120. Break Free from Perfectionism, People-Pleasing, and Emotional Outsourcing with Béa Victoria Albina

Get the FREE Tapping Video to Stop the Late Day Emotional Eating. Click here: https://kimhynes.com/late-day-emotional-eating-tapping-video What if the reason you feel stuck isn't because you're "broken," but because you've been trained to put everyone else first? In this episode, I'm joined by Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP, to explore her powerful concept of emotional outsourcing—the habit of sourcing our safety, belonging, and worth from others instead of ourselves. Béa shares how perfectionism, people-pleasing, and codependency are often survival strategies written into our nervous systems by childhood experiences, cultural conditioning, and even systemic forces. She explains the vital role of somatic awareness, why "kitten steps" create safer change than big leaps, and how to begin listening to your body's needs in the smallest moments—like pausing before your morning coffee. We also discuss: How your nervous system responds to stress, and the three key branches that shape your reactions The truth about being "too sensitive" and why big emotions aren't a flaw Practical grounding and orienting tools to stop reactive patterns before they happen Why midlife women struggle with authenticity and self-acceptance, and how to reclaim joy at any age The connection between feeling unworthy and using food to cope This conversation is both compassionate and fiercely empowering, offering real-world practices to help you step back into your own worth, safety, and belonging—without guilt or apology. About Béa: Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP, is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, and Master Certified Somatic Life Coach. She helps women break free from codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing by reconnecting with their bodies, regulating their nervous systems, and rewiring their minds. Béa is the host of the Feminist Wellness podcast and author of the upcoming End Emotional Outsourcing (Sept 30, Hachette Balance). With over 20 years in health and wellness, she holds a Master's in Public Health from Boston University and a BA from Oberlin College. Born in Argentina and raised in Rhode Island, she now lives with her wife, Billey, and their beloved black cat, Wade. Connect with Béa: Grab your free downloads here:  https://beatrizalbina.com/free-meditations/ Website:  https://beatrizalbina.com/ Book Website:  https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/ Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/feminist-wellness/id1454980022 If this episode resonated with you: Share it with a friend who needs a mindset shift around food. Hit Follow or Subscribe so you never miss an episode. Leave a review — it helps other midlife women find this support. Join the Conversation, Coaching and Community: Continue learning, talking, and getting coaching and support around emotional eating, midlife women's health, and menopause by joining the Emotional Eats Community. Click here to join: https://kimhynes.com/emotional-eats-community-sign-up Connect with Kim: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimhyneshealth Website: https://www.kimhynes.com Podcast: https://kimhynes.com/podcast If you like the Emotional Eats podcast, please subscribe, follow, and leave a 5-star rating and review. Tag us on social media—I would be so grateful.   SLEEP BETTER AND COOLER WITH COZY EARTH Midlife makes me want the softest sheets and clothing!  I know you get me.  We need temperature controlled sheets for those evening sweats and no more scratchy clothes. Get 40% off bamboo sheets and amazing sleepwear and loungewear. Make sure to use the code EATS to get you discount at https://cozyearth.com/ Disclaimer: The information in this podcast is not intended to replace working with your doctor, medical provider, or mental health professional. It is for conversation, information, and entertainment only. Note: Some links may be affiliate links, and I may receive a small commission or sponsorship support at no extra cost to you. These partnerships help me keep the Emotional Eats Podcast going and allow me to continue creating free content to support you on your journey.

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