Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Mattering in Love: Stop Settling—Choose Love That Sees You (Part 1) EP 576
21 Feb 2025
What if the missing piece in your love life isn’t about finding the right person—but about how you see yourself?In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles explores the concept of mattering in love—why the way you perceive your own worth directly impacts the relationships you attract and accept.Too many people stay in relationships that leave them feeling unseen, undervalued, and emotionally drained—not because they don’t want love, but because they don’t believe they truly matter.Download the Leave Behind in the full show notes at: https://passionstruck.com/mattering-in-love/John breaks down:✅ How your self-worth dictates your relationship choices✅ The danger of chasing validation instead of genuine connection✅ Why so many people mistake attachment for love✅ How to stop settling and start building relationships where you feel chosen, valued, and seenIf you’ve ever felt like you had to earn someone’s affection, if you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, or if love has felt more like a struggle than a source of joy, this episode will change your perspective.💡 Mattering in love starts with you—and when you believe you matter, the way you experience love will never be the same.Tune in now and start making the shift toward love that truly fulfills you.Next Episode Preview: Next week, I’m sitting down Edward Fishman, author of choke points, waging economic war in the 21st century. 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Full Episode
Coming up next on Passion Struck. What if I told you that the biggest reason people stay in unfulfilling relationships isn't love, it's self-worth? That most people aren't actually choosing love, they're just trying not to be alone. The truth is, the way you experience love is a direct reflection of what you believe you deserve.
And if you keep attracting people who don't show up for you, if you feel like you have to convince someone to choose you, then it's time to shift your mindset. In this episode, I'm breaking down the mattering mindset in love, how to stop settling, start building better relationships, and finally feel seen, valued, and chosen. Because love isn't something you earn.
It's something you build with the right person. Ready to change the way you love? Let's dive in.
welcome to passion struck hi i'm your host john r miles and on the show we decipher the secrets tips and guidance of the world's most inspiring people and turn their wisdom into practical advice for you and those around you our mission is to help you unlock the power of intentionality so that you can become the best version of yourself if you're new to the show i offer advice and answer listener questions on fridays
We have long-form interviews the rest of the week with guests ranging from astronauts to authors, CEOs, creators, innovators, scientists, military leaders, visionaries, and athletes. Now, let's go out there and become PassionStruck. Hey there, PassionStruck fam. Welcome to episode 576. Whether you've been here for a while or this is your first time, welcome.
This is where we challenge conventional thinking and create lives of impact. Earlier this week, we had two incredible conversations that pushed the boundaries of personal transformation. On Tuesday, I sat down with Randy Blight, frontman of Lamb of God, to discuss resilience, discipline, and how art can be a vehicle for self-discovery.
Then, on Thursday, Dr. Scott Scher joined me to explore cutting-edge science and longevity in peak performance, sharing how GABA, one of the most misunderstood neurotransmitters, is changing the game in human optimization. And today, we're shifting the focus again, because what if the missing piece in your life isn't just about personal success or growth, but about the way you approach love?
Let me ask you something. Have you ever stayed in a relationship that made you feel invisible? Have you ever chased someone who never really chose you? Have you ever convinced yourself that a situation was more than it actually was? Just because you didn't want to admit the truth, here's the hard reality.
So many people settle for relationships that leave them feeling unfulfilled, undervalued, and unseen. And it's not because they want to settle. It's not because they don't want a great relationship. It's because they don't believe they matter. And when you don't believe you matter, when you don't believe you're worthy of the love you actually want, this is what happens. You settle.
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