Episode 28: 6 Reasons Why You’re Stuck If you’ve mastered the “know better” game but somehow can’t crack the code to “do better“, this episode is for you! Hilary digs into the hidden mental blocks that keep you looping back to old habits. Tired of self-help that doesn’t stick? Get ready to uncover the six secret saboteurs standing between you and real, lasting change. Episode Highlights: Hilary breaks down three levels of self-awareness that expose why we keep circling back to old patterns. Blaming external forces? Check. Realizing you’re the common thread? Check. Knowing what to change but still stuck? Triple check. Hilary dives into six reasons why you’re not seeing results—whether it’s not really wanting change, focusing on behavior instead of mindset, leaning on the wrong support, using the wrong methods, finding comfort in the struggle, or holding on to your past identity. Hilary’s challenge: Ask yourself the tough questions about what you’re gaining from staying stuck and whether you’re ready to tell a new story. Episode Breakdown: [00:00] What Makes Change So Hard? [00:21] Three Levels of Awareness: Where Do You Stand? [02:27] The Six Sticking Points to Real Change [11:15] Letting Go of the Old Stories Ditch the excuses, and start rewriting your story today. Want more of Hilary’s game-changing tools? Grab her free, paradigm-flipping resources right here: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/
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Have you ever tried to change a specific behavior, a pattern, or a circumstance in your life, but no matter how much you learn about why you do what you do and how to change it, nothing actually ever really changes? The truth is there are powerful subconscious reasons why you might be holding yourself back from the changes that you wanna make in your life.
So in today's conversation, I'm gonna share the three levels of awareness and six reasons why you might be stuck doing what I call knowing better, but not doing better, so you can break free once and for all. This one will make you rethink your approach to change. Hi, it's Hillary. Welcome to the Hillary Silver Podcast. Thanks for tuning into the conversation today.
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I've come to identify that there are three levels of awareness that we have when it comes to the things that aren't working in our lives. So level one awareness is, it's not me that's the problem. It's not me that needs to change. I'm amazing and confident and aware. It's everything out there that's the problem.
Whether it's your partner, your parents, your kids, your boss, your team, all the men in the world, all the women in the world, all of society or patriarchy, whatever it is. To these people I say, good luck with that. Those people don't tend to like me very much. Level two awareness is when people say to me, Hillary, I know it must be me.
I know I'm the common denominator here, but I have no idea what I'm doing wrong. Please, for the love of God, just tell me what I'm doing wrong. I like these people because they're looking for the answers and they're more likely to succeed.
Level three is when we know what we're doing, why we are doing it, where it comes from, and even what we want to be doing differently, but we still can't make the change. This is what I call knowing better, but not doing better.
And it's super painful and frustrating, more so than ever, because it's like when we're trying to lose 30 pounds, you know you shouldn't eat the junk food, but you do it anyway. And then later you're just like, God damn it, I did it again. You're mad at yourself for eating the chips. It's really hard. So let's talk about why we get stuck. There are six subconscious reasons why we get stuck.
Number one, let's kick things off with the hardest truth. The reason that you might not be changing is that you really kind of don't want to change or you just don't want to change badly enough. So maybe you feel like you should lose weight because society and all the fitness influencers tell you that you should when you actually are kind of content where you are.
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