Episode 33: Mental Load: Feel More Joy & Drop The Invisible Weight Ladies, it's time to ditch the Superwoman cape! Who says you have to be the holiday magic-maker while juggling life like a circus act? In this episode, Hilary Silver pulls back the curtain on the mental load—the invisible, never-ending to-do list that's got you running the household 24/7. And let's be real, the holidays just crank up the chaos. Hilary reveals the truth about why we end up stuck in this exhausting role and how to step back without the guilt trip. With her no-nonsense advice and a wink of tough love, she's here to help you share the load, kick perfectionism to the curb, and finally enjoy that spiked eggnog this season. Episode Highlights: Hilary dishes on how the planning, remembering, and constant "Wait, did I forget something?" is stealing your peace. Enough is enough! It’s time to stop being the default manager of everything. Hilary will guide you on how to resign as household CEO without the drama or side-eye. Hilary’s four-step freedom plan: from rallying the troops at a family meeting to letting others take over (even if it's not done your way), she's making shared responsibilities a reality. Perfect is so last season! Hilary reveals why embracing "good enough" is the secret to a joyful, stress-free holiday season. Prioritize your own joy and accept that done is better than perfect. Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Holiday Stress [00:52] Meet Hilary Silver [02:03] What is Mental Load? [05:05] Step 1: Decision to Change [06:08] Step 2: Internal Boundary [07:02] Step 3: Communicating Change [08:04] Step 4: Listing and Delegating Tasks [12:29] Embracing Good Enough [14:24] Prioritizing Your Own Joy Ready to reclaim your holidays and actually enjoy them? It's time to spread the responsibilities—and the cheer. Just because you've been the go-to gal doesn't mean you have to keep carrying it all. Snag Hilary’s free video training, This Changes Everything, at hilarysilver.com/subscribe and make this holiday season truly about YOU.
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Everyone says the holidays are the most wonderful time of the year, but for many people, especially women, it's the most stressful time of the year. And it can be more stressful than joyful. It's like you're carrying all the responsibility of making sure the magic happens on your shoulders.
All the decor looking just right, every gift for all of your people, every meal, every moment of cheer, all on you. There's a term for this. No, it's not hostess with the mostest like we said back in the 50s. It's actually called the mental load. And if you're the one carrying it, it can really be a party pooper.
So today we're talking about what mental load actually is, and more importantly, how to lighten the load this holiday season and beyond so you can actually enjoy yourself too. Hi, it's Hillary. Welcome to the Hillary Silver Podcast. Thanks for tuning into the conversation today.
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Just in the last few years, we're hearing conversations about mental load. And I don't know who came up with that phrase, but thank you, whoever you are. Because language is powerful and just having words to label something that has really been going on for decades is a game changer. It validates our experiences and allows us to have more productive conversations about it.
So mental load is the invisible burden of remembering all the things that that need to happen in order to keep a family or household flowing and functioning. It goes beyond doing all the work of getting things done, which is a major issue on its own, but it's remembering and keeping a mental catalog and a checklist and a timeline, keeping track of everything that needs to be done.
It's the planning, the organizing, the preparing, the remembering, the anticipating. Who needs to be where and when? What's for dinner? Did the dog get vaccinated?
And holiday time just compounds the list because all of the gift giving and the parties and the dinners and the decor and all the outfits, all the shoulds that are going on when it's supposed to be fun can leave us exhausted and spent, maybe even creating a love-hate relationship with the holiday season. Are you nodding your head right now?
While the mental load can be shared, let's face it, most of the time, women carry the majority of it. I definitely needed this language years ago because I too was feeling crushed under the weight of my mental load. And despite my best efforts to explain it to my husband, it didn't really shift enough. I literally used to tell him,
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