Sarah Jenks
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first heard Jan 2025
last heard Jan 2025
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But now how we orient is the mission is at the center of the circle. And we all sit on our pillars around the mission. And we each have a different responsibility in order to support the mission. And I trust the members on my team to really hold their pillar of expertise and know better than me about what's needed for our mission.
So this was such an interesting process for me because I was really a diehard feminist for so long and super independent, very much independent.
in equality with my husband and then i had a baby and all of a sudden i was like cleaning the house all day and wanting to put dinner on the table at night and feeling all of this pressure to be the perfect mother and to not have the baby crying when jonathan came home from work and also i was the primary breadwinner also during this time
So I knew that it wasn't some sort of like, I was taking more responsibility for the home and, you know, he was being the primary breadwinner. It was, I was in a situation where I could take that out of the mix. And I just remember looking at myself thinking, well, what am I doing? Why do I feel this way? I have spent my whole adult life being pretty outspoken and pretty independent.
Why am I all of a sudden acting like a 1950s housewife? It was wild. And then I started really getting into the study of internalized And I think something, it happens for people at all different phases. When I look back, I can definitely see how when I was a teenager and growing up that I felt a ton of pressure to fit in.
that I felt a ton of pressure to make my parents proud, that I felt a ton of pressure to really follow the traditional path of success, to follow the path that was laid out for me by my family, to fall in line with the people that I went to college with. And this is a really clear way to know if you have internalized patriarchy is, I mean, we all do. And it comes up in like so many different ways.
But I think the first question to ask is, am I walking my path or am I walking somebody else's path? Am I primarily concerned with how people see me? Am I always thinking about or worried about others? making someone mad? Am I constantly trying to avoid upsetting my male partner? Am I constantly worried about outshining my friends?
Am I worried about being too big or being too loud or being too visible? Am I worried that people are going to think that I'm weird for being spiritual? So anytime we are judging ourselves off of what other people are going to think of us in a negative way, it is almost always grounded in internalized patriarchy.
Yes. So as women, we have been trained to always be judging ourselves off of the other people in the room, in the community, in our family. And historically, this is what has kept us safe. Because if we did rock the boat, we didn't have rights to protect our livelihood.
And so it's very normal to be afraid of outshining someone or making somebody mad because we just got the right to have our own credit card. And like, was it 1974? And so if we did rock the boat, we could be kicked out of our marriage and not have any rights to be able to support ourselves.
So it's important to understand that if we have this feeling like we're going to die, that is epigenetics and can be stored in our genes. And when we do sacred work, which is so cool, it actually reprograms our genetic makeup to see ourselves differently.
And there are things that we can do somatically with our body that we have evolved to use as humans, like drumming, like singing, like sitting in circle. Like being in certain energetic frequencies that help us to remember the truth of our safety as opposed to being always attuned to like our remembered fear of being unsafe.
The core is the safety. And the thing that I always try to tell women is to remember that you aren't dying. You're just uncomfortable. And cause we can really feel like we're going to die.
If we tell our group of friends that we're going to go to a ceremony or that we're quitting our job, or we tell our parents that actually I'm not going to walk this path that I thought I was going to, that you also walked, I'm going to take my own path and we can feel like we're going to die, but we're actually just uncomfortable.
So the piece that I think is important in what I teach women to do is that instead of judging ourselves based on the people around us, we actually come into ceremony. We learn who our soul is and we get information around the fullest expression of our soul. And we begin to judge ourselves based off of our potential. based off of what it feels like to be in our fullest expression.
And we can then see, oh, like I am a very specific puzzle piece on this planet right now. And so how can I be the most me, the most unique puzzle piece? And when we do that, when we're trying to come when we come into our center, into our soul, we then realize that everybody has a role and that there isn't competition.
And then we can create situations where, and groups of friends and communities and family systems where our differences are celebrated instead of having safety be grounded in sameness.
Yeah.
Well, we don't have a ton of examples on the planet right now. But the thing that I always like to look to nature to really understand how we can set up society and culture. And the indigenous cultures that are alive and well, like if you go deep into the Amazon, there are matriarchal societies.
And I think it really touches on what you just said, which is when we all tap in to our own authentic power, it is clear what our role is in the community. And just like if you go to a forest, the trees have a role, the mushrooms have a role, the bees have a role, the flowers have a role, the pollen has a role, the bugs have a role. And everyone works together in order to create an ecosystem.
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