Rebecca Fox Starr
Appearances
Not Gonna Lie with Kylie Kelce
Kylie on Baby Finn’s Birth Story, Kelce Sisters First Meeting & Newborn Bliss Reality Check | Ep. 17
Thank you. Thank you.
Not Gonna Lie with Kylie Kelce
Kylie on Baby Finn’s Birth Story, Kelce Sisters First Meeting & Newborn Bliss Reality Check | Ep. 17
Thank you. Thank you.
Not Gonna Lie with Kylie Kelce
Kylie on Baby Finn’s Birth Story, Kelce Sisters First Meeting & Newborn Bliss Reality Check | Ep. 17
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Not Gonna Lie with Kylie Kelce
Kylie on Baby Finn’s Birth Story, Kelce Sisters First Meeting & Newborn Bliss Reality Check | Ep. 17
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Not Gonna Lie with Kylie Kelce
Kylie on Baby Finn’s Birth Story, Kelce Sisters First Meeting & Newborn Bliss Reality Check | Ep. 17
So I think mom guilt is going to exist, right? Like we all feel it at different points. I think that what I'm trying to do is normalize negative feelings in motherhood and really for our kids too. So to say, it's actually a choose your own adventure style book. I don't know if you remember that from when we were little. Yes, absolutely.
Not Gonna Lie with Kylie Kelce
Kylie on Baby Finn’s Birth Story, Kelce Sisters First Meeting & Newborn Bliss Reality Check | Ep. 17
But it gives you choice points and you can make choices like, do I pick up my kid from the school nurse or do I tell them to tough it out and stay at school? And whatever thing you choose, whatever choice you make, there are coping skills to help you get through it. It's not like, this is how to rid you forever from mom guilt because that's not realistic. That's not going to happen.
Not Gonna Lie with Kylie Kelce
Kylie on Baby Finn’s Birth Story, Kelce Sisters First Meeting & Newborn Bliss Reality Check | Ep. 17
We're all going to feel negative feelings sometimes. It's how can we cope? How can we get through these things? And so I used my evidence-based... clinical background to come up with coping skills based in DBT and CBT and other therapeutic modalities. But also as a mom, I have a middle schooler and a high schooler now. And so I've lived a lot of this.
Not Gonna Lie with Kylie Kelce
Kylie on Baby Finn’s Birth Story, Kelce Sisters First Meeting & Newborn Bliss Reality Check | Ep. 17
As I'm sitting here, I could be getting a call from the school nurse as we speak. And I have to make those decisions every day. And I thought, if I'm going through this, other people must be going through these things. And so let's normalize them. And I do think that normalizing these negative mental health issues or moods helps us to model for our kids that we're going to go through hard things.
Not Gonna Lie with Kylie Kelce
Kylie on Baby Finn’s Birth Story, Kelce Sisters First Meeting & Newborn Bliss Reality Check | Ep. 17
They're going to go through hard things, but we can get through those things instead of making it like we're all going to be happy all the time. I don't think that does a service to ourselves or to our kids.
Not Gonna Lie with Kylie Kelce
Kylie on Baby Finn’s Birth Story, Kelce Sisters First Meeting & Newborn Bliss Reality Check | Ep. 17
sort of realization. I love that you said you let the thought go because that's like the perfect DBT, CBT skills in action that you probably don't even realize you're doing.
Not Gonna Lie with Kylie Kelce
Kylie on Baby Finn’s Birth Story, Kelce Sisters First Meeting & Newborn Bliss Reality Check | Ep. 17
But I think that when you're dealing with specific intrusive thoughts or those scary things that you might fear that you think about or you might fear could happen, saying there's no relationship between how much I believe something or me thinking something and how true it really is.
Not Gonna Lie with Kylie Kelce
Kylie on Baby Finn’s Birth Story, Kelce Sisters First Meeting & Newborn Bliss Reality Check | Ep. 17
So if you're able to kind of talk yourself through that and still go on, like you said you're able to do, you might think it, You might have a little bit of a fear about it. You might consider it and then you're able to go on. I think if you are not able to still go on with your normal functioning, then that's when it's really important to speak about it.
Not Gonna Lie with Kylie Kelce
Kylie on Baby Finn’s Birth Story, Kelce Sisters First Meeting & Newborn Bliss Reality Check | Ep. 17
And it can feel really, really scary to speak. Now, I'm really glad that you talked about postpartum mood disorders because people think about postpartum depression. There's postpartum rage. There's postpartum OCD, postpartum psychosis. And there's really a range of a lot of perinatal mood and anxiety disorders.
Not Gonna Lie with Kylie Kelce
Kylie on Baby Finn’s Birth Story, Kelce Sisters First Meeting & Newborn Bliss Reality Check | Ep. 17
And I think that when they disrupt your functioning, so you're not able to go along and still walk up the stairs, that's when you really have to ask for help, whether it's from a friend, your practitioner, some other professional, a partner, someone in your life. You don't have to even know how to ask for help. You can just say something isn't right.
Not Gonna Lie with Kylie Kelce
Kylie on Baby Finn’s Birth Story, Kelce Sisters First Meeting & Newborn Bliss Reality Check | Ep. 17
Someone said to me when I was suffering, this too shall pass. And so I want to say that to anyone who may be suffering today. I know it may sound like, oh yeah, it's easy to say. I've been there. I've lived it. And I will tell you that moments of suffering can feel profound, but they are temporary. They don't have to define the rest of your life. This will pass.
Not Gonna Lie with Kylie Kelce
Kylie on Baby Finn’s Birth Story, Kelce Sisters First Meeting & Newborn Bliss Reality Check | Ep. 17
And it can be very, very scary to ask for help, but you deserve to feel better. You deserve to ask for help and you can get help. We have great ways to treat postpartum depression and other mood disorders now, and we can help. Thank you so much.