Marie Forleo

And my mom's a little woman and she had probably lost, I don't know, 15 to 20 pounds to be perfectly honest with you. She was like a skeleton. And she, this was back when there was landlines. So she had the phone like wrapped around her hand and blood was drained out of it. And she's on the phone crying to her mother, my grandmother, who was in Florida. And she's like, I have nothing.

I have nothing. Do you understand that? I have nothing. And then she hung up the phone and she leaned down, bent down because I was small and she put her hands on my shoulders and her forehead was next to mine and she shook me. She said, Marie, don't be stupid like I was. Do you see what I'm going through right now? Don't ever let a man control your money.

Don't be stupid like me. I need you to grow up. I need you to be independent. I need you to take care of yourself. don't be stupid like I was. And I'm not kidding you, Holla. Like at eight, first of all, I was terrified because I had never seen my mom that distraught. Second of all, my dad's an amazing person. So I was heartbroken because every kid, most of us, right?

Don't ever let anyone control your destiny. Don't be stupid like me. I need you to grow up. I need you to be independent. I need you to take care of yourself. don't be stupid like I was. And I'm not kidding you, Holla. Like at eight, first of all, I was terrified because I had never seen my mom that distraught. Second of all, my dad's an amazing person.

We just want our families to be together. And so I formed this little understanding, this little equation, which was this, was that not having enough money means that you're going to lose love. Not having enough money means that families are going to get broken up and not having enough money is a thing that I never want.

So I was heartbroken because every kid, most of us, right? We just want our families to be together. And so I formed this little understanding, this little equation, which was this, was that not having enough money means that you're going to lose love. Not having enough money means that families are going to get broken up and not having enough money is a thing that I never want.

And I promised myself that I was going to grow up and somehow figure out how to make so much money that it would never take away love again. And I remember even as a kid hearing other stories from other kids I knew because their families were getting divorced too. And so I had these fantasies of like, oh, well, I'm going to earn so much that I can help other people with enough money as well.

And so that was kind of a weird but strange and amazing thing that got planted in me that grew into a desire, a hunger, a commitment to be financially free. It definitely was not a straight line because like I was sharing earlier in this conversation, I got myself in piles and piles of debt after school. So I was certainly not good at it.

I think for most of us, there's a lot of mixed messages that we absorb around money, whether that is from our family, from society, our friends, the media, a lot of mixed signals about whether we should want it. Is it okay to want it? You shouldn't have it. Are you spiritual? Are you a good person? Like so much stuff. that most of us need to work through.

But that was the genesis for me of having that seed planted of going like, nope, I don't know how, but I'm gonna figure out how to earn so much that it's not gonna be a problem.

I think for most of us, there's a lot of mixed messages that we absorb around money, whether that is from our family, from society, our friends, the media, a lot of mixed signals about whether we should want it. Is it okay to want it? You shouldn't have it. Are you spiritual? Are you a good person? Like so much stuff. that most of us need to work through.

But that was the genesis for me of having that seed planted of going like, nope, I don't know how, but I'm gonna figure out how to earn so much that it's not gonna be a problem.

Yeah. Well, a couple of things. One, should you be interested? And again, this is only an invitation, but if you're ever like, you know what, I'm kind of done with this. I still want to be wildly successful, but I don't want to drive myself into the ground. You need to consider coming to do Time Genius. It's amazing.

It'll keep all of your best qualities and kind of let go, at least for me, of some of the ones that have grown to be destructive. So for me, probably one of the biggest wake-up calls was actually in 2020 because I had been really going at it hard for a while. And it was like a fish in water. It's like, I don't know any different. This is just me. This is what I do. This is how I do it.

Yeah. Well, a couple of things. One, should you be interested? And again, this is only an invitation, but if you're ever like, you know what, I'm kind of done with this. I still want to be wildly successful, but I don't want to drive myself into the ground. You need to consider coming to do Time Genius. It's amazing.

It'll keep all of your best qualities and kind of let go, at least for me, of some of the ones that have grown to be destructive. So for me, probably one of the biggest wake-up calls was actually in 2020 because I had been really going at it hard for a while. And it was like a fish in water. It's like, I don't know any different. This is just me. This is what I do. This is how I do it.

And there was never a problem with it. It certainly wasn't a burden because I love my work. And it showed up a few times in my relationship with Josh, my partner. We've been together 20 years where he's like, you hey, working a lot. And I'm like, yeah, this is what it takes, dude. Like this is what it's about. And so we've definitely had sparring issues over time.

And I think I dialed it down a little bit because the truth is my relationship needed more space and needed more attention and if it was going to thrive. But in 2020, I started having all of these weird and unusual pains in my body, which I had never had before.

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