How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Do Women Ignore You on the Apps? These 12 Profile MUSTS Will Finally Get You Great Matches (Part 1 of 4)
22 Apr 2025
Not getting good matches on Hinge, Bumble or the apps? The problem isn’t you. (You’re awesome!) It’s your profile. You’re probably missing a few of the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Profile. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the 12 photo and bio upgrades that will get you great matches—so you can finally start dating women you’re excited about. And you’ll do this with charm and authenticity, no sketchy pickup moves needed!Here are the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Dating Profile:08:40: #1: A Magnetic First Portrait Showcasing the Authentic You13:00: #2: A “Knockout” Second Photo17:01: #3: A “Man of Action” Picture20:41: #4: Show Off Your Social Proof24:55: #5: Tug At Her Heartstrings28:28: #6: Flirtatious Energy32:43: #7: A Bio Hook She Can’t Resist35:27: #8: Show, Don’t Tell!36:54: #9: On Your Bio, Be Specific (Not Vague)38:28: #10: Display Your Authentic Sense of Humor40:43: #11: Write an “Emotional Maturity” Prompt43:19: #12: No! Red! Flags!DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:[email protected]
Full Episode
Showcase your authentic sense of humor. If you can make her laugh, you are more attractive than a guy with six-pack abs. Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I am your host, dating coach Conal Barrett. I'm the best-selling author of Dating Sucks But You Don't. I'm a dating coach.
I am your podcast dating coach, here to help you confidently flirt with women, get more dates, and find your dream girlfriend. And do this all by being authentic. No sketchy pickup artist moves needed. Women like you for you. And my question for you today is, do you struggle to get quality matches and dates on the apps? If you're like most men, you do. And it's really frustrating, right?
I know what that's like, which I'll tell you about in a second. And today I want to help you fix that by helping you fix your profile. So today I'm going to go through a 12 point checklist to show you exactly why you're not getting matches right now. and to help you start getting matches and dates, basically dates on demand, with wonderful women.
Because when you're not getting quality matches on the apps, oh man, it feels like women just aren't into you. It makes you feel unwanted. It can make you feel unlovable, unattractive. even hopeless. And I totally get this feeling. Long before I became a dating coach, I struggled with all the core dating problems that men deal with. And I struggled on the dating apps too.
And I swiped and I swiped basically until I had carpal tunnel. And I just really struggled. At my lowest point with online dating, I remember... There was a point where I had literally only one match in the entire New York City area. I live in New York City where there's 20 million people in the greater New York area. I had one quality match. And she didn't even live in New York City.
She lived 3,000 miles away. So I basically had one match in all of America. And I was feeling so lonely and so desperate at that time that I actually flew across the country to surprise her in SF. She and I had been chatting on the app, and I said, you know what? I'm going to surprise her, just like those guys in the rom-com movies.
I saw myself as Lloyd Dobler in Say Anything, thinking, okay, I'll surprise her. I'll show up with my proverbial boombox and sweep her off her feet. So I fly to SF. I leave roses on her doorstep and a card that says, surprise, Connell's in town. Can't wait to meet you. And I waited and I waited and I waited for her text message to say, oh my God, you're here. Her name is Vanessa, by the way.
And I was waiting for Vanessa to text me and she never did. She ghosted me. So I flew to SF and got ghosted. And I felt completely rejected in that moment because I had literally no options, no dating options, and no online dating options. And that's what a weak online dating profile does. It doesn't just limit your matches, but it can make you feel lonely. It can make you feel rejected.
It can make you needy and desperate like it did me. But here's the good news, though. The good news is if you're struggling with online dating, if you're not getting matches, It's not you. It's your profile. And this is totally fixable. In fact, my book is called Dating Sucks But You Don't because it came from a conversation I had with a client. And he was bummed out about his lack of matches.
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