Confronting a former CIA Spy: ‘Are You Lying About Leaving the CIA?! | Andrew Bustamante

Want to learn more from Andrew?💜 Find your Spy Superpower💜 Read Andrew’s CIA book ‘Shadow Cell’ 💜 Follow Andy on YouTube💜 Explore Spy School 💜 Support Andy's sponsor Axolt Brain 💜 Listen to the podcastWhat can we learn from CIA spies about love and relationships?Former CIA intelligence officer Andrew Bustamante reveals how the same psychological tactics used in espionage can build—or destroy—trust, intimacy, and even family life. Once a covert CIA operative, Andrew still speaks like a man who may never have fully left the agency… leaving viewers wondering how deep the secrets go.In this fascinating episode of Desirable, Andrew breaks down how spycraft shapes everything from marriage to parenting—and even how public figures like Charlie Kirk prove we’re all being subtly controlled by information, narrative, and emotional manipulation.He shares:✅ How he proposed to his CIA-agent wife through a covert six-month operation✅ The emotional cost of loving someone trained never to trust✅ Why he parents like a spy—teaching his kids with “the illusion of choice”✅ How the CIA recruits through trauma, loyalty & validation needs✅ Why intelligence isn’t fact—it’s probability—and how that controls public thinking✅ The truth about conspiracies, propaganda & mass persuasion✅ The two spy tools that can strengthen any relationship: perspective-shifting & curiosity✅ What real emotional security looks like when you’ve been trained to lie for a livingThis is a rare look inside both the human and psychological side of espionage—and what it can teach us about love, control, and raising the next generation. Chapters:00:00 Intro01:51 The Proposal Story14:29 Challenges of Marriage and Parenthood24:04 Understanding Human Behavior26:12 The Three Lives Concept32:45 Parenting with CIA Insights34:06 Non-Traditional Parenting Choices35:25 The Illusion of Choice35:41 Deciding to Homeschool36:20 Challenges with Traditional Schooling38:52 CIA Training and Breaking the System43:57 The Impact of Father Figures48:15 CIA Recruitment and Loyalty01:00:29 The Culture of Silent Professionals01:09:52 Personal Safety and Family Concerns01:10:09 Navigating Public Exposure and Security Measures01:13:25 The Reality of Intelligence Work01:15:27 The Anatomy of a Conspiracy01:18:12 Cultural Observations and Political Divisions01:36:19 CIA Tools for Relationship Building01:41:39 Concluding Thoughts on Relationships and Personal GrowthConnect with Us: 💜 Sign up for Sonya Love's Dare To Love coaching program

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