How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Ask the Dating Coach: ‘I Don’t Think I’m Good-Looking. Do I Even Have a Chance with Women?’
15 Apr 2025
Do you worry that you’re just not good-looking enough to date the kinds of women you’re into? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett helps a man who wonders if any women will ever want him because he thinks he’s “ugly.” Connell breaks down what actually makes a man attractive—and it’s not male-model looks. Plus, another listener asks why women agree to dates and then cancel last minute, and Connell shares an easy fix.Episode Highlights:05:30: “Connell, Am I Not Good-Looking Enough to Attract Women?”15:15: “I Cried During ‘Titanic’ and She Ghosted Me—Was I Too Vulnerable?”20:25: “Damn You, Autocorrect! I Just Called Her ‘Boobzilla’!”24:14: “Why Do Women Keep Canceling on Me Last Minute?”32:45: “She Loves My Dog but Not Me. Am I in the Friend Zone?”Listen now and take the next step toward meeting your dream girlfriend.DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:[email protected]
Full Episode
In dating, good looks are a lot like Jacuzzis. They're nice to have, but they're overrated. Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I am your host, dating coach, Conal Barrett. Think of me as your podcast dating coach. I am here to help you flirt with confidence, get more dates with very attractive, intriguing women, and help you get a great girlfriend. And do it with authenticity.
By being your truest, most authentic self, no sketchy pickup artist moves needed. Because guess what? Women are attracted to you at your most authentic and most confident you. That's right. Mom was right all along. Girls like you for you. So this is about dating with success, results, but also with respect for women, integrity and respect, and also authenticity. So let's get into it.
And today I've got a really fun episode. Today we're going to answer some questions. I'm going to answer some questions that I've been getting from you because there's a lot of dating problems out there that men want help with. I've got some good questions. I've got a gentleman asking me about, is he just not good looking enough to get successful dates and to get a great partner?
I've got a really interesting question from a man who is having trouble getting women to show up on dates. He gets ghosted a lot and gets canceled on a lot. So if you ever get flaked on, if you ever get ghosted, today's a great episode for you.
If you're not sure if you're good looking enough, or maybe you're just not physically handsome enough to attract your type of girlfriend, today's a great episode for you. And then I've got a fun sort of silly wildcard question. A man wrote me and said, hey, Connell, I really screwed up. Basically, he cried on a date while watching the movie Titanic. He cried and the woman lost interest.
And he wants to know if he's just too nice, too sensitive. So we've got some really good stuff today, and I think you're going to like today's episode as we play a little Ask the Dating Coach. So you asked, I'll be answering today. So I can't wait for that. And one of the things that I like to make sure I help you with here on the podcast is flirting.
Making sure you always know what to say, how to talk to women, both in person on dates or when you approach, or also online when sending messages, when texting. It's really important to know how to talk to women. I think struggling to know what to say to women is... the most universal dating problem that I hear from men. Variations of that. What do I say? What's my opener? How do I flirt?
What do I say when I approach? What do I say to not get rejected? How do I stay out of the friend zone? It's all different variations of what do I say. And if you don't know how to talk to women, that's a problem. It leads to ghosting, It leads to getting friend-zoned after one or two dates that fall flat because a woman thinks, eh, he's nice but kind of boring.
And it can lead to loneliness or it can contribute to loneliness if you ever feel lonely. Because struggling with flirting and what to say really does get in the way of finding love and finding that special person. And I have been there. I struggled with this as well. I didn't know how to flirt, how to talk to women.
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