If you’ve ever wished you could cut through the noise of self-help fluff and get straight to the good stuff, buckle up. Hilary is about to deliver 25 years’ worth of raw, unfiltered, no-BS therapy advice—distilled into just 12 minutes. Best believe she’s not here to hand you more surface-level band-aids for your problems. Hilary’s seen it all. After tens of thousands of hours spent in one-on-one sessions with clients, she’s got the receipts on what works and what doesn’t. In this episode, she calls out the big lie of self-help: most advice out there is just symptom management. Meditate your anxiety away? Sure, that’s cute—for a minute. But unless you tackle the root cause, it’s like playing whack-a-mole with your problems. The truth is, you are both the problem and the solution. And while that truth might sting, it’s also your golden ticket to real change. Hilary’s “self-centered” model shows you how to stop blaming the world and start owning your life. She’ll guide you through identifying the limiting beliefs and patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free once and for all. Episode Highlights: Why most advice is just symptom management and how it keeps you stuck. The real problem: Hint—it’s you (and that’s great news). Hilary’s “self-centered” model and why it changes everything. How to spot and break free from limiting beliefs and recurring patterns that keep you stuck. Why taking ownership of your life is the ultimate game-changer. Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Welcome and Introduction [02:30] The Five Self-Centered Core Concepts [03:01] The Real Problem vs. Temporary Solutions [03:56] Root Cause and Recurring Patterns [04:27] YOU Are the Problem [05:20] Self-betrayal and Trusting Yourself [07:17] Stop Blaming Others! [07:28] Ownership, Responsibility, and Mindset Shift [08:10] Ultimate Power [09:35] Empowerment, Liberation, and the Magic Pill Ready to Transform Your Life? Don’t just listen—take action. Watch this episode to start making powerful changes today. And if you’re ready to go deeper, sign up for Hilary’s free video training, This Changes Everything: http://hilarysilver.com/guides. Your best life starts here. Don’t wait.
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I'm going to change your life in the next 12 minutes, so I hope you will take this opportunity to listen. I'm going to drop some knowledge on you that comes from a more legit place than all the major so-called experts who are in the spotlight today. I haven't just read books, and I didn't just interview other people, and I'm not just taking other people's ideas and making them my own.
I'm sharing with you the wisdom and perspective that I've gained from 25 years of working in the trenches, boots on the ground with countless clients as a clinical psychotherapist and a master coach. Literally tens of thousands of hours of active listening in face-to-face one-on-one personal conversations with men, women, and couples.
I have been privy to the most intimate and private inner thoughts of thousands of people, hearing directly from them in their most vulnerable times and in the most raw and unfiltered way, what they struggle with, what they worry about and wonder about, sitting with them through their grief and their anxiety, fear, shame, guilt, and insecurities, all the suffering.
So today and in the next couple of episodes, I'm distilling it all down to one powerful model. It's an approach that is the solution to all of life's challenges, obstacles, and struggles. It's a revolutionary new way of thinking about yourself, and it doesn't just change your life, it changes everything. A gift for anyone who has the good sense to listen to me. Hi, it's Hillary.
Welcome to the Hillary Silver Podcast. Thanks for tuning into the conversation today. If you haven't already, it would mean so much to me if you'd take a minute to just click that five-star rating on your podcast app, leave a review and subscribe so you never miss one of my episodes.
And if you're enjoying this podcast, please consider sharing it with a friend because if you like it, they will probably like it too. Self-centered. That is what I call the model I've spent the last two and a half decades developing, testing, and perfecting with endless research and application. It's the method I've been using to help my clients experience profound personal transformation.
So it is proven. It's proven to work. And there are five core concepts that I want to be sharing with you today and in the next four episodes. So make sure that you stick around because you want to get all five of them. They all really build on each other and work together and you don't really want one without the other. So the first thing that I want to share with you is this.
No matter what my clients have struggled with, love issues, weight issues, career issues, family problems and parenting, friendship problems, loneliness, body image issues, depression, anxiety, food issues, all those things, no matter what that is, and we all have that stuff in our lives, the solution is never found by focusing on those things.
Because while all of that can be very problematic and it is absolutely painful, none of that is actually the real problem. Those are all surface level problems. They are the secondary problems, which means they are all symptoms of the real problem, which we will get to in just a minute. But most helpers will stay on the surface and help you deal with those situations.
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