Matt

Uh-huh. Because it was like never, it was never felt like it was about you or for you.

Uh-huh. Because it was like never, it was never felt like it was about you or for you.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Right. Like...

Right. Like...

That's crazy. No, but you know what, though? Like, it takes time to, like... I think a lot of people say this stuff because it's more a thing of... It's less them expressing what they actually like and more people being like, no, like, I do have sexual agency. I do have a sexual identity. When the fact is, it takes a lot of time. Like, I don't even think...

That's crazy. No, but you know what, though? Like, it takes time to, like... I think a lot of people say this stuff because it's more a thing of... It's less them expressing what they actually like and more people being like, no, like, I do have sexual agency. I do have a sexual identity. When the fact is, it takes a lot of time. Like, I don't even think...

it wasn't until my late twenties that I was even having real sex that like consciously took me out of what I had seen in like porn or what, which I do think. And I have so much respect for everyone like in the sex work community, et cetera. But I do think when you're ingesting a lot of it young, you of course want to emulate the things that you see.

it wasn't until my late twenties that I was even having real sex that like consciously took me out of what I had seen in like porn or what, which I do think. And I have so much respect for everyone like in the sex work community, et cetera. But I do think when you're ingesting a lot of it young, you of course want to emulate the things that you see.

And that is like inherently not going to be natural to you every time. So it's like, it's like,

And that is like inherently not going to be natural to you every time. So it's like, it's like,

in that way it becomes a teacher in a way that can be a little rocky it wasn't and i was just thinking sitting here like you know i had a great sexual experience like last week and i was like congratulations thank you so much and shout out verse also flipped you yes amazing and i've been i've really started like owning myself as like the bottom that i am but then all of a sudden love

in that way it becomes a teacher in a way that can be a little rocky it wasn't and i was just thinking sitting here like you know i had a great sexual experience like last week and i was like congratulations thank you so much and shout out verse also flipped you yes amazing and i've been i've really started like owning myself as like the bottom that i am but then all of a sudden love

So, but that's what I guess what I mean is it's like, I need to stop telling myself I'm one thing. I think we all need to stop telling ourselves our one thing and be open to those different experiences and expressions because I think a lot of it is just us wanting to belong in something.

So, but that's what I guess what I mean is it's like, I need to stop telling myself I'm one thing. I think we all need to stop telling ourselves our one thing and be open to those different experiences and expressions because I think a lot of it is just us wanting to belong in something.

You gotta watch those anyway. If people are really bold at the beginning, my experience is, okay, this is for you. You know what I mean? Like, we've experienced some love bombing, and I'm sure we all have, and it's like, there's no way you're like this. Yeah. I've even asked the question. I've sat back, cocked the brow, and been like, how? How can you be this? And then they have another line.

You gotta watch those anyway. If people are really bold at the beginning, my experience is, okay, this is for you. You know what I mean? Like, we've experienced some love bombing, and I'm sure we all have, and it's like, there's no way you're like this. Yeah. I've even asked the question. I've sat back, cocked the brow, and been like, how? How can you be this? And then they have another line.

What's the line? The one I got was... We deserve to have good things. We're good people. And I was just like... Where'd you read that?

What's the line? The one I got was... We deserve to have good things. We're good people. And I was just like... Where'd you read that?