first time for you and i that we're looking at ai and saying man if i don't learn this stuff i'm going to fall behind so you have to have this mindset of one i want to engage in what's new and i need to grow my technological or artificial intelligence literacy but also there's a responsibility on my part not to just understand the tool but to know how to use it well
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It's hard to make people be hungry. Yeah. If someone's not hungry, you can cook them great food and they're still not interested. Yeah. But for those that are hungry, they'll go out and get it. And that's what it takes in the AI field. That's what it takes in any field to stay at the front. We see that you see the same thing in battlefield warfare, right?
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The stuff that guys were doing when I was in 10 years ago, it's way different now. The warfare has completely changed. And if you're not paying attention to the tactics at the very front, you fall behind so quickly. If you want to be at the edge, that's for the people who are hungry.
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So if you're listening to this and you want to be great, those are the people that I like to talk to, people who want the best, not just people who want to be good. You do have to have that hunger to stay at the front. And it takes a lot of effort to do that.
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Yeah, let me tell a little bit of a story here. Please. So I'll Tarantino a little bit. I'll start in the middle or the end, and then I'll go back to the beginning. When I was towards the end of my SEAL career, I spent a lot of time with tadpoles. A colloquialism for Navy SEALs is frogmen. And so the guys who want to be frogmen, we call them tadpoles. They're wannabes.
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We'll see if they become frogmen or not. I spent a lot of time with tadpoles, and I enjoyed mentoring those guys. I spent a ton of time with them. Any free time I had, I poured into these guys. And eventually they would all ask me the same question, Ryan. They would all ask me, hey, do you think I'll make it? Some people would ask me after a week. Some people would ask me after six months.