Aaron Machbitz

So those are not the solutions or anything that will remotely help men become the best versions of themselves in greatest service to the world, because really that's what men are here for, to be in greatest service to the world, to be leaders and husbands and

and fathers and community leaders and guides and role models and coaches and people who actively try to change the world for the better.

I mean, my number one goal as a human being, what I sort of filter all my thoughts and actions through is how can I leave this world a little bit better than I found it?

And I'm hoping to teach that to my son.

I'm hoping to teach that to the people that I coach.

And that's how I'm hoping to live my life.

I can model that behavior to the best of my ability.

And so

What we desperately need aren't those crap solutions that I mentioned, but we desperately need to separate performative masculinity from the real thing, from genuine, true masculinity.

Because at this point, um,

All we see online is the performative masculinity.

Yes, there are some great accounts online of real dads and real men doing really cool, great shit and posting awesome content.

I follow a lot of these great dads and great men and great leaders.

But what overtakes that is the performative masculinity.

That's what overtakes that is the performative masculinity that a lot of young men are getting attracted to.

And they think that's the blueprint for real success in this world, which it is not.

That's why it is performative.

It is the WWE version of masculinity.

And to point out the absurdity of the former.

while offering examples of the latter is really where we need to go, right?