Lisa Bevere

I mean, just even even it was so shocking to me. And women, they want to be loved. But I think I just posted something about marriages to people committed to bringing out the best in one another. Whereas early on in our marriage, we're trying to best one another. And women say things like, well, what if my husband's not committed to bringing out the best in me? I'm like, be the bigger person.

I mean, it's like people are so self-centered. So like it needs to be about me, my needs, my dreams, my hope. Well, there's no just me anymore once you get married. It's a one. And, and, and it's, it's just, it's so sad because so many people are missing the richness of marriage. John and I've been married 43 years this year. And I love it more now than I did when I married him.

I mean, it's like people are so self-centered. So like it needs to be about me, my needs, my dreams, my hope. Well, there's no just me anymore once you get married. It's a one. And, and, and it's, it's just, it's so sad because so many people are missing the richness of marriage. John and I've been married 43 years this year. And I love it more now than I did when I married him.

I mean, it's like people are so self-centered. So like it needs to be about me, my needs, my dreams, my hope. Well, there's no just me anymore once you get married. It's a one. And, and, and it's, it's just, it's so sad because so many people are missing the richness of marriage. John and I've been married 43 years this year. And I love it more now than I did when I married him.

Yeah, I mean, I think you're actually painting a very accurate picture of some of the things that we went through. My husband being a minister, it was almost like a badge of honor to say, I was only home three days this month and I have this many miles on my flights. And I told John, We get you at your worst. You come home and it's a laundry drop. And you're tired, you're grumpy with the boys.

Yeah, I mean, I think you're actually painting a very accurate picture of some of the things that we went through. My husband being a minister, it was almost like a badge of honor to say, I was only home three days this month and I have this many miles on my flights. And I told John, We get you at your worst. You come home and it's a laundry drop. And you're tired, you're grumpy with the boys.

Yeah, I mean, I think you're actually painting a very accurate picture of some of the things that we went through. My husband being a minister, it was almost like a badge of honor to say, I was only home three days this month and I have this many miles on my flights. And I told John, We get you at your worst. You come home and it's a laundry drop. And you're tired, you're grumpy with the boys.

And I used to say, when do you leave again? And he'd be like, why are you saying that? I'd be like, because it's easier when you're gone. And so we had to actually have some conversations around that to keep that a priority. So I'm not allowed to travel and speak unless John approves my schedule and I approve his.

And I used to say, when do you leave again? And he'd be like, why are you saying that? I'd be like, because it's easier when you're gone. And so we had to actually have some conversations around that to keep that a priority. So I'm not allowed to travel and speak unless John approves my schedule and I approve his.

And I used to say, when do you leave again? And he'd be like, why are you saying that? I'd be like, because it's easier when you're gone. And so we had to actually have some conversations around that to keep that a priority. So I'm not allowed to travel and speak unless John approves my schedule and I approve his.

So when he gets invited, it gets sent to me and I see his schedule and then we talk it over. I have, I think, 48 hours to either talk to him about it or approve. If I don't answer, then it's an automatic approve. But we always sit down and we say, okay, this is what this looks like. If you go on this trip or if I go on this trip, we will not see each other for 10 days. Are we okay with that?

So when he gets invited, it gets sent to me and I see his schedule and then we talk it over. I have, I think, 48 hours to either talk to him about it or approve. If I don't answer, then it's an automatic approve. But we always sit down and we say, okay, this is what this looks like. If you go on this trip or if I go on this trip, we will not see each other for 10 days. Are we okay with that?

So when he gets invited, it gets sent to me and I see his schedule and then we talk it over. I have, I think, 48 hours to either talk to him about it or approve. If I don't answer, then it's an automatic approve. But we always sit down and we say, okay, this is what this looks like. If you go on this trip or if I go on this trip, we will not see each other for 10 days. Are we okay with that?

And then we're like, OK, we're OK with that if we can make margin over here for us.

And then we're like, OK, we're OK with that if we can make margin over here for us.

And then we're like, OK, we're OK with that if we can make margin over here for us.

And so we've made our time together a priority. And again, we're empty nesters, but I already mentioned John's Italian, I'm Sicilian. We have six of our nine grandkids down the street. We walk down the street almost every single night, read books to grandkids, kiss them goodnight. We want to be close to family, but we also want our kids to be able to build their own family.

And so we've made our time together a priority. And again, we're empty nesters, but I already mentioned John's Italian, I'm Sicilian. We have six of our nine grandkids down the street. We walk down the street almost every single night, read books to grandkids, kiss them goodnight. We want to be close to family, but we also want our kids to be able to build their own family.

And so we've made our time together a priority. And again, we're empty nesters, but I already mentioned John's Italian, I'm Sicilian. We have six of our nine grandkids down the street. We walk down the street almost every single night, read books to grandkids, kiss them goodnight. We want to be close to family, but we also want our kids to be able to build their own family.

So we're watching our kids do it better because of our mistakes. I want to tell you guys this crazy story because I feel like it fits into what's going on behind the marriage. So I live here in Franklin, Tennessee. It's a Christian bubble. There's a coffee shop, and I was interviewing someone for a job, and I decided to wear this T-shirt that said, the future is male and female.