Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

They effectively make such a big universal sweeping statement to shut down anything you said.

And that kind of behavior obviously stops you from feeling comfortable or feeling like it is a safe space for you to ever bring up anything about their parenting.

Because instead of them being receptive, they then turn it on you saying, wow, just so you know, you've made me feel like a shit parent.

I obviously wasn't good enough.

Obviously, I wasn't good enough.

And you're going to

They have to be the victim.

So instead of accountability, it's victim.

Victim, victim, victim.

Number three.

If they can't be happy, then no one else can be happy.

So if you're at a family event, if you're going to visit your parents or say you grew up in the household with your parents, if this individual who was a narcissist was in a bad mood, it is their job to ruin the vibe of the household so everyone feels uncomfortable, so everyone is walking on eggshells.

Everyone has to share in that bad mood with them.

And the vibes are so fucking off.

Instead of the person who's in a bad mood saying, guys, I'm having such an off day.

Can I just take an hour or two?

I'm just going to retreat or whatever it is.

But then still wanting your family members to enjoy it.

This is very different, mind you, if you've actually had a fight or an argument.

I'm talking about this person being in a bad mood, maybe because they had a fight with their partner.