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Like everyone has like, how do you find we, we pull ourselves back to how do we convince ourselves that, to just feel good versus chasing the feel good with some sort of addiction or, you know, whatever.

Yeah, that's really interesting. So I struggle with that same thing. Cause you know, as you said, it told my story in the Ted talk and other places. And like I have very similar, right. I was the, the poor kid from the country. Actually, when I was younger, I was like chubby and all this kind of stuff.

Yeah, that's really interesting. So I struggle with that same thing. Cause you know, as you said, it told my story in the Ted talk and other places. And like I have very similar, right. I was the, the poor kid from the country. Actually, when I was younger, I was like chubby and all this kind of stuff.

So like my two nicknames coming into high school were Nassau, which is literally the town that I grew up in as a derogatory term. So like they use it as a derogatory term against me and fat boy. Those are my two nicknames coming into high school right now. Thank God. God, that my freshman year I grew six inches and all of a sudden I wasn't fat anymore because that solved some of the problems.

So like my two nicknames coming into high school were Nassau, which is literally the town that I grew up in as a derogatory term. So like they use it as a derogatory term against me and fat boy. Those are my two nicknames coming into high school right now. Thank God. God, that my freshman year I grew six inches and all of a sudden I wasn't fat anymore because that solved some of the problems.

But yeah, and then just my career and different things and you develop this chip. And once that chip sits on your shoulder, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter what the success is. If you don't, as you said, like start to deal with it and start to understand where it's coming from, it's always there.

But yeah, and then just my career and different things and you develop this chip. And once that chip sits on your shoulder, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter what the success is. If you don't, as you said, like start to deal with it and start to understand where it's coming from, it's always there.

Like you have a big win and you feel great for like 30 seconds and all of a sudden you're like, okay, who am I going to conquer now? Like I need to go conquer something else, someone else. I need to prove someone else wrong. And I struggle with that even today because – I just, I find it to be such powerful fuel. It's like jet fuel. Yeah.

Like you have a big win and you feel great for like 30 seconds and all of a sudden you're like, okay, who am I going to conquer now? Like I need to go conquer something else, someone else. I need to prove someone else wrong. And I struggle with that even today because – I just, I find it to be such powerful fuel. It's like jet fuel. Yeah.

But I think, you know, and the way I've started to deal with it is like maybe, and I don't know this for sure. Like I'm almost, I'd be super interested in your take having, knowing that you're kind of dealing with the same stuff is like, I've kind of said like, okay, maybe this is just part of who I am for whatever reason, right?

But I think, you know, and the way I've started to deal with it is like maybe, and I don't know this for sure. Like I'm almost, I'd be super interested in your take having, knowing that you're kind of dealing with the same stuff is like, I've kind of said like, okay, maybe this is just part of who I am for whatever reason, right?

Maybe it's so entrenched in my personality that I'm simply not going to be able to dig this out. So how do I take it and turn it from a negative into a positive? And the way I've been working through that here at 44 has been just simply competing against myself. How do I be a better version of myself? And the way that that has been positive for me has been sometimes that's,

Maybe it's so entrenched in my personality that I'm simply not going to be able to dig this out. So how do I take it and turn it from a negative into a positive? And the way I've been working through that here at 44 has been just simply competing against myself. How do I be a better version of myself? And the way that that has been positive for me has been sometimes that's,

Being a little more understanding and less reactive to some crazy shit my kids do or not taking some hater online who, you know, comes after me for something that someone said on the podcast or whatever and getting emotional about it and just letting it roll because I it's more about my own performance. Right. And I don't as long as I feel good about it. So.

Being a little more understanding and less reactive to some crazy shit my kids do or not taking some hater online who, you know, comes after me for something that someone said on the podcast or whatever and getting emotional about it and just letting it roll because I it's more about my own performance. Right. And I don't as long as I feel good about it. So.

I mean, like, do you think you feel like you're going to be able to deal with that and get rid of it? Or is it a tool that you use and when you need it, you just pull it out of your tool belt, use that fuel for a bit, and then you put it back in?

I mean, like, do you think you feel like you're going to be able to deal with that and get rid of it? Or is it a tool that you use and when you need it, you just pull it out of your tool belt, use that fuel for a bit, and then you put it back in?

Yeah, I was listening to Tucker Carlson's podcast the other day. I like I like Tucker. He he can be batshit crazy, but I I really like him. And and he was talking about he was talking about his faith. And he said, you know, basically, whether you believe in God or not. your soul is seeking God, right? It is, right? And we find it in different ways.

Yeah, I was listening to Tucker Carlson's podcast the other day. I like I like Tucker. He he can be batshit crazy, but I I really like him. And and he was talking about he was talking about his faith. And he said, you know, basically, whether you believe in God or not. your soul is seeking God, right? It is, right? And we find it in different ways.

We can find it in, you know, we can pretend that we, you know, that we're secular. But ultimately, when you look into how someone lives their lives, there's a religion in their life, like something in their life becomes a religion. We always have a religion somewhere, whether we call it God or not. I call it God. I'm Christian and firm believer. And what I, my point in saying all that is,