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How's it going? Hi, I'm Josephine and I'm 31 years old and I'm struggling to stop comparing my very old toxic relationship to my very happy new one.
So you're in a relationship?
I am, yes.
What do you compare the most? Describe what you mean by comparing.
Yeah, I can give some context. So me and my current partner have been together for about eight months. He's amazing. He's definitely the healthiest person I've ever been with. He is so kind. It's insane. I'm so in love with him. But what ends up happening, so my prior relationship that I find myself comparing... he had a lot of like drinking problems to say the least.
And I find myself like anytime my current partner is like a little intoxicated, he's, I mean, he drinks a lot, but not in large amounts, if that makes sense. So like, he's like a beer a day kind of guy. And I find myself just getting triggered by it. Like I get really irritated and I'm not very nice about it.
okay well it's good to recognize yeah which is honestly it's very hypocritical because i'm i'm like i'm i could probably say i'm a fairly big drinker i'm in liquor sales so i am around alcohol like every single day and i socially drink quite a bit
Okay. What else? I mean, is that the big, is there anything else that you're comparing? Or is that just the real?
I think that's honestly the biggest thing. And then, I mean, it kind of causes me to spiral a little bit. And then I'll go into a little hole of other comparisons that I really, in the right state of mind, I don't think are fair. But when I'm in that spiral moment, I will go to those dark places and compare really little things.
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