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Adam Lane Smith

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
1176 total appearances

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Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

We're loving it.

Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

It's an adventure every day.

Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

You know, that's a great question.

Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

The research on this is really interesting.

Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

So about 100 years ago, in the early 1900s, 1910s, 1920s, the marrying age was not as bad as most people think, typically, the average age.

Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

Most people were getting married late teens, early 20s sort of thing is what they were doing.

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Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

As the 1930s, 1940s, 1950s rolled on, what we saw was a plunging in the marriage ages down into mid-teens because people were so destitute they were getting married just to get out and find someone else who could feed them and take care of their bills.

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Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

So we saw a crash in the 1950s.

Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

1950s is nothing compared to

Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

traditionalism.

Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

1950s is not a model anyone should ever use for anything, by the way.

Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

But it plunged and then it went back up to late teens, early 20s.

Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

Right now, we're seeing that most couples who have success are getting married maybe in their late 20s.

Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

And part of that's because it's taking so much longer to learn skills, so much longer to undo trauma, so much longer to try to get financially safe and get to a place where we can.

Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

We're delaying it from college, which adds another four to six years.

Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

We're afraid to talk to each other.

Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

So we even have to overcome that barrier.

Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

There's so many things adding in right now.

Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

But we do see that late 20s and early 30s is where most people right now are having a sweet spot.

Digital Social Hour
Adam Lane Smith: Attachment Styles Are Ruining Modern Relationships | DSH #1751

Wow.