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Everybody coming at you from beautiful Colorado on vacation with the family. I have to say that 2024 has been absolutely wild. We started this podcast, which tried to number one for three entire weeks. I finished my book, which releases in a few months. And I got to speak at NASA and tons of other cities I've never been before. All I can say is a huge congratulations.
Thank you to every one of you who supported me and followed me along the way. In a wrap up 2024, I put together your top three most listened to episodes of season one of the Jefferson Fisher podcast. I'm eternally grateful for you and I'll be having a wonderful end to the year. Today, we're talking about how to respond to rude comments.
Those moments you're caught off guard by something that wasn't nice. Do you say something? Do you not say something? What do you say? All that and more coming right up. The next time someone makes a rude comment towards you, here's what I want you to do. Number one, begin your response with the phrase, did you mean? It's a question of intent. We're going to go into detail on that. Did you mean?
Number two, if it's a more passive aggressive type of rude comment. In other words, it's not directly at you. It's more off to the side. And you know and they know it was meant for you. We're going to have questions that check them. These are questions like, did I offend you in some way? Or are you doing all right? It sounds like you're having a hard day.
There are ways that you can check them without coming across like you're also wanting to be rude. And number three, my personal favorite response to a rude comment is,
is nothing at all you respond with absolute silence but there's a technique and a trick on how to do it correctly and here's the thing about rude comments they're tests there are ways for the other person to test and assess what your temperature is can they get a reaction out of you or not. So I want you to pretend it's like a card game. You have a set of cards, they have a set of cards.
When they first make that rude comment, they're playing a two. You have a choice, do I play this game or do I not? Maybe you decide that you want to. You're gonna lay a four. Or they're gonna lay another rude comment and then they play a seven. And you go, okay, how far do I push this? How far do we go in these rude comments between one another?
And that's a bad game to play because nobody wins, right? Everybody's going to lose in that game. One of you is going to have to apologize, and it's typically the person who plays the last card. Whoever says the worst thing that shuts the game down is typically the person who is now the responsibility to apologize first. when you can end it all by just not playing the game.
Rude comments are like platforms to where if they say something rude and you say something rude, well, you've now just justified them in taking another step. You've now justified and convinced them that you are every bit... of the comment that they just made. Because now, instead of being curious about it and saying, hey, where's this coming from?
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