REAL AF with Andy Frisella
872. Q&AF: Too Focused, Approaching Senior Leadership & Switching Industries In Business
Mon, 28 Apr 2025
On today's episode, Andy answers your live call-in questions on how to balance personal life with your professional life when you are “too focused” on your goals, how to best approach senior leadership at work for approval, and what are some best practices to implement when switching industries in business.
Chapter 1: What is the format of the Q&A session?
What is up guys it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realest say goodbye to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we have Q and AF that's where you submit the questions or call in the show and And we answer them. Now, you can submit your questions a few different ways.
First way is... Guys, you can keep emailing these questions in to askandy at andyforsella.com.
Or you can go to the link in this video right down there. Click on it. Fill it out. and be on the call-in show. Click that shit. Is that correct? That is, yeah. All right, I'm just learning this new, this whole new thing.
Technology. You know what I'm saying? That's right.
Yeah. I'm going to become a technology mogul. Yeah. People don't understand that yet, but we're going to see. I'm going to show everybody how you can not know shit and then become the fucking man. And learn it. Yeah. It's called learning. Yep. So, yeah, that's what we're going to do today, Q&AF. Oh, yeah. Yeah, tomorrow we're going to have CTI. That is Cruise the Internet.
That is our current event show. That's where we talk about what's going on. We throw stuff up on the screen. We speculate. We laugh. We have a good time. We talk about what's true and what's not true. Then we talk about what we're going to do about these problems going on in the world. Other times we're going to have real talk. Real talk is just five, 20 minutes to give them some real talk.
And then we have 75 hard versus. That's where people have completed the 75 hard program, come on the show, talk about how they were before, how they are now, and how they used the 75 hard program to change the dumpster fire of a life into a non-dumpster fire life. Right? That's right. Yeah. If you're unfamiliar with 75 Hard, you've been living under a rock. Let's be real. So here's the deal.
It's the initial phase of the Live Hard program. It's the most popular mental transformation program ever. And you get it for free at episode 208 on the audio feed. That's 208 on the audio feed. There's also a book at andyparcella.com called The Book on Mental Toughness. You can get that as well. It's not required. The program's free. Do it. P.S. Share the show. Don't be a hoe. Share the show.
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Chapter 2: How can I balance discipline with personal life?
And so I feel like, you know, prefacing that I'm about to get married this October. Um, I find myself a lot of times kind of, you know, easily saying no to whether it's, you know, social occasions or things that my significant other wants to go do. And, um, it's kind of one of those things that I do and I feel like I shouldn't do like I'm, I'm cognizant that I'm doing it, but I know I shouldn't.
And, um, I'm just kind of wondering how, whenever you and Emily were first getting together and, you know, you were still, you know, making your climb to the top, how you kind of implemented time with her and, you know, made it a point to show that she's, you know, a big part of your life and, you know, a part of your success.
Well, uh, Drew, okay. Um, So let me just clarify what you're saying. So you're saying that you've been, are you following the live hard program or are you just doing 75 hard or how are you doing it?
So I've done the live hard before, but typically I'm just doing about two 75 hards a year. You know, I mean, but even when I'm not doing 75 hard, I'm still kind of just like a hermit year round. Like You know, I never want to go out and drink. I never want to go out and do social occasions. I've become very quick to say no when it comes to going and doing fun things.
And after I'm done with my tasks for the day, I kind of just want to go home and do nothing. But I just understand how that could be not great in a relationship or, you know, not a good way to have a marriage, yeah.
Okay, so... Let me unpack this for you, all right? First of all, I think you're thinking of it in a very healthy way, okay? Most people don't suck at life because they have too much discipline. It's the other thing, okay? It's the other way. Most people's lives suck because they have no discipline. So we often talk about the... benefits of being disciplined.
But what we have to understand is the reason that we want to develop the skill of discipline is so that we can improve the quality of life that we have for ourselves and our family. So if that costs us the rest of our social life and our friends and our family and everything, Is it really worth that? You know, that's not the point of it.
The point of it is to gain the power to adhere to a plan so that we can lay out any plan in front of us and execute it. And right now your plan, a big part of your plan is I want to have a good relationship with my fiance and my future wife. And I found myself not doing that because I feel like I'm focused over here in this other area. We don't do 75 hard or live hard for the sake of doing it.
We do it so we have the power to make decisions. And the decisions that you need to make are decisions that When I, just like in the beginning, when I don't feel like working out, I'm going to go work out. Okay. And how many times do you regret those workouts? None. So I'm going to offer a perspective change for you. Your perspective change is this.
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Chapter 3: What strategies can I use to approach senior leadership?
He's about to lie.
He said, I'm actually literally taking a shit.
That's all right.
Ivan recognized about three quarters of the way through that. He's like, no, I'm just going to tell him the truth.
Let it rip. All right, man.
Ivan, what's going on, man?
What do we got? How can you get better today?
Yeah, for sure, man. So, I've been at it, you know, I just turned 30. You know, I've had my own business for the past six years. I started off with a marketing agency. And then probably about four years in, I decided to switch businesses. And now I'm basically going all in on my second business.
And, you know, I feel like I've made progress and, but it's been slower than I expected, you know, and, and I've been listening to Andy for the past, I don't know, six, seven years. I've been using the power list and everything else like that. So I know, you know, it's going to happen, but it's just it's slower than I obviously expected it to happen.
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Chapter 4: How do I transition effectively when switching industries?
OK, and they got a company that's winning and they've understood the process of building and creating and becoming what it is they want to become from the bottom up. Now you have a skill set. OK, so I'm going to take that skill set. I'm applied over here to the restaurant business. Totally different fucking thing. You see what I'm saying? So we have to understand that.
the game is the fucking game and if you don't know you don't know but but you are capable of learning and you are capable of becoming competent you are capable of winning you just got to be willing to pay that price of the time over again and by the way Each time you pay the price, it's actually shorter because you're accumulating more skills from each experience.
So, yeah, the average millionaire or seven, yeah, after they figured out a whole bunch of shit, you know, there's nothing worse than a bunch of inexperienced fucking cyber tards, okay, trying to open up seven businesses because they think that, like, bro, you're going to fail at all of them. You know what I mean?
They got seven sources after they became a millionaire.
Right.
That's exactly correct.
Yeah.
So yeah, bro, it's just, uh, It's just faulty thinking, it's not reality. I know it makes sense to hear someone's... Listen, most of the shit these motherfuckers say on the internet is wrong, okay? Most of the shit that most of these people tell these kids on the internet is based in theory, not experience.
It's very easy for someone who's actually built things to look at them saying that and say, this is total bullshit.
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