Adam Coleman
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Well, politically and socially, I'm actually pretty optimistic. I've seen a cultural shift from when I started writing in 2020. Things seem to be calmer, which sounds weird because we saw these protests over the weekend. But the rational people are starting to get more of a voice and the irrational people are very upset about it. But that group of people is smaller.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
But the thing that I am concerned about, which is why I wrote this book, and it's very timely for this book to come out, is because repeatedly I would write these articles, like for example, for the New York Post talking about the Uvalde shooter, where he was having mental issues, but he had a break once he stopped seeing his father due to COVID. And I wanted to talk about these different things.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Mass shooter statistics, the vast majority of them come from divorce of single parent homes. This is a common, common thread. And I just kept seeing it come up over and over. And I would use my story as an example where I'm empathizing. I understand, even though their actions are heinous, I understand their beginning.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
And so my biggest thing right now is trying to do the best that I can to stem the tide of bad parental decisions, reunification of families. I've been very fortunate to talk to fathers who, yes, they made mistakes, but they're trying to get back into their children's lives and their children have put walls up.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
And I'm trying to give them strategies where they can be accountable for what they did, ask for forgiveness, and be patient with their kids so they can be back in their lives. And that would cause so much healing. And I can't tell you how many kids, all they really need is to know that their parents love them and that their parents are proud of them.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
And so I think our country, you know, actually throughout the West, we need a lot of healing. So that's the thing that I'm mostly worried about.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Not as of yet. I made it public last year that I'm a Christian now. I was baptized in Georgia. And I am trying to be closer to the ministry, trying to have more of an influence to talk about this message because ultimately this is whether you're secular or not, it is a biblical message. The importance of the family is a godly importance as well.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
And so, you know, I do list my testimony within the book in the context of, you know, when I was very young, the Bible was in my hand and I understood scripture. But experiencing mental anguish, experiencing homelessness, constantly moving, I thought God abandoned me just like my father. And then it took me decades.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
You know, I'm 40 years old now, but it took me until last year, I was 39 when I was finally baptized and finally fully reunited with my God. So this is a common, common thing. I watch a lot of testimonies of coming to Christ. It's very common to see these people start off with their story of family separation, whether it's through divorce or single parenthood.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
and taking decades to come back to Christ. And they are lost in chasing idolatry and money, sex, drugs, you name it, coping with all different types of traumas, ultimately to finally come back. But they're the lucky ones who actually do come back.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Yeah, it is very interesting. And actually, it's a good point that you bring up because this isn't a new thing. It's not like my generation is the first generation to deal with this. A lot of the relationship dynamics, and actually you've seen it on the online world, how negative they talk about men and women as far as dating goes. A lot of that has to do with fear.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
A lot of that has to do with what they've seen at home. And so when you ask these young people, well, why don't they want to get married? It's because they saw how their parents conducted themselves. Marriage to them is- Absolutely.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Yeah, that's exactly it. It is a piece of paper, but there's meaning behind it. You're putting skin in the game, but on top of that, it's an institution so we can raise our families. Most people, their objective of getting married is to start a family, or at least that's what it used to be. But now we see marriage as some sort of business deal. What do I get from it?
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Does this person have all the attributes? Everything is a job interview. But even beyond that, there are a lot of young people who are scared to enter marriage, scared to enter long-term relationships because they've watched their parents get burned in some particular way. They've watched someone get abused.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Right. They've lost hope in relationships. Yeah, what were you going to say?
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Yeah, exactly. And the last thing I'll just leave off with. I do want people to have hope. I think hope is incredibly important. It's what tethers us to life. And losing hope and having sustainable families, finding a sustainable relationship is something that is incredibly detrimental. And so I'm a prime example of someone who finally did get married, happily married.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
I can't see myself with anyone else. And yes, it took me a while because I had to improve myself to find someone who was suitable.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Thank you. Appreciate it.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Yeah, that's exactly right. The most important parent to a child is the same sex parent. And if we're looking at violence, predominantly it comes from the men. So the boys grow up and they either don't have a model within their home or they're, like you said, they have a model of a abusive father figure that they repeat. And so this is basically the outcome.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
And a lot of times that violent outburst is a result of being frustrated. Maybe they're not being seen. Maybe they're looking for attention. Maybe something is physically or sexually happening to them.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
so these are various reasons as to why they start going into a in a violent path on top of that you have external influences so gang culture for example it's a way for young men to feel some sort of camaraderie to have some sort of direction there's usually an older male model within that group of young men who instructs the younger boys
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
So there's usually something that ties to it, starting from their home, their home life. And I always say a happy child isn't conducting themselves in a violent manner. So something is going on.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Well, see, that's the thing, I don't get a lot of pushback about it because people know this, they understand this. It's just that it's a massive problem and to resolve it, it's about looking at ourselves as the individual. As each individual family has to take responsibility for their conduct and even more so how they approach family planning.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
And much of what I've been writing about is talking about parental selfishness, making family about the adults instead of the children. So the adults get to act like children, they get to act whimsical, sleep with whoever, procreate without a plan, and chase all types of dreams that they want.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
And the children are expected to respond like adults, just understand adult dynamics, adult relationships, and they just get dragged along because mommy or daddy makes a choice and they have to deal with it.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
That's exactly it. I think we've lost one of the most important aspects of love and when it comes to relationships, and it's the willingness to sacrifice. And that's what we're supposed to do for our children. We're supposed to sacrifice for them.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
And a lot of these marriages, I mean, I'm sure you've dealt with this, where you're listening to their problems and you're like, I mean, yes, it's a problem, but you can resolve it. But someone is hellbent on separating the family and someone has too much pride. Someone is seeing maybe they already started looking outside the marriage and they just want to end it so they can start over.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
But they're thinking about everything else except sacrificing their pride, their ego, their sexual appetite, sacrificing those things for their children. And so what I'm trying to encourage is before you make a rash decision, Or a big decision, maybe something that you've thought about for quite some time. Have you thought about it from your child's perspective?
