Rebecca Rolland

So for example, a child really doesn't want to continue playing this sport, or they really aren't a person who's very energetic in the morning, or they really aren't someone who needs to have a lot of friends to be happy.

So for example, a child really doesn't want to continue playing this sport, or they really aren't a person who's very energetic in the morning, or they really aren't someone who needs to have a lot of friends to be happy.

And just recognizing that sometimes we can take our own desires that went unfulfilled or our wishes or hopes for ourselves and put those on to our children and sort of be disappointed if they're not that way or if they didn't turn out the way we would have wanted them to turn out. And I think that kind of unfulfilled desire or disappointment can be very hard and damaging for a child.

And just recognizing that sometimes we can take our own desires that went unfulfilled or our wishes or hopes for ourselves and put those on to our children and sort of be disappointed if they're not that way or if they didn't turn out the way we would have wanted them to turn out. And I think that kind of unfulfilled desire or disappointment can be very hard and damaging for a child.

And just recognizing that sometimes we can take our own desires that went unfulfilled or our wishes or hopes for ourselves and put those on to our children and sort of be disappointed if they're not that way or if they didn't turn out the way we would have wanted them to turn out. And I think that kind of unfulfilled desire or disappointment can be very hard and damaging for a child.

Definitely. So obviously kids do need praise and encouragement and they get a lot out of that, but there's also a way in which we can take it too far. So some researchers have created what's called the praise paradox, which is they found that especially for children who have low self-esteem to start,

Definitely. So obviously kids do need praise and encouragement and they get a lot out of that, but there's also a way in which we can take it too far. So some researchers have created what's called the praise paradox, which is they found that especially for children who have low self-esteem to start,

Definitely. So obviously kids do need praise and encouragement and they get a lot out of that, but there's also a way in which we can take it too far. So some researchers have created what's called the praise paradox, which is they found that especially for children who have low self-esteem to start,

over praising a child can really further lower their self-esteem and make it so they often don't want to try again and this over praising really means things like when a child brings to you a simple drawing or something maybe they don't feel that great about you say things like oh that's so amazing or that's so fabulous or i've never seen anything that amazing things like that

over praising a child can really further lower their self-esteem and make it so they often don't want to try again and this over praising really means things like when a child brings to you a simple drawing or something maybe they don't feel that great about you say things like oh that's so amazing or that's so fabulous or i've never seen anything that amazing things like that

over praising a child can really further lower their self-esteem and make it so they often don't want to try again and this over praising really means things like when a child brings to you a simple drawing or something maybe they don't feel that great about you say things like oh that's so amazing or that's so fabulous or i've never seen anything that amazing things like that

And the reason is because children often can sniff out false praise. They can sense if we're not being authentic and if we're overdoing it. And this can further lower their self-esteem.

And the reason is because children often can sniff out false praise. They can sense if we're not being authentic and if we're overdoing it. And this can further lower their self-esteem.

And the reason is because children often can sniff out false praise. They can sense if we're not being authentic and if we're overdoing it. And this can further lower their self-esteem.

Criticism obviously is important as well. And what I think we really want to get to is to helping children through criticism and critique to be their own judges of their performance. So this doesn't mean this happens all at once, but we want to support children in becoming self-reflective.

Criticism obviously is important as well. And what I think we really want to get to is to helping children through criticism and critique to be their own judges of their performance. So this doesn't mean this happens all at once, but we want to support children in becoming self-reflective.

Criticism obviously is important as well. And what I think we really want to get to is to helping children through criticism and critique to be their own judges of their performance. So this doesn't mean this happens all at once, but we want to support children in becoming self-reflective.

So rather than criticizing them, for example, oh, this part of your drawing isn't good, or your math test, you got a bad grade on it. it can be much more helpful to really point out, first, things that were going well, and second, help them analyze what didn't go so well, and even take that step of, well, why didn't it go so well?

So rather than criticizing them, for example, oh, this part of your drawing isn't good, or your math test, you got a bad grade on it. it can be much more helpful to really point out, first, things that were going well, and second, help them analyze what didn't go so well, and even take that step of, well, why didn't it go so well?

So rather than criticizing them, for example, oh, this part of your drawing isn't good, or your math test, you got a bad grade on it. it can be much more helpful to really point out, first, things that were going well, and second, help them analyze what didn't go so well, and even take that step of, well, why didn't it go so well?