You’re in a conversation, and someone turns it into their personal monologue. They just keep talking and talking—totally dominating the conversation. It’s frustrating. But you don’t have to sit through it. In this episode, I’m sharing 3 ways to handle people who dominate conversations. You’ll learn how to interrupt confidently, redirect the conversation, and set clear boundaries to protect your time and energy. These strategies will help you take charge and create space for everyone to be heard. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Pre-order my new book, The Next Conversation, today! Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. Watch my podcast on YouTube Follow me on Instagram Follow me on LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Now, we all know people that no matter the conversation, they always find a way to talk about themselves. And even if it's not about themselves, it always seems to be their voice that takes up the entire conversation. On today's episode, we're discussing how to handle people who dominate conversations.
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When it comes to somebody dominating a conversation, and not in the good way, as in they're not letting anybody else speak. They're the ones always having to hear their own voice. There's some things I need you to do. Number one, interrupt them. You interrupt that person. Now, I know it doesn't sound like me to suggest that, but it's true.
Because if they're not going to respect your time, then you have to do it. And there's a particular way I want you to do that. You interrupt them by using their name. You start low and then you go higher because people listen to their name. Their name gets their attention. It's the best word they can ever hear is their name.
So if I were to hear you and I or somebody was listening to me and I just said, hey, Jefferson, Jefferson, Jefferson. You say it as often and as loud as you need to because it will eventually make them stop. Number two, when they do stop, I want you to filter and pass it. Here's what I mean.
Filter as in you're going to summarize what they just said very quickly and then pass it to somebody else to say, hey, I totally hear you. I understand what you're just saying. I'm curious to hear what Bob has to say or what Susie has to say or you turn it on yourself. My thoughts are, and number three, if they're still dominating the conversation, then you've got to put a time limit on it.
You have to find a way to get out of there because you're not reaching them. So it's as easy as saying, hey, I've got about five more minutes and then I need to get going. I need to do other things. But time limit is the only way to make sure that they're just going to continue to talk as long as they have an audience. And at the end of it, you just have to understand...
When somebody is dominating the conversation, it's not a two-way street. It's a one-way street. It's a monologue, and you didn't buy a ticket to hear it. So if they're not going to respect the way conversations should happen, it's time that you respect yourself. And most of the time, these kind of scenarios happen in meetings. Zoom meeting, in-person meeting, it doesn't matter.
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