In this episode, I did something different. I asked ChatGPT to tell me the truth—what’s it like to be on the other side of me? What followed was some of the most honest, insightful, and slightly uncomfortable feedback I’ve gotten in a while.We talk about how feedback—even from AI—can hold up a mirror, reveal patterns we miss, and challenge us to grow. If you’re willing to ask the hard questions and sit with the honest answers, this one’s for you.
Chapter 1: What is the importance of self-awareness?
Hey, welcome to the Ryan League Podcast, where we keep things short and sweet to add value to your life in very, very practical ways. Today's episode is a little bit different, and it perhaps is one of the most important episodes that I have recorded.
There is a question that I use all the time in my personal life and in my professional life, whether I'm sitting with friends or talking with executives from a Fortune 100 company or healthcare teams, HR leaders, professional sports teams, I always end up talking about a particular question that points us towards self-awareness.
And it is this question, what's it like to be on the other side of me? Do you have any idea what on earth it is like to be on the other side of you, on the other side of a meeting with you, on the other side of a reply all from you, on the other side of being your family member, your brother, your sister, your parent? Do you know what it's like to be led by you, hired by you, fired by you?
I just know so many people that live and work decades of their life and they never pause to consider what on earth it is like to be on the other side of them. And I think it's a very, very powerful question. It's a very, very powerful tool that I think when we really consider that there is often a gap between how we think other people experience us versus how they actually experience us.
And we will never know the truth until we're willing to ask the question, what's it like to be on the other side of me to somebody that is actually on the other side of us? Now, this is a question that I've asked many people in my life, and it's always interesting to get different answers. But recently, I basically got a new employee that is very, very, very smart. And no, I did not hire a person.
I started using ChatGPT like the rest of the world. And I started using this tool like a team member because let's be real, it's that good. I mean, it helps me do so many things. It helps me plan. It helps me organize. It helps me create. It helps me communicate. And it just saves me so much time, especially time that I get to reinvest into my family and my own health and things that
I value the most. And so I figured, why not ask my newest employee the same question that I ask everyone else? So I went to chat GPT and did a sort of a what's it like to be on the other side of me exercise. And I gave it Four prompts, and I'm going to take you through what those four prompts were. The first prompt was, I asked ChatGPT how it would describe my leadership style.
Now, here's what ChatGPT told me. Now, you can understand ChatGPT has gotten thousands of prompts from me from helping me craft emails or posts. social media content, whatnot. So this entity, this intelligence knows me very well. Here's what it said. It said, hey, Ryan, you are a visionary leader, driven, clear, focused, and intentional.
It also said that I lead with strategy, communicate directly, and have high expectations. It also said that I move fast, execute efficiently, and care about impact, that I empower people without micromanaging, and I create momentum for those around me. But it It also said that my speed and high standards might overwhelm some people and that if they're not keeping up, they might feel lost.
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Chapter 2: What is the question that promotes self-awareness?
And again, I'll put all of these in the show notes so that you can go through a similar exercise if you leverage ChatGPT as well. Here was a fourth prompt. I said, hey, ChatGPT, what's the thing I need to hear that I may not want? What's the thing that I need to hear? that I may not want to hear. Here's what it told me. It says you may need to slow down for others to catch up.
Not because they're incapable, but because greatness doesn't always move at the speed of your ideas. You might think speed is a gift, and it is. But patience? Patience might be the gift that makes your speed sustainable for others. Not everyone needs you to be faster. They need you to be present. What? That one got me because it's true.
Speed has always been my superpower, but if I'm not careful, it can also become my kryptonite. What good is a vision if no one can keep up with it? What good is momentum if no one has time to process it? So here's the truth. You don't have to be a CEO to ask this question. You don't have to be in leadership.
You can be a parent, a spouse, a friend, a coworker, a student, and you can still go decades, decades without ever considering what it's like to be on the other side of you. And here's the deal. I love asking people how work is going or how marriage is going. And you know what most people say? It's good. Yeah, it's good.
And then I just I love following up with it and saying, well, but how do you know? Because there's no way for you to really know unless you're asking the question, what's it like to be on the other side of you? Because the truth is, we'll often say everything's going good according to our vantage point, according to our perception. But the only way for you to know.
if your perception is an actual reality, is if you're willing to ask the people who live and work on the other side of you. I love... Ken Blanchard, author of The One Minute Manager, he says this, feedback is the breakfast of champions. I love that. Feedback is the breakfast of champions. But the problem is, most of us treat feedback like Brussels sprouts. We avoid it. We dodge it.
We pretend we're fine without it. But if you want to grow, if you want to take your life to the next level, you have got to get comfortable at the feedback table. Because people who ask for feedback aren't weak. They're just hungry for growth. So here's your challenge. I want you to reach out to three to five people in your life. Could be friends, could be colleagues, could be family members.
And I want you to ask them, hey, What's it like to be on the other side of me? You don't have to be perfect. You just have to be curious, curious enough to grow. And if you interact with AI like I do, go ahead and ask it too. You might be surprised by what it has to say because becoming a better version of you doesn't start with proving that you're right. It starts with being willing to listen.
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