Setting big goals is easy. Staying on track when life inevitably throws you a curveball? That’s the real challenge. In this episode, Hillary Silver shares seven game-changing tools to help you stay committed to your goals—even when you mess up (because you will, and that’s okay). Forget perfectionism; it’s about showing up for yourself, learning from setbacks, and making progress every day. Hillary dives into the practical and mindset shifts needed to turn your resolutions into realities, without the self-sabotage or endless restarts. From getting crystal clear on your goals to forgiving yourself when things go sideways, this episode is packed with no-BS advice to keep you moving forward—even if you fall off the wagon a time or two. Episode Highlights: Get Clear AF on your goals—it's non-negotiable. Break it down into bite-sized objectives and baby steps. Celebrate mess-ups—they’re not failures, they’re feedback! Reframe Success: Focus on effort and self-pride over external results. Step into the identity of the future you who’s already achieved it. Check Yourself! Are these goals really yours, or someone else’s expectations? Forgive the mess-ups, recommit, and love yourself through it all. Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Overcoming Goal Setbacks [01:44] The Reality of Messing Up [02:05] Tool 1: Clarify Your Big Goal [03:18] Tool 2: Differentiate Goals and Objectives [05:00] Tool 3: Celebrate Daily Progress [07:00] Tool 4: Accept Imperfections and Mess-Ups [08:24] Tool 5: Celebrate the Mess-Ups [10:09] Tool 6: Talk to Yourself as Your Future Self [12:27] Tool 7: Check Your True Motivation [15:14] Tool 8: Forgive Yourself and Reconnect to Your Why [16:27] Stay Committed to Your Goals If you're tired of restarting the same goals and ready to finally show up for yourself with love and clarity, Hillary's got you covered. Check out her free mini training, This Changes Everything, and her programs designed to help you crush your goals with confidence. Grab them (and free resources!) at hilarysilver.com/guides. Let’s make this your year! 🌟
Chapter 1: How can I stay committed to my goals when I mess up?
So you've got big dreams, ambitious goals, or you want to change yourself, your life, or your business in some way. Amazing. You start off strong and follow the plan for a couple of weeks, but then life kicks in, real life kicks in, and you fall off the plan, or you forget that you're even trying to do things differently now, and you fall back into status quo, what it's always been.
How many times have you had the same resolution, or how long have you actually been working on the same goal? This is because the process of achieving our big goals and desired outcomes, the how we go about getting there, is mostly what derails us, making it harder than it needs to be.
Chapter 2: What are the first steps to clarifying my big goal?
And then we often just give up when we mess up, and then all those dreams go unfulfilled, all the goals go unrealized. So today I'm showing you how to stay committed to yourself and your goals even when you mess up. so that you can stay the course, be in it for the long haul, and really truly get what you want.
The truth is the only way that you truly fail is if you stop trying and give up when you mess up. Hi, it's Hillary. Welcome to the Hillary Silver Podcast. Thanks for tuning into the conversation today. If you haven't already, it would mean so much to me if you'd take a minute to just click that five-star rating on your podcast app, leave a review and subscribe so you never miss one of my episodes.
Chapter 3: How do I differentiate between goals and objectives?
And if you're enjoying this podcast, please consider sharing it with a friend because if you like it, they will probably like it too. Let's talk about the moments when you set a goal or a resolution and then life happens. You mess up. You have one of those, why did I do that moments? It's frustrating, right? But here's the thing. Messing up isn't a dead end. It's really just part of the journey.
Chapter 4: Why is celebrating daily progress important?
So I have seven tools that that can help you stay on track even when things don't go perfectly. And even if you only just implement one of these, it's going to help you dramatically. So first, make sure that your big goal is actually very clear to you. And to do that, you can use your senses. What does it look like? feel like, taste like, smell like?
Chapter 5: How can I accept my imperfections and mess-ups?
What does it actually look like to live your life when the goal is achieved? What are you doing differently? How are you living your life? And what are the choices that you're making in this future state? If you can't visualize it, you can't create it. period. So don't be vague. You have to be very specific.
This is why people use vision boards to have images to go with that outcome that they want. I personally don't like using vision boards, but it works well for a lot of people. Just in case you're wondering why I don't like vision boards, I just don't have time to cut out all the pictures and do all that craftsy stuff. I can use my imagination and my visualization practice to see it and feel it.
And it's more real to me that way, actually. The Daily Journal is an amazing product for that. I'll also put the link to that in the show notes. The second thing I want to make sure that you understand is that there is a difference between goals and objectives. So you have your big goal and vision for yourself, and it's very clear for you now because you've done step one.
Objectives are the small baby steps, the actions that you will take each day that slowly add up to the big outcome. So break this all down to small, measurable, tangible actions or tasks that you can do each day. efficient actions that make it clear and easy what you need to do in the moment.
Chapter 6: What should I do when I feel stuck or off track?
It makes it feel like you just need to step over a small bump rather than climbing a big hill all the time. So what are all the little things that you need to do that will help you move the needle towards your goal little by little? Write a list of all the things that will help you get there. And those are the things that you need to be focusing on every day.
You can include the big needle movers too because some actions will have a bigger impact than others. All of this will help you actually make progress rather than just squirreling around and going nowhere because you don't know what you need to be doing to get closer to your goal.
Chapter 7: How can I forgive myself and reconnect to my motivation?
So for example, if you're starting or growing a business, you know exactly what you need to do one little bit at a time. And spending your valuable time on anything other than the things that create revenue is not the best way to spend your time. Only do the things that only you can do. Spending your time on all the other things is just sabotage.
It's procrastination, distraction, or just not being focused. You have to set yourself up for success here and not sabotage yourself. But here's a caveat. You have to be honest with yourself here. Are you really going to do these things? If not, then do not put them on your list because you just won't do it, and then you're gonna feel bad that you didn't.
Or put them on the list, but delegate them to someone else. So some things that I just know I will not do, it's just not who I am. And I know myself really well and I just will not ever, ever do it. So it does not go on my list. For example, posting on Instagram every day, even though I want to grow on that platform, it would be nice. I just cannot and will not post there.
It's okay if you won't do certain things, but what else can you do that will be effective in moving the needle for you? Ask yourself, what is it about this one thing that you're resisting? If you can see why you won't do it, then you can figure out an adjustment, an alternative action.
So my reason for not posting on Instagram every day is that I really just wanna live my life without thinking about always taking videos and photos of what I'm doing While I'm doing it, I want to be present in my life and have a very healthy balance between living my life for me and for my family and what I choose to share with the public.
I don't want to be walking around in my life with my camera up high and smiling and taking selfies everywhere I go. That is just not who I am and what I want. So if it means I don't get to have a larger audience on Instagram, then so be it.
And when we want the thing really badly, but we don't want to do those little bits and pieces objectives along the way, you ask yourself, what is the other way to get this? For me, the alternative is to hire a team, which I have always done on and off over the years to help me. So can you hire a meal prep service to help you eat healthier?
Hire a house manager or a cleaning service to help you clean your home and be more organized. Some things you just don't have to do yourself. Third, celebrate each day that you met one or a few of your objectives. If you only celebrate when you get to that big final goal, you will lose momentum and give up. So it is important to acknowledge your progress.
even just 1% better each day is something to celebrate and deserves your own recognition and praise. When we're talking about changing our ways and making inroads towards our goals, we need to give ourselves credit where credit is due for all the little things we're doing along the way. Fourth, accept that this is not an all or nothing game here.
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