Mark Manson

The quickest way to kill a dream is to achieve it.

People who achieve a big dream, the problem is they wake up the next day and they don't know what to hope for anymore, and so anxiety sets in, depression sets in.

We've become a society of people that don't really know what to hope for.

I think so much of it is just rooted in an inability to investigate the reality of what our assumptions are.

To really be psychologically well-adjusted and stable, you need something in your life that you wake up and you're like, I'm excited for that.

What are the exercises that help you honestly look at yourself?

What it took me a little while to realize is that

It's a great place to start because I think it's something that surprises people.

And like you said, it doesn't get talked about a whole lot.

And I think some of it too is that people don't like hearing it, right?

Because I think people who are on...

who are climbing their personal mountain or chasing their goals and dreams.

They don't like hearing that reaching the top might actually be problematic in certain ways.

So to kind of call it the arrival fallacy sometimes, right?

Yeah, so the best name I've heard for it, and you are correct that this is actually a prevalent thing, but very few people talk about it, but I'll get to that in a minute.

The best name that I've heard from it, the best name that I've heard of it came from Quincy Jones.

Will Smith relayed this to me.

He said that Quincy Jones used to call it altitude sickness, where he said that people who climb too quickly...

they get sick and they sabotage themselves to come down the mountain.

Wow.