Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant
20 May 2025
Did you know that 80% of people don’t know how to identify their feelings? In this episode, I sit down with Michelle Chalfant, licensed therapist, holistic coach, and creator of The Adult Chair model. She talks about the real root of your triggers, why most people don’t know how to set boundaries, and how your subconscious programming shapes everything from your romantic relationships to your leadership style. We dive into a powerful inner child process LIVE on this episode to break down how unhealed wounds show up in everyday life and tangible ways to rewire them. Get ready to feel seen, heard, and validated into the MOST emotionally FREE version of YOU. Remember, your emotions are not a weakness—they're YOUR superpower. In This Episode, You Will Learn 00:00 Why were most of us never taught how to set healthy boundaries? 07:00 How childhood modeling impacts your adult emotional patterns. 12:15 What your emotional triggers are actually trying to show you. 17:00 The unconscious belief systems formed before age 6. 24:30 How to reconnect with your inner child to heal abandonment. 29:00 LIVE demonstration of healing the “fear of being left”. 35:00 Why are romantic relationships the biggest mirror for your emotional wounds? 38:45 How reparenting your inner child transforms your confidence and relationships. 44:45 What to do when someone resists your new boundaries. Resources + Links Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/monahan Download the CFO’s Guide to AI and Machine Learning at NetSuite.com/MONAHAN. Want to do more and spend less like Uber, 8x8, and Databricks Mosaic? Take a free test drive of OCI at oracle.com/MONAHAN. Get 10% off your first Mitopure order at timeline.com/CONFIDENCE. Get 15% off your first order when you use code CONFIDENCE15 at checkout at jennikayne.com. Call my digital clone at 201-897-2553! Visit heathermonahan.com Sign up for my mailing list: heathermonahan.com/mailing-list/ Overcome Your Villains is Available NOW! Order here: https://overcomeyourvillains.com If you haven't yet, get my first book Confidence Creator Follow Heather on Instagram & LinkedIn Michelle on Instagram & LinkedIn
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Our emotions are our superpower. When we learn how to touch and feel our emotions, they become our superpower. It's where we gain our intuition. It's where we gain our needs. We want to learn how to feel. And I'm going to say eight out of 10 people, when I would ask them, Hey, what are you feeling? Like, tell me what's going on inside your body. They're like, I don't know. I feel angry. Okay.
What else? And man, when we start penetrating what what's going on in the body, and I say dropping down below the chin, it's like penetrating the chin. Like, what's going on down here instead of here? Game changer. Game changer. We try to solve everything. We go into our ego. We try to go into the mind and fix it and change things and make you change so I don't get so triggered.
No, you got to go in the body. And that's a key element of setting boundaries again.
come on this journey with me each week when you join me we are going to chase down our goals overcome adversity and set you up for a better tomorrow i'm ready for my close-up hi and welcome back i'm so glad you're back here with us this week okay here we go we've got michelle chalfant mslpc
She's a licensed therapist, holistic life coach, and author committed to helping individuals break free from limitations and discover their true selves. As the creator of The Adult Chair Model, she combines simple psychology with grounded spirituality to inspire personal transformation.
Her podcast, The Michelle Huffad Show, Life from the Adult Chair, has over 10 million downloads, offering practical tools and relatable insights for overcoming your challenges. Michelle's new book, The Adult Chair, Get Unstuck, Claim Your Power, and Transform Your Life, has just been released from random house and is available now.
Michelle leads transformative events, retreats and courses through the Academy of Awakening membership and trains others and her model via the adult chair coaching certification program, where she's creating a new generation of coaches. Michelle, thank you so much for being here today.
That's a mouthful. Thanks, Heather.
My gosh, an impressive background, that is for sure. All right, well, let's get into your new book because I'm so curious. You know, a lot of people listen to the show.
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