Adam Grant

That most people take most setbacks in stride because we have what's called a psychological immune system. Just like a physical immune system, our minds generate antibodies to help us make sense, find meaning, and move forward. And that doesn't mean these things don't hurt. But it also means that we're less broken by our own mistakes and setbacks than we think we are.

That most people take most setbacks in stride because we have what's called a psychological immune system. Just like a physical immune system, our minds generate antibodies to help us make sense, find meaning, and move forward. And that doesn't mean these things don't hurt. But it also means that we're less broken by our own mistakes and setbacks than we think we are.

Yeah, I mean, look, Adam would know. Dan Gilbert was his mentor. I love his blog, Experimental History. He's phenomenal, dude. I love that guy. Yeah, his insights are fascinating and the writing is just so engaging and entertaining. And I think this is a fundamental truth, right? Which is we are really bad at mental time travel.

Yeah, I mean, look, Adam would know. Dan Gilbert was his mentor. I love his blog, Experimental History. He's phenomenal, dude. I love that guy. Yeah, his insights are fascinating and the writing is just so engaging and entertaining. And I think this is a fundamental truth, right? Which is we are really bad at mental time travel.

Yeah, I mean, look, Adam would know. Dan Gilbert was his mentor. I love his blog, Experimental History. He's phenomenal, dude. I love that guy. Yeah, his insights are fascinating and the writing is just so engaging and entertaining. And I think this is a fundamental truth, right? Which is we are really bad at mental time travel.

So we talked about going backward to get in touch with your past self. The other thing you can do is you can fast forward and think about your future self. And what most people realize when they think about, okay, how much will 20 years in the future me really care about the presentation that I'm giving tomorrow?

So we talked about going backward to get in touch with your past self. The other thing you can do is you can fast forward and think about your future self. And what most people realize when they think about, okay, how much will 20 years in the future me really care about the presentation that I'm giving tomorrow?

So we talked about going backward to get in touch with your past self. The other thing you can do is you can fast forward and think about your future self. And what most people realize when they think about, okay, how much will 20 years in the future me really care about the presentation that I'm giving tomorrow?

or the bad performance review that I got yesterday, it gives you a little bit of perspective, right? That distance allows you to say, you know what? I'm probably not going to care that much. And you can do it moving sort of back and forth between the past and the present. Think about the failure that you just agonized over a year ago or three years ago. How often do you think about it now?

or the bad performance review that I got yesterday, it gives you a little bit of perspective, right? That distance allows you to say, you know what? I'm probably not going to care that much. And you can do it moving sort of back and forth between the past and the present. Think about the failure that you just agonized over a year ago or three years ago. How often do you think about it now?

or the bad performance review that I got yesterday, it gives you a little bit of perspective, right? That distance allows you to say, you know what? I'm probably not going to care that much. And you can do it moving sort of back and forth between the past and the present. Think about the failure that you just agonized over a year ago or three years ago. How often do you think about it now?

Does it eat away at you every day? For the most part, the answer is no. Although just in the spirit of candor, the dive I missed my senior year state meet still bothers me occasionally. Still haunts you? Yeah. God damn it. It was my best dive. I can't believe I missed my front two and a half. But it's also a really good reminder that unpleasant emotions are teachable moments.

Does it eat away at you every day? For the most part, the answer is no. Although just in the spirit of candor, the dive I missed my senior year state meet still bothers me occasionally. Still haunts you? Yeah. God damn it. It was my best dive. I can't believe I missed my front two and a half. But it's also a really good reminder that unpleasant emotions are teachable moments.

Does it eat away at you every day? For the most part, the answer is no. Although just in the spirit of candor, the dive I missed my senior year state meet still bothers me occasionally. Still haunts you? Yeah. God damn it. It was my best dive. I can't believe I missed my front two and a half. But it's also a really good reminder that unpleasant emotions are teachable moments.

That pain is there to teach me a lesson. It's a tutorial in better preparation. It's a seminar in managing pressure. And the lessons that I learned missing my best dive in the biggest meet of my life have helped me avoid making much bigger mistakes when the stakes are much higher.

That pain is there to teach me a lesson. It's a tutorial in better preparation. It's a seminar in managing pressure. And the lessons that I learned missing my best dive in the biggest meet of my life have helped me avoid making much bigger mistakes when the stakes are much higher.

That pain is there to teach me a lesson. It's a tutorial in better preparation. It's a seminar in managing pressure. And the lessons that I learned missing my best dive in the biggest meet of my life have helped me avoid making much bigger mistakes when the stakes are much higher.

If it's not, I think you probably haven't done justice to the opportunity to grow from what went wrong. I think that... I'm a big fan of learning from success, not just from failure, but empirically failure is a better teacher on average than success.

If it's not, I think you probably haven't done justice to the opportunity to grow from what went wrong. I think that... I'm a big fan of learning from success, not just from failure, but empirically failure is a better teacher on average than success.

If it's not, I think you probably haven't done justice to the opportunity to grow from what went wrong. I think that... I'm a big fan of learning from success, not just from failure, but empirically failure is a better teacher on average than success.