The Relationship Check-In You Didn’t Know You Needed
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What reflections does Valentine's Day bring about relationships?
What's going on, my friends? Welcome back to the Ryan League podcast, where we keep it short and sweet. It is Valentine's Day, my friends. Love it or hate it, here it is. This holiday, it has a way of being pretty polarizing for a lot of people. If you're single, it's the world's loudest reminder that you are indeed that. If you're happily married, you get to celebrate that.
What are the different relationship statuses mentioned?
If you're divorced, well, what were once good memories might now feel like bad ones. Then there are some of you in what we call a situationship. Now, if you don't know what a situationship is, allow me to explain. It's that kind of, sort of relationship. You know, the one where you're more than just friends, but less than an official couple. You hang out. You talk all the time.
What is a situationship?
There might even be deep emotional or physical involvement, but there's no clarity. There's no labels, no long-term vision. It's like being in a romantic limbo, stuck somewhere in between. We're just talking, and this is my person.
How has Ryan's marriage evolved over the years?
But regardless of your relationship status, I want to share something with you today that I believe is going to add value to every relationship you have, whether it's your spouse, your friends, your family, or your colleagues. And I'm learning it from my beautiful wife, who I have been married to for 12 years this June. Now, for my wife and I, our life today is drastically different. than it was when we first started dating in Atlanta in 2008. Wow. That is, wow. Oh my goodness. We have, let me think about this. We've been together 17 years. I mean, we've been together, together, married 12, but 17 years, that's a long time. And you go back to 2008 and scoot on up here to 2025, two kids later, evolving careers, growing responsibilities.
We are not the same people that we were when we first said, I do. Especially not who we were on our first date at Wendy's in Midtown Atlanta. My goodness. Y'all, I'm having a little bit of nostalgia right now. And I'm also thinking about my girl. She's so pretty. I love her. Now, here's the deal.
What is the importance of staying in tune with relationship needs?
As long as Amanda and I have been together, despite all of the changes that both of us have had in our lives individually and as we have had as a family, Here's what my wife has done so well that I think, if we can get this, I believe it can add value to any relationship you got. Here's what she does well. She stays in tune with what I need in every season. See, it's easy to assume that once someone tells you what they need, that's just what they'll need forever. But the reality is, We change. You see, what I needed in 2008 when we were dating is completely different than what I need today. What I needed from my wife in 2016 is different than what I needed during a pandemic. Even what I needed last year is different than what I need this year.
How do relationship needs change over time?
Some years, I needed encouragement. Other years, I actually needed space. At times, I needed a cheerleader. Other times, I needed a challenger. as God has expanded my influence, there's times where I need more deeper emotional support. But the key to staying connected, well, it hasn't been about her guessing my needs. It's been about her asking. And my friends, this isn't just about marriage.
Why is asking the right questions vital in relationships?
This applies to every relationship in your life. I want you to think about your friends, your colleagues, your family, your boyfriend, your girlfriend, your situationship. Begin to ask yourself, do you know what they need in this particular season? Or are you still assuming they need what they needed last year? I want you to think about friends you used to be close to.
How can we reconnect with friends and family?
Maybe you've grown apart for a variety of reasons. Maybe moving to different cities, career changes, different life priorities, or even just the natural drift that happens when you stop checking in regularly. And when you try to reconnect, you may find yourself trying to connect around an old need rather than where they are right now. What used to be life-giving to them may now actually be draining. The dynamic has shifted. And I want you to know that that's okay, but one of the best gifts you can give the people in your life is understanding their season and looking for ways to add value to the season that they're in right now without holding them prisoner to how you used to add value in a previous season.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What reflections does Valentine's Day bring about relationships?
0:01–0:33
2
What are the different relationship statuses mentioned?
0:33–1:01
3
What is a situationship?
1:01–1:18
4
How has Ryan's marriage evolved over the years?
1:18–2:43
5
What is the importance of staying in tune with relationship needs?
2:43–3:43
6
How do relationship needs change over time?
3:43–4:15
7
Why is asking the right questions vital in relationships?
4:15–4:40
8
How can we reconnect with friends and family?
4:40–10:23