Alex Bennett

I just think like to put them on the same level, I'd need to see the studies behind that because that doesn't line up to me at face value.

And to be clear, I think both are good.

I just think one is better than the other.

I was looking at her feet this weekend and her feet are just like so big.

And like when we go and now compare it to newborn, but I don't know.

Once again, I do wonder how different we're going to feel because like there is another baby at our house five to seven days a week or where we're at their house.

So like,

that baby goes home no no i i'm not saying in terms of the psychological and the behavioral side of things which i do think will be reduced i'm also saying in terms of like we see tate beside yates pretty much every day like we see her giving him hugs and kisses and so like

where I just kind of like to bring it back to the initial question is what is the pre we're a month out.

So if we're going to do the pre stuff, we probably got to start it now.

So my question on that is what are the one or two things we should be doing?

If anyone has, has good advice, I'm good going either way on this.

If we don't give her responsibility ahead of time, I'm not overly concerned.

And part of why I'm not overly concerned is because she does interact with another baby every single day.

Well, there's that great study that you sent over.

Yeah, my brain kind of went somewhere different because it was kind of back to something that you said a little earlier.

I do think it is unique how much time Tate from like month three has spent with other babies.

And so I'm very curious how this transition will be relative to how it is in most situations.

And I could see a world where the way she interacts with our new child is very different than one would traditionally expect.

If, if there's an overwhelming amount of, of like either positive supporting data behind it or, you know, friends that we, um, friends that suggest it, I'm all good for it.