anything goes with emma chamberlain
finding something nice to say about things i hate [video]
27 Feb 2025
[video available on spotify] in the last episode, we discussed how sometimes i can be a little bit of a hater. so today i had an idea to retrain my brain - find things that i hate unfairly, and then find something nice to say about them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Full Episode
In the last episode, we discussed how sometimes I can be a little bit of a hater, okay? And I say a little bit of a hater because unlike most haters, I don't seem like a hater. I don't spread hatred. I don't put people down. In fact, I tend to do the complete opposite. I'm very supportive and kind and nonjudgmental and loving. To the naked eye, I'm a bundle of love.
But in private, I can be a little bit of a hater, okay? And I've always sort of been that way. Like I've always found weirdly a sense of joy in novelty in hating on things. I've always sort of loved gossip. Like there's just something about me that enjoys hatred. It kind of reminds me of my relationship to nicotine. For whatever reason, I just like nicotine.
Some people I know couldn't care less about it. They smoke a vape, smoke a cigarette, whatever, and they just never get hooked, and they just never like it, and nicotine never works for them, and they just never get addicted, and it just never happens. I'm the opposite. For whatever reason, I've always loved it, okay? Does it ultimately impact me negatively?
Yes, because having nicotine in my system makes me anxious and paranoid, and it makes me dissociate. It has a bunch of negative effects. But in the short term, I love it. I absolutely love it. The way that it releases chemicals in my brain, I just absolutely love it. And I'm prone to being addicted to it. I feel the same way about being a hater. Like there's just something about me that enjoys it.
And again, like it could be much worse, right? There are people who are haters, chronic haters who spread hate. and who have a negative impact on the world. And I really don't think that I am that. I think I'm really good at controlling it and keeping it contained. You know, my hater only really comes out within the privacy of my own mind and my closest friends and family.
You know, I keep it really close to the chest. So me being a hater isn't, like, a worldly problem, okay? I'm not hurting people. I mean, maybe occasionally something gets out. Like, I don't know. But, like, for the most part, it's really just something that impacts me. I am the one who is ultimately being harmed by this. In the moment, it feels fun.
I love, you know, listening to a new album that just came out, right? Like a musical artist drops an album. I love listening to it and fucking hating on it. There's something fun about that. Again, in private, but there's something fun about it. I love when someone slightly wrongs me and they just become my fucking enemy in private. This person is just now my enemy.
There's something about that that I find fun. However, it's fully against privacy. my morals and values. Like, being a hater is fully against my morals and values. I do not think it's okay. I know it's bad. And it just happens to be something that I am particularly prone to. Which means I have to pay extra attention
to the side of my brain that can quickly fall into a hater sort of rhythm because I feel like our true colors and our weaknesses come out in challenging times, right? And so for me, when everything is good in my life, it's easy for me to not be a hater. I don't really have to check in on it I'm just not a hater.
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