Alex Tarnava

They've been put in a position where they're forced to do an evil thing.

It's dangerous ground.

I think most people are inherently good people, but they're forced to do bad things.

And then they justify it because they don't want to introspect and come to terms with the decision they were pushed into making.

So true.

Done that?

And that's my thought.

In the book, I write deeply about guilt and shame.

And I believe that they need to be confronted.

We need to feel them very deeply.

for an acute period and keep that scar that memory of them so that we don't do it again but not carry it with us forward because if we carry it forward it becomes a chronic stress that drags us down but we need to feel it so intensely that we are dissuaded from ever behaving like that again that's so well said so like you know my story i went to prison and um

And that's why we shouldn't be thinking about regret.

We should be thinking, are you happy right now?

Do you like who you are today?

Yeah.

If you like who you are today, then you have to be thankful for all your mistakes and all the trauma of the past.

Because you wouldn't be you today without that.

I wouldn't have met my wife.

I don't know what the hell I would have been doing.

You could be a lot worse, right?