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Because I think as adults, we forget what it's like to be a kid. And your parents are your world. And when you divorce, it's literally like the world splitting in half. And that's a detrimental thing to experience.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Yes, that's correct. I do think having an outside male role model can be beneficial. And what you explained before, as far as the pushback from single mothers, I think the difference is that I'm a product of a single parent home. I'm the exact child who grew up without his father.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
And I explain the adverse effects for me, dealing with mental health issues, being admitted into a mental hospital at the age of eight for suicidal ideation. Like all these different things, suffering from this, this is a byproduct of a chaotic life stemming from single parenthood.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
You know, ending up homeless twice as a child, watching my mother struggle because she's the only one taking care of us and she's a single income earner. And there is no superhero, you know, cheer that you can give my mother and no one would wish that a woman, especially me, I would never wish for a woman to go through what my mother went through to take care of us.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Yeah, I started writing about race and obviously my first book, Black Victor and Black Victor, talking about race and being more open about it. The reason I started commenting on DEI was because after George Floyd, everyone pretended that wanting a colorblind society was improbable and that there was something wrong with that.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
And then all of a sudden we must, on a very superficial level, treat each other, give each other benefits, or go after someone simply because of their skin color, which is the opposite lesson we were supposed to learn from the civil rights movement. The civil rights movement was about blanket discrimination. It didn't matter. It wasn't, well, you can't discriminate against the blacks.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
It was discrimination, period. And so the lesson that I learned as a child, primarily growing up in the late 80s and 90s, is that we were supposed to look at each other as individuals. And that black person might be a good person, might be a bad person. That white person might be good or bad.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
They're an individual, and they're allowed to express themselves in a particular way, and I can judge them by their character. But with DEI, it makes everything incredibly superficial, and it's also tinged with racism, but in more of a condescending tone towards black people. So even the white progressives who are championing black Americans like me
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
There is a tinge of racism, a bigotry of low expectation that they still place upon me because they have to do it for me because I'm incapable of doing it because of the quote-unquote system.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Yeah, I think it's important to look at the progress. I think that's what makes me proud to be an American is the progress. So even if I was to grant every narrative that they have pre-civil rights era back into slavery and all of that, even if I was to grant America was this horrible place, let's just say they're 100% true. Well, today it isn't. Today it's a land of progress.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
And even in my lifetime, I've seen things gradually get better for someone like myself. And not just on the superficial level, like look at, we had a black president and all this other stuff. I'm just saying that when I look at the average person in my life, and I have people in my family who are professionals, lawyers, they work for city governments, just a wide range.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
And they live good lives, and they're appreciative, and they're positive people. And they're not angry 24-7, but they're not oblivious that, yes, some racists out there exist. But I'll say that most people live in one area their entire life, and they deal with racism.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
some sort of people maybe in your area it's terrible but by virtue of having that unstable home we've lived in four states i've lived in five states actually in total four states uh before the age of 18 i've been a rural urban and suburban areas and the amount of racist situations that i've personally dealt with i can fit on one hand
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Well, that's Thomas Sowell. That's over my shoulder.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Yeah.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
Yeah, so that's someone who is admirable. You know, I look at people who are personally in my life. I look at people that I've met since becoming a writer, successful people, like just a wide variety of people. So I don't have one particular person. I take hope from everybody and And the positives of different people, the positive attributes of different people, I learn from.
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DEI Discrimination Is Immoral & Finally Illegal – So Its Promoters Are Hiding Under New Names w/ Adam Coleman & Tommy Carrigan – Ask Dr. Drew – Ep 473
My big thing is the human experience is about always learning and learning from different perspectives. I've traveled to multiple countries around the world, made friends in these different places, and I always learn something from them. Whether I agree with it or maybe it takes me time to understand their perspective is a different story. But I think that I try my best to learn from everyone